To hate it when posters on here call other women bitches?

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I don't like the word 'bitch', I find it offensive (and not much offends me, trust me).

I see it increasingly in AIBU, usually on a thread about another mum who has upset the OP by not inviting their dc to a party or some such abhorrent crime .

Within two or three posts, you get 'She's obviously just a nasty bitch..' etc.

How can you say that about somebody you know next to nothing about? And why use such misogynistic language?

Hate the word "bitch". It's demeaning,and should not be used by women,about women.

Why not? - some women are bitches.

YANBU. A friend of mine swears like a navvy but absolutely refuses to use the words bitch and slag. I'm not keen myself. Certainly have never called someone a slag.

Yanbu. Would rather be called a cunt than a bitch. I do call other posters on it when they use the word.

Some people on here act like bitches though, someone will ask something about their child on AIBU and they will just come on and type 'get a fucking grip' and nothing else..so YABU

Doesn't that just make them unpleasantly judgemental or lazily rude or pointlessly critical or underminingly nasty, Fanjo?

Well underminingly nasty and purely malicious would be my definition of a bitch

Well there are occasions when only a "f*ck" will do but I must admit I do shy away from any kind of name calling, it doesn't feel right to do it. Although I did have a post deleted for calling someone a "twat" before now. But he was though, he really, really was!

And yes the word "bitch" makes me clench up, its horrible.

It's all a bit teenagery isn't it.

Yes you are being an utter judgmental SNOB by saying only certain types of women use the word bitch. I mean, who's being judgemntal now? Oh yes, let me see, you are op

Sometimes, when a thread is written, the woman - or women - the op describes are bitches - some of the women described on certain threads lately seem like really nasty bloody bitches. If you don't like it, skim over it but spare us your holier than thou ramblings and judgements - you talk of judgement and then judge. You don't mind the word cunt - I do, but if people want to use it, fine - I'm nor going to class them as certain types of people for doing so - I'll leave that to you as you seem to enjoy that.

"Bitch" doesn't fuss me in the least (well, I of all people can hardly take it as an insult, can I? :o ). Slag/slut etc, OTOH, really offend me and I particularly hate to hear women calling other females it, my dislike being very much of the "a man who screws around is a stud so why call a woman a slag when she does the same?" school of thought.

Somewhat on a tangent, something which also narks me is the insistance from some posters that the DW/DP of a cheating man should get checked out by an STD clinic. After all, no-one suggests the same if a poster comments on chat about her hot night with a new date and there's no proof that I know of to indicate that a cheating spouse's OW is any more likely to have multiple partners or an STD than any other normal, sexually active woman. I know that there will be cries of "But I know an OW who was screwing half of Scotland!" but for each of those there are surely score upon score of OW who are no more putting it about with multiple partners than anyone else.

It's all a bit too anti-women for me IYSWIM.

I'm practising using 'arsehole' as a descriptive and gender-neutral alternative [hsmile]

Some people actually deserve to be described as bitches. It is an offensive word, but some people behave in an equally offensive manner.

Oh I hate slag, but surely no-one says it outside of comedy east end villians?

Happily I have not heard anyone say it since leaving school.

you slaaaaaag

that's the one!

You bugggggerrrrr Fanjo, you got there first, I was gonna say that! :o

Sadly "slag" still seems all too popular aamongst teenaged girls. One of mine came out with it recently... by god she wished she hadn't, her ears were left ringing with my telling-off!

I'm ok with bitch as long as the person in question is being a bitch. As Mo'Nique says, "if that's what you was representin', that's what the fuck you deserved to be called!" :)

If you are malicious and nasty, you're a bitch in my book.

OTOH, men who refer to all women as bitches can get a one way ticket to the far side of fuck.

Heh heh heh. Rarely have I seen a more unpleasant post on Mumsnet than that offered up by runningwilde at 20.01. What a fine argument she offers in defence of using the word bitch. Gosh, yes, now I have read her offering I have totally reconsidered my opinion of people who would casually use the word bitch about a woman who they don't much like.

I am liking fearful's post.

And bibbity..maybe it was a clever pastiche of a bitchy post?

Lol, I haven't heard the words slag / slut for about 30 years [nostalgic]

I don't use bitch on MN or in RL, I'm just not that type of person hahahaha

But as you've firmed your OP into it not being the word, but rather women calling other women 'nasty', you're being unreasonable.

Some people do have pretty nasty posting styles on MN, and it's not always possible to either ignore what they post or keep calm when you're replying.

I'm not given to name calling or getting into a fight just for the kick, but challenging someones point of view sometimes involve strong emotions, we're not robots who can just post objectively about every subject.

Or have I just got this wrong?

You've not brought the men who use the site into it, is this just all about an imaginary 'sisterhood' you believe we should all be feeling we live in, where discussion and is considered and reasonable?

Bitch,cow etc I think indicative of being ficko
Really if on mn you cannot maintain a cogent discussion without resorting to you is a cow,bitch,then aye you're just a potty mouth

yabu
not that I call people bitches on mn anyway.
but I can think of worse words to worry about