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Am i being a prude...

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 13:38

... or is posting photos of your DCs in their undies on fb a bit odd?

A friend of a friend keeps putting them up and i was really quite taken aback. So much so that i've hidden her posts.
Don't get me wrong, i have nothing against people letting their kids be naked, in fact my DS seems to spend half his time running around the house in the nude! But i would never dream of putting the pictures up, i mean, i don't know her THAT well and it's so easy for other people to access fb accounts.
AIBU or is that just very inappropriate. Do you think i should say something?

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SkinnyWhiteBoy · 30/10/2011 13:40

How old are the kids?

Trills · 30/10/2011 13:40

Depends on whether they are 2 or 12.

Flubba · 30/10/2011 13:41

I'd say prude.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/10/2011 13:41

What age are the DC?

TheOriginalFAB · 30/10/2011 13:42

It doesn't make you a prude because you don't want to to see someone else's child in their underwear.

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 13:42

4 and 7

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valiumredhead · 30/10/2011 13:43

Hide her if it offends you.

usualsuspect · 30/10/2011 13:44

I would say prude

TeapotsInJune · 30/10/2011 13:46

It wouldn't bother me from a 'prudish' point of view; I wouldn't actually be offended personally.

However, I don't think it's particularly fair to the children to be honest. They may be young enough now that it won't bother them but I do think it's stripping them of their dignity to be perfectly honest.

colken · 30/10/2011 13:49

The trouble is, this sort of picture can attract unwelcome viewers. NO, you are not being a prude.

valiumredhead · 30/10/2011 13:50

Tbh it's neither here nor there wether you are a prude or not but you would be completely U to tell someone else what to post on their fb.

RebelFromTheWaistDown · 30/10/2011 13:51

Yes. You don't have to look at them.

BluddyMoFo · 30/10/2011 13:53

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AddamsflimFlamily · 30/10/2011 13:55

YANBU I think it's inappropriate, given how images of children are used on the internet. But of course you can't say anything, just choose not to do it yourself. It's nothing to do with prudery.

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 13:58

Ok, so perhaps 'prude' isn't the right word. I agree with colken, i'm more concerned. I probably won't say anything to her, but just really wanted to find out if this is the norm.
Bluddy, yeah, but she has about 400 friends, i can't believe that she knows ALL of them well.

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4madboys · 30/10/2011 13:58

well its her fb page and she will have the privacy settings set how she wants them to be, i am assuming?

so its her choice, i dont see a problem with it providing her privacy settings are tight. i am careful what pics i put up of my children on fb but that is my choice, i have posted pics of dd in her nappy and ds4 in pants tho Shock but am careful with my privacy settings.

her fb, her choice.

4madboys · 30/10/2011 13:59

peanut you can group your friends and only allow some of them to see pics etc, so not all 400 may be able to see the pictures.

Lookattheears · 30/10/2011 14:00

Oh dear saints.

What, in gods name, can a Peeeeedooo do to the picture of a 4 year old on a FB wall set to private?

Not a prude, just hysterical.

SkinnyWhiteBoy · 30/10/2011 14:00

Personally, I think you're being a bit prudish. Bodies are bodies, whether they're kids bodies or adults bodies. It's just a photograph of a human being in it's natural habitat.
I share your concern that she's putting material up that others might get off on, and I might even, if she were a friend of mine, say something to that effect. But I wouldn't hide the posts, personally.

GalloweesG · 30/10/2011 14:00

The shame of it is you should be able to post photos of your kids in their undies but the photos are so easily lifted from Facebook and end up fuelling god knows what.

One right click of a mouse and that photo is no longer private property.

Lookattheears · 30/10/2011 14:02

How? How if your FB is private. Hmm?

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 30/10/2011 14:07

I agree with Lookattheears, hysterical rather than prudish. Don't look at them if it bothers you.

SkinnyWhiteBoy · 30/10/2011 14:09

@looattheears: Facebook's security is really not all that. Having spent some time hanging out on the /b/ board on 4chan (very very NSFW), I've seen people lift photos from 'private' accounts, not only on FB, but photobucket and other such sites. The only way to be totally sure that stuff doesn't end up circulating is to not put it online in the first place.

worraliberty · 30/10/2011 14:11

Sorry, are they naked or in their underwear?

Lookattheears · 30/10/2011 14:12

So, they get off on a picture of my 4 year old in pants.

It's unpalatable but it can't actually hurt her or me, can it?
Or perhaps we should put all kids in Burkhas in case anyone looks at them and gets off on it in the street.

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