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To Want to Hear From DH?

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wannabemum24 · 27/10/2011 22:48

I apologise in advance if I am being unreasonable, however I need to get this off my chest:

My DH HATES his job. He has to hit targets in order to hit his commission and it is really full on. Anyway, her recently won an incentive that was on at work, thus he has gone with his team to Barcelona for the night (left at 7am today) and is back tomorrow evening.

I told him to have a great time and make the most of it. But the ONE thing I asked him to do was to let me know that he got there safely. You see, I am a worrier and he knows that. We have been married 3 years and my mum is terminally ill so he knows I am a bit on edge at the moment.

He was due to arrive at 2pm our time but I have not heard from him and I am beginning to worry.

Am I being unreasonable? Surely it's not hard to send a text to say 'Arrived safe!'...

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Happymm · 27/10/2011 22:50

No you are not, no it is not, and yes, he is being a twonk and thoughtless :(

Kayano · 27/10/2011 22:50

Maybe having issues with his phone abroad?

Maybe a daft inconsiderate tool?

Just don't know. Should image they arrived safe, would have heard any incidents on the news by now

Jackstini · 27/10/2011 22:51

YANBU - he should have let you know

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 27/10/2011 22:53

YANBU.

My DH used to travel a fair bit with work and he always lets me know as soon as he possibly can that he has landed/arrived safely because he knows I panic about plane crashes etc.

SingleMan25b · 27/10/2011 22:53

I went to Dublin recently and found my Orange mobile wouldn't work as my contract didn't inlude European roaming.

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wannabemum24 · 27/10/2011 22:54

My word, thank you!

Kayano you are right, I would have heard already, esp as I am down as his next of kin etc etc.

Happymm, I love the word 'twonk' and you are right! But it was going to be a really jam packed day I guess...anyway. I guess I will just snuggle up with the dog for a bit :)

Thank you both x

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squeakyfreakytoy · 27/10/2011 22:58

If he hasnt got roaming set up on his phone, its possibly not working. Its a one dayer, so he is probably caught up in it, and doesnt realise you will be worrying.

Believe me, if anything had gone wrong, you would know about it!

ShellyBoobs · 27/10/2011 23:00

YANBU at all if the agreement was that he would let you know he arrived safely. I would try not to worry as he's almost certainly being a twonk, rather than there being some issue.

susiedaisy · 27/10/2011 23:03

Yanbu did his phone have roaming on it must haVe these days for phone calls and texts maybe not Internet, thoughtless but not worth lynching him when he gets back GrinGrin

Apricots · 27/10/2011 23:03

YANBU have you text him though? Rather than worry just text him and jog his memory that he has a wife at home

TooEasilyTempted · 27/10/2011 23:04

YANBU but he was possibly pissed before he even stepped into the plane and it has slipped his mind. Hopefully he will bring you a nice bottle of something from duty free!

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wannabemum24 · 27/10/2011 23:06

He should have roaming...he has an iPhone!! Yeah, I did text him an hour ago...not looked at my phone for half an hour because I don't want to obsess

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wannabemum24 · 27/10/2011 23:09

You are right, he is probably very drunk :) He is a goodun' though so my worrying is just that he is safe!!

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Soups · 27/10/2011 23:28

YANBU to want to hear, especially in your situation. I wouldn't take it to heart too much tho. iPhone or not, it's with the phone company you enable roaming. Or he probably had a phew drinks on the plane, played games on his iPhone the entire flight, battery runs out (really they run out quickly), he has no emergency charger. I've done that many times on my smart phone. Since then he's been drinking more.

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern · 27/10/2011 23:35

WannaBe - last time I went to Spain my phone wouldn't work - yet roaming is set up, I've been to Spain loads and it's always been fine... no reasonable explanation at all. Virgin just shrugged and said 'these things happen occasionally' (very twatting helpful). Of course, you'd have thought he could have found a land line to call you from. Twat certainly deserves a good ear bashing when he does get back.... but I'm sure it's just twattery and nothing to actually worry about ! Try to get some sleep.

Soups · 27/10/2011 23:37

A phew drinks?! Deary me. Sorry, yes I do know it's "few" but probably feels like "phew".

Bunbaker · 27/10/2011 23:38

OH travels a lot. To put my mind at rest I always check the local airport to see that his flight has arrived.

AgentZigzag · 27/10/2011 23:51

I'd love a phew drinks please Grin

We'd double checked with our phone company that they'd be set up to use abroad, and were pretty miffed I can tell you when they weren't.

There are loads of good reasons why he hasn't got in contact yet, try to pick one of the less lethal ones and keep it in your mind.

I'm sure he's fine Smile

Fishpants · 27/10/2011 23:56

wannabe I saw the thread title and knew it was you. Of course you're not BU, love!

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coraltoes · 28/10/2011 09:20

Ooh barcelona! Love that place!! Tnnes of pickpockets though, maybe his phone got nabbed. You could look up his flight on the airport website or airline one and see if it landed on time etc. I am sure he just got caught up in the excitement of the day.

I hope he takes you there soon to make it up to you!

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wannabemum24 · 28/10/2011 09:55

Thanks everyone!! Still no word, but not so worried now! Not even angry :) Just tired as I didn't sleep too well. He is due home around 6 so I shall wait and see if he turns up! Ha ha! Until then I am going to take some time off work to do the weekly shop, clean and bake (how sad wifely am I?!)!!

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MoaninMinny · 28/10/2011 10:34

you would have heard by now if anything terrible had happened

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