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AIBU?

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Am i being a prude...

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 13:38

... or is posting photos of your DCs in their undies on fb a bit odd?

A friend of a friend keeps putting them up and i was really quite taken aback. So much so that i've hidden her posts.
Don't get me wrong, i have nothing against people letting their kids be naked, in fact my DS seems to spend half his time running around the house in the nude! But i would never dream of putting the pictures up, i mean, i don't know her THAT well and it's so easy for other people to access fb accounts.
AIBU or is that just very inappropriate. Do you think i should say something?

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frutilla · 30/10/2011 14:27

If she has her setting to "close friends and family only" maybe only a handful of people can see them. It's the same as if they were playing on a beach in bikinis, no?

TheSecondComing · 30/10/2011 14:32

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DrSeuss · 30/10/2011 14:33

A thing I read recently said that increasingly, we all leave a cyber trail and that kids whose parents post all significant events in their kid's life on FB have a trail that they didn't control or create. Is it fair to kids to do that? Do they want their future partners to see them aged seven in their pants because their mum friended their girlfriend and they were on the mum's page? Do they want their future boss to google their name and see that? The child abuse thing is a red herring, IMO. I've never seen child porn and never want to but I have seen adult porn and that didn't involve people standing around in pants!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 30/10/2011 14:40

Not liking seeing naked kids on the beach ... Words fail me.

I suppose I'm just being competitively liberal, though.

TheSecondComing · 30/10/2011 14:50

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LadyClariceCannockMonty · 30/10/2011 14:56

I'm not sure that competitive liberals beat themselves up ...

ChippingInAutumnLover · 30/10/2011 15:02

DrSeuss - Do they want their future partners to see them aged seven in their pants because their mum friended their girlfriend and they were on the mum's page? why on earth would that matter? I'm sure they usually see all the family photos - including those in the bath ?!

YABU would it make any difference if it was swimming bottoms?

TheSecondComing · 30/10/2011 15:06

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troisgarcons · 30/10/2011 15:32

Whats the difference to holiday photos in swimming costumes?

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 30/10/2011 15:38

I think it's a bit daft to rely on FB maintaining your privacy settings for ever. What happens when eventually FB goes bust or is sold to someone else? I tend to think that, unless you would put said pictures on a huge billboard for everyone to see, then you shouldn't put them online at all.

sarahtigh · 30/10/2011 15:45

in news yesterdy about something like 600,000 face book hackings, not sure of time period

squeakyfreakytoy · 30/10/2011 15:54

Anyone who is that way inclined, could go wandering near a school, with their mobile phone, and get a photo of anyones child in uniform. There is absolutely no point getting hysterical and panicking about it, because there is no way of knowing, and no way of doing anything about it.

I really do not get the hysteria over photos being on the internet. There are countless adverts for childrens products which feature children in underwear, nappies, or naked..

I recently visited my late mums best friend for a chat and a catch up. She was going through the old photos from when I was a kid, and there were ones of me and her son, aged about 3, in our underwear on the beach, in the garden in paddling pools.

Did I feel degraded? Did I hell as like.. it was just nice to see photos of me having fun as a child.

minimisschief · 30/10/2011 17:03

if they are in their underwear they are hardly naked

reelingintheyears · 30/10/2011 17:08

It wouldn't bother me.

I rarely look at friends DC photos anyway.

catgirl1976 · 30/10/2011 17:23

I tend to agree its hysterical. There is nothing shameful about children in their underwear and its a sad world where that fearful point of view becomes normality

birdsofshoreandsea · 30/10/2011 17:29

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DogsBeastFiend · 30/10/2011 17:38

"i got flamed on here for saying i didn't like seeing naked kids on the beach either but hey ho, they are competitively outliberallingeachother on here. wink

i don't like it not because of 'PAEDOS' but because it's not really respectful of the kids is it."

You don't like to see little kids running naked on a beach? It's not really "respectful of" them? Really? Christ on a bike I've heard of child-centric but that's surely taking it to a laughable extent. Since when has a small child had any worries about stripping off and running naked, about being oh so self-respecting and covering up? Please TSC, get real! :o

I make these incredulous remarks as someone who has never been called liberal in over 40 years and doesn't expect to in the next 40 either.

BluddyMoFo · 30/10/2011 17:53

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Splinters · 30/10/2011 18:03

What DrSeuss said. I don't think its prudish to think that trusting FB with your family photos and private information is v naive. She might not have thought about how dodgy FB actually is and how often privacy settings seem to magically revert back to no privacy at all without you doing anything, or be aware that people she doesn't know all that well can see it all.

On the other hand if you would be offended to see photos like this in a properly private setting, like a friend's house, then you are being a prude.

Oakmaiden · 30/10/2011 18:08

I'm not sure that competitive liberals beat themselves up ...

No... that would be competitive masochists... :)

FabbyChic · 30/10/2011 18:09

I hope her pictures are private. Peado's trawl facebook accounts looking for pics of children.

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 18:15

Again, no problem with naked children at home/ in the garden/ etc, i'm not offended by it, but on the net, i worry about the safety of those photos.
I agree, it's not hurting the kids directly (although i personally would be a bit embarrassed if i knew my ma had put pictures like that on the net of me!), but birdsofshoreandsea, children's bodies aren't sexual to most people, just like people dressed head to toe in latex aren't sexual for me, but for some people, sadly, they are.
I've had my fb account hacked before so i know how easily these things happen.

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Peanutbuttertuesday · 30/10/2011 18:20

Because the idea of some pervert leering over my friends children makes me sick!

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