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AIBU?

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to buy my DDs beds for Christmas

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 07:04

3 DDs, all of them will be sort of in need of new bed in the next year or so (eg youngest needs to move from junior to single etc) and a few weeks ago they all said they'd like Father Christmas to get them new beds this year!
I actually think its a good idea - we're already changing traditions and staying home for Christmas day this year and they have more than enough stuff! I could imagine them talking about "the year we all got beds" when they are adults and obviously I'd get them new duvets, cushions etc.
DH thinks its an awful idea, children should have toys etc (says the man who doesn't buy or wrap any of it and then moans how many toys they've got!)

So AIBU?

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BOOareHaunting · 28/10/2011 08:31

popadop Fri 28-Oct-11 08:01:51
When a DH buys his DW a slow cooker on here for her birthday there is uproar.

There's not uproar from everyone just people who share the same belief as you - and dare I say it maybe who can afford these items when they want them instead of as a luxery (eg at Christmas).

In the past 3 years from my parents/ bother/sister I have had saucepans, slow cooker and an electric steamer - because that's what I wanted.

cathkidston If that's what they want and you can afford it then that's a great present. Everynight when they gt into bed they will remember they got what they asked for for xmas. New beddins is a lovely idea too and stocking stuff could include a DVD if you'd normally buy them a film or something.

stabiliser15 · 28/10/2011 08:32

OP I think it sounds like a lovely idea. They're happy, you dont have yet more tat which isnt really enjoyed, and they get something they need. Seems obvious to me.

BTW getting essentials for Christmas was a key part of my family tradition and even now I love my stocking with socks, shampoo and conditioner and fully intend to pass on the tradition with DD!

popadop · 28/10/2011 08:33

Each to their own I suppose but I always thought Christmas and birthdays were for thing you want rather than things you need.

StaceymAloneForver · 28/10/2011 08:34

they want a BED!!!!

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 08:38

I can just imagine my MIL moaning about how ridiculous a gift it is. But the flipside is if they put it in their letter to FC I need to get it or come up with a blinking good excuse why not!!!

And I can't express how relieved I'll be not to spend weeks tracking down gifts and making sure they all have the same amount etc!!! But maybe that just makes me selfish?!!

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BOOareHaunting · 28/10/2011 08:39

popadop I think there's a hidden fine line between the two

TheHumancatapult · 28/10/2011 08:39

mumbling well my dc do need new beds so thats what they having for christmas

borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:39

Not selfish but realistic, as I said your kids seem well grounded.

Upwardandonward · 28/10/2011 08:41

I think it's a great idea! :o , but then my most recent christmas presents were a printer one year, and a sleeping bag the next.

Maryz · 28/10/2011 08:41

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LoveInAColdGrave · 28/10/2011 08:42

Popadop, they want flippin' beds! They don't need new beds, they want them. Why is this is difficult?

OP, as I said before, it's a lovely idea.

InsomniaQueen · 28/10/2011 08:44

OP that is a fab idea - my niece asked for the same thing last year and still refers to it as "the bed FC brought her" - she got new duvet covers ect to go with it. Then as normal the rest of the family spent loads on her so all in all she was over the moon. This year she wants a sibling which I fear may be a little harder for FC to sort out but she is an optimistic little thing!!!!

I keep telling DH that I want FC to bring me a new bed.....I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 28/10/2011 08:48

My son is getting a bed for Christmas, I'm spending more on the bed than I would do on presents - it's a high sleeper one with desk etc. underneath. He asked for it, as his brother got one for his birthday last year.

Father Christmas will still bring a stocking, but that will be his main present.

popadop · 28/10/2011 08:49

They do need new bed OP has said so.

The op must think it is slightly odd to buy a bed because she would would post on here if dd had asked for a sindy doll.

AIBU to buy a sindy doll for my dd, does not have the raised eyebrow about it.

BOOareHaunting · 28/10/2011 08:49

DS will be getting new PJ's this year - he needs them, and have no idea if he 'wants' them.

BOOareHaunting · 28/10/2011 08:50

I've seen plenty of people raising a brow at Barbie/Cindy dolls - they dress inappropriatly dontcha know.

TeWihara · 28/10/2011 08:51

If that's what they want, then do it!

Not sure where you will hide them though...

If you can't convince him round, I would apease your husband by saying he can also pick them one present each up to a value of X if he wants there to be something extra and not practical.

borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:51

In the next year or 2 popadop she hasn't said they desperatly need new beds now, FFS they asked for beds.

Debs75 · 28/10/2011 08:52

That is a great idea. If you know they won't be ecstatic about the beds but disappointed with just a few parents then a) you are doing the right thing and b) you have brought up 3 great girls who haven't bought into the whole commercialism of Christmas.

Popadop they want a bed it shouldn't matter what you think.

I bought dd2 a quilt and duvet cover for her 3rd birthday, she loved waking upto Dora. We always got duvet covers or hot water bottles for christmas. We didn't have much money so it was nice getting things to keep us warm.

Now to wean DP off the 'loads of presents means love' so we can save moeny and buy the dc's less tat at christmas

whattodoo · 28/10/2011 08:53

I often received 'need' rather than 'want' gifts for Christmas. I felt cheated somehow - school PE kit, school shoes etc. My parents would have had to buy them anyway, so they were hardly a gift.

But looking back, I can see that maybe money was an issue. But I still recall feeling disappointed on Christmas morn. And I was far from being a spoilt brat with loads of presents to open - I understood the meaning of Christmas well, that it was a time of giving thoughtful gifts. a PE kit/new shoes didn't seem really thoughtful though.

But the difference here is that the children want new beds. Are you really sure they do? In that case then I say go for it.

If you're unsure whether all 3 really want new beds, maybe one or more is going with what the others are asking for? In which case I'd buy them the new beds but not as a Christmas present. I'd then get them wonderful bedding, cushions, bits and pieces for their beds (lamps, trinket boxes, files for under cabin bed etc) to open as special surprise gifts.

Depends on your financial situation, of course.

TheHumancatapult · 28/10/2011 08:53

popadop

it is my dc that need new beds not the op .They need bunk beds as their new room is not big enough for 2 beds

borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:54

DD1 still says her best christmas was when they got a big box filled with essentials and a duvet cover each [we where skint DH was off sick] younger 2 don't remember it.

jumpyjack · 28/10/2011 08:59

YANBU
My DD got bunk beds for Christmas when was 4. It was all she wanted and she still talks about it being her best Christmas present ever. She was so excited. We assembled them Christmas Eve in the lounge. The look of pure delight when she saw that she got exactly what she wanted was something I'll never forget! She got some toys as well because I felt guilty. She barely glanced at them.

GuillotinedMaryLacey · 28/10/2011 09:00

Great idea. Lovely grown up bed with cushions etc is a thing of luxury. It's not the same as school shoes or a PE kit.

popadop · 28/10/2011 09:00

School shoes for christmas I have heard it all now.......................

a magical time indeed

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