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AIBU?

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to buy my DDs beds for Christmas

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 07:04

3 DDs, all of them will be sort of in need of new bed in the next year or so (eg youngest needs to move from junior to single etc) and a few weeks ago they all said they'd like Father Christmas to get them new beds this year!
I actually think its a good idea - we're already changing traditions and staying home for Christmas day this year and they have more than enough stuff! I could imagine them talking about "the year we all got beds" when they are adults and obviously I'd get them new duvets, cushions etc.
DH thinks its an awful idea, children should have toys etc (says the man who doesn't buy or wrap any of it and then moans how many toys they've got!)

So AIBU?

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Animation · 28/10/2011 08:04

"No it's not a joke :S Why would it be? I have a house full of toys, books, games and really resent buying them yet more stuff."

How about they get one item then that they would like from Santa?

NorksAreMessy · 28/10/2011 08:04

i love this as an idea. a gorgeous bed is one of life's little luxuries.
i think I would make them up on Christmas eve so that they wake up in their new bed on Christmas morning.

Why buy MORE rubbish for the sake of it when this is something they really want and will aoppreciate for years to come, rather than just until Boxing Day.

you could even start a tradition of new duvet covers on Christmas eve, instead of new Pyjamas.

You have my full support (and your DH just doesn't want the work :))

TheHumancatapult · 28/10/2011 08:04

popadop.Well your not 6 and 8 and think bunk bed is going to be fun

Itsjustafleshwound · 28/10/2011 08:04

I am all for practicality!! I think it sounds a good idea and can be made to be special

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 08:06

Animation - they have asked for one item. A bed. All of them have said that's what they want!

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TheHumancatapult · 28/10/2011 08:07

we move 3 weeks after xmas and things will be tight have wardrobes to buy flooring etc ( am in rental with built in stuff ) so xmas is a buy what they need

Mind mine are most excited that we will have own lift to use ( tis my lift but i may let them have a go

WhoIsThatMaskedWoman · 28/10/2011 08:07

If that's what they want then yes. I bought DD a cabin bed for her birthday one year and she adored it - presumably they'll get toys from relatives, and you can get them some fun stuff as well.

inmysparetime · 28/10/2011 08:07

Cathkidston, you could get the kids to all "camp" in one room, and build the beds in the other room. Get them to camp in the bedroom that has the easiest bed to assemble though.

borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:09

TheHumancatapult They'll be excited enough about the move with out a load of presents and anyway it shouldn't be about presents but spending time as a family.

MissMunsterMogwi · 28/10/2011 08:09

I think it's a great idea. As they have asked for the beds how is it any different from them asking for a doll etc?
Imagine how excited they'll be to go to bed Christmas night(if dad manages to build them all!)

It seems that everyone is down scaling Christmas now. I am too, my DC are very lucky and have lots already so this year Santa is cutting back.

LetTheSlaughterBeGincognito · 28/10/2011 08:10

I think it's a great idea if there is also a stocking and some small pressies under the tree.

Animation · 28/10/2011 08:11

"Animation - they have asked for one item. A bed. All of them have said that's what they want!"

Aah, they have all asked for a bed? Fair enough then.

SandStorm · 28/10/2011 08:15

My immediate reaction was don't do it - get them something else. But then I thought about it and actually, my DD would love a new bed for Christmas (she's 8). This half term has been spent redecorating her room ready for a new carpet and she's done nothing but talk about it for weeks. So I would say go for it.

borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:15

I also think your bringing up your DD's to be really appreciative of everything rather than materialistic if they actually ask for things like that rather than the latest gadgets or toy.

StaceymAloneForver · 28/10/2011 08:20

not at all, i wanted a bunk bed with sofa underneath thing, as a tween, i got it for my 13th birthday, i was absolutely thrilled with it. I'd say do it :)

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 28/10/2011 08:21

YABU a bed is what we have to provide as decent parents....it's not a present!

That's like saying "Here's some spag bol...happy birthday!"

or "Here...a new set of PE kit for you....happy Christmas!"

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Deafworm · 28/10/2011 08:22

It's a great idea if you're planning to buy fun beds that they will love which it sounds like you are, tempted to steal the room decorating idea for DVDs birthdays next year, eldest especially would love that

TheHumancatapult · 28/10/2011 08:23

mumbling reading op her dc have beds but would like new different ones so why on earth not

Moblem · 28/10/2011 08:23

I'd go for it, but then my DC are used to having 'essentials' given to them as presents

To make it special, I think I would also give some presents for the room too - new duvet, light etc. Also, when my girls were in bunk beds, we wrapped pink fluffy fairy lights underneath the top bunk. Dd loved it. Also how about getting or making a bed tent for the bottom bunk? My DDs had that as a present one Christmas and they loved it!

In short, yes I would do it, but I would also pick up a few things to make it special too.

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 08:26

I think the only reason I'm considering it as an option is they all want one. So it's fair!

Tbh I'm trying very hard to make them realise Christmas isn't about presents (we don't do church so it's more about family traditions for us). But it's hard for children with peer pressure and relentless advertising. I gave in last year to youngest DD wanting some animated dog thing - £40. Been played with about 3 times I think. And even she says she thought she wanted it but it was better on the advert. We got them a real dog in the Summer ... That does get played with :D

We give money to charities at Christmas (and all year tbh) and DDs like to do baking for various elderly friends and relatives so I am trying to not spoil them too much!

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borderslass · 28/10/2011 08:26

Deafworm DD2 was 15 and had gone from being a troubled child to a lovely young lady [most of the time] she had also put up with so much with having a DB 15 months older who has ASD and LD's, she deserved the makeover we even had her walls re-plastered first.

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 28/10/2011 08:27

Humancatapult no....the OP says they NEED new beds.

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cathkidstonbag · 28/10/2011 08:30

They will all NEED new beds in the next year or 2. And they will get nice beds in that case. Not fancy cabin beds or the like.

I used to get essentials all the time for Birthdays and Christmas as a kid. I actually got brownie uniform one year, I might chat with my mum about why she didn't just buy it for me ... probably because we didn't have money for that kind of thing.

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LoveBeingAWitch · 28/10/2011 08:30

Yanbu

In fact this is very nearly what dd got. We need the combed back for ds so need to buy her a bed. They will be in bunk beds when he moves into her room so was going to get her a peppa pig bed. Instead we got a cheap pine toddler bed from eBay.

FFS people they have asked for them, it sounds like they will get more choice and a different type if bed this way too.

StaceymAloneForver · 28/10/2011 08:30

*mumbling8 so what if it's something they need rather than want? (and they do want it) my dc's get clothes for xmas that they need rather than want....they get new duvet covers that they need rather than want. They also get a few small toys/educational bits and bobs...christmas doesn't have to be about plastic shit that they never play with

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