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AIBU?

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AIBU to say to an 18 you've wasted your money then slap him on the head

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 15:10

£30 spent on World of Warcraft of his grant!

I'm i being unreasonable or is it ok for an 18 year old to spend his grant how he wants?

Part of me thinks 'he's 18 , it's his money don't fret' but the other part of me thinks 'you have just paid hard currency to a stupid game get a grip'

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GypsyMoth · 30/10/2011 15:38

He's an adult.... You hit him!

ThisIsANickname · 30/10/2011 15:39

He will soon learn though, when he wants to go out, and cant afford it...

::snirk:: People who spend £30 on WoW aren't too concerned about going out.

Trills · 30/10/2011 15:41

If he's 18 presumably he already knows that if he spends money on one thing he won't be able to also spend it on something else.

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 16:02

@Kayno why do you need new dragons in world of warcraft ? please educate me ..is it important ?

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 30/10/2011 16:03

ThisIsANickname. How true.

Creamola - don't worry about it. He's blown it on a game.

Just don't sub him.

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 16:14

@IloveTIFFANY i havn't hit him !!!!!!!!!!!!! ......i really want to though [hwink]

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catgirl1976 · 30/10/2011 16:19

Well if he is anything like the WoW players I know, he will now never leave his house so he has saved a fortune on nights out, dating, clothes, soap etc :)

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 17:06

haha at soap [hgrin]

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MadBanners · 30/10/2011 17:11

Well, tbh, gaming, is just another form of entertainment....people seem to think nothing of sitting in front of the tv for hours! My mom comes to visit, and we have to have Emmerdale, then Coronation street, then Eastenders etc... although she is quite scathing about my Dh who does indeed play WoW...but he does not watch TV a great deal, I can quite easily spend a few hours a night reading once the children are in bed....yet the only one that gets a "bad" reputation and made fun of is the gaming one. Sure it can be addictive, but about 99% of people use it is a form of entertainment, and do indeed still go out and have a life etc.

There are worse things he could spend his money on.

HoneyPablo · 30/10/2011 17:19

YABU
He is 18 and he needs to experience life and learning to manage money is a very important lesson to learn. A lesson that is best learnt from experience, not from advice or nagging or violence even.

ThisIsANickname · 30/10/2011 17:26

If I understand correctly, you were not posting here to ask if you were actually being unreasonable. You were posting here because you don't share his interest and wanted to be told you were right and he was wrong.

I'm sorry but YABU, for thinking you should have any say in how he spends his money and YABVU for thinking that just because you don't understand it that he shouldn't spend his money on it.

alemci · 30/10/2011 17:31

I can relate to what you are saying. My dd has a part time job, is 17 and so wasteful with money.

You probably think the £30 would be better spent on food or bills which it would be. He could manage without the game.

I must admit my parents were like this with me and I do it to my own dc. You are worried about him being in debt etc and he should spend his money more prudently. I totally understa

clagger · 30/10/2011 17:37

WOW is a bit addictive isn't it (based on my own ds anyway).I'd be more worried about him spending all his time on the game when he should be working, than about the cash tbh. But at least you know that he's unlikely to be out getting boozed up. Also less likely to have a girlfriend

Naoko · 30/10/2011 17:37

So he's not allowed to spend money on having fun, only on food and bills? Or is it the kind of fun you're objecting to? If he'd bought a DVD to watch, or a good book to read, would that have been ok? Is it just because you think games are a waste of time? He's 18, let him decide what he wants to do in his spare time - it really isn't up to you at this point.

[in the interest of full disclosure, I spend about £20 a month on online game subscriptions, although not WoW. I get vastly more entertainment out of this, time-wise, than I would going to the cinema twice, which would cost about the same.]

Temperatures · 30/10/2011 17:46

World of Warcraft? Thats that game about Pandas right?

FabbyChic · 30/10/2011 18:08

His money none of your business to be honest. Whilst he is playing that he isn't out getting pissed or into trouble, and even if he was he is an adult.

You also have to subscibe and pay monthly.

I tried to play it once but couldn't get off the first screen had no idea what to do. If I could get into it I would as it would pass the boring hours in my life.

Pocketsocks · 30/10/2011 19:23

Is that what he spent the £30 on? An in game dragon? As opposed to a copy of the game or subscribtion?

If that's the case he's already totally hooked and you should be very pleased it was only £30 and not £70 on a cuddley toy that looks like something in game for example! Like my FIL did

In my opinion, let him be, as others say, at least you know where he is and he has a hobby, even if its one that turns you into a zombie!

duckdodgers · 30/10/2011 19:29

creamola - Im in Scotland, I have an 18 year old son to - yet we dont have grants so I have no idea why you said "Scotland is a bit different to England"

You can get college bursaries for NC courses but anything HNC and above means applying for loans.

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 22:22

yes pocketsocks on a dragon ....it's exactly the same has his other 6 dragons except it's purple and silver?

I suppose I just think it's a waste of money but then I don't play WoW so perhaps he got value for his £30?

I was a bit 'you wasted £30 on a dragon?' but as others have pointed out it is his money...although I don't think grants are there to help folk play on line games?

It is a weird one

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 22:23

no duckdodgers he gets £290 a month from SASS

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ScaredBear · 30/10/2011 22:25

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Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie · 30/10/2011 22:28

hes an adult

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CreamolaFoamless · 30/10/2011 22:37

thats true scaredbear £60 on a night out I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

I think it's because he didn't earn the money and it comes from the state iyswim?

I have no idea what I would think 'reasonable' for him to spend the money on though (maybe clothes and shoes? and a cleaner for his bedroom!)

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JLK2 · 30/10/2011 23:14

I used to spend far more in video arcades when I was that age. I remember a friend putting £35 into Ridge Racer in an afternoon when that first came out, and that was all the money he had for the week.

lifechanger · 31/10/2011 05:09

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