AIBU to be pissed off with my DPs lack of organisation?

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I am so angry with him right now and he's not even here to address this with.

I work away from home all week and get home on a Friday night after having done a 2 hour commute in Friday night traffic (aka I'm very stressed). For weeks now I have been asking my dp to please do his washing in the week as I only get the weekend to get my work clothes washed and dried for the week. My house is also difficult to get clothes dry in so I know that as long as my clothes are washed on a friday night they should be ok for sunday night when I need to pack up my suitcase again. I am in a hotel at the moment and would have to pay laundry fees myself (which are a fortune!) so washing in the week isn't an option.

I got so fed up of coming home on a Friday night to discover the washing machine full of wet washing where he has obviously panicked that I'm coming home and he hasn't done the washing and so shoved it in the machine.

He has started telling me "I don't know where you think I get the time in the week to put washing on, I go out to work at 7am, come back at midnight and get into bed". My answer has always been that he should put a load on in the morning and hang it out before he goes to bed. At least he has the option of doing his washing in the week. I don't get that.

This week I have come back to the washing in the machine again plus at least another 2 loads that he expects to do. AIBU to expect him to do his washing in the week so that I can wash my clothes that I will need in the week?

He is just so disorganised. Won't ever iron his shirt the night before, will choose to do it in the morning whilst moaning that he is late. I am very, very annoyed with him at the moment as he has lost my car key. He was rushing (late) for work this morning and needed to get something out of my car (work car so a much more expensive car that I could ever afford). He has gone out for a 12 hour shift, I told him to make sure he left my car key behind only to come downstairs to find a) no sign of car keys, b) my car unlocked on the drive and c) him swearing that he doesn't have the keys in his pocket. It will cost me £500+ if he can't find the key- the kind of money I just don't have :( .

AIBU to have lost trust in him completely over this? I feel like I just can't trust him.

I'd be more annoyed with him losing the car key OP.

If it has to be replaced make HIM pay. I'd actually go mental if someone took and lost my car key!

I think it's because the house is cold so washing doesn't dry quickly, no drier so it IS an issue for OP at the weekend when she needs to get hers done quickly as she needs it for the week ahead as she is away from home.

Service wash and stress-free weekend??

Thing is, TeamDamon, the "practical easy solutions" would be GREAT suggestions f the OP were asking, say, "I have a damp house and limited time, how can I dry my laundry?"

But that isn't the problem. It's a factor which is exacerbating the real problem which is the OP's partner's refusal to pull his weight / take responsibility.