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Original poster

to be upset by some comments re: gender of my baby

42 replies

Pekka · 27/10/2011 19:56

Hi,

we found out yesterday that we are expecting a boy. This is our first child. When we shared the news with friends, surprisingly many offered slightly sexist comments as congratulations. Comments include: "Boys are the best" "Boys are way easier than girls" "It's best to have a son as a firstborn" "You are lucky to have a boy, girls are difficult".

AIBU to be upset by these comments. I want to shove my laptop up their a*¤e, am I overreacting :)

OP posts:
ViviPru · 27/10/2011 19:57

YABU

FruitChute · 27/10/2011 19:57

YABU. They are just trying to be nice. If they had said boys are rubbish you might have a point.

rubyslippers · 27/10/2011 19:58

Don't be upset

Babies in general are fab - don't take it to heart

purpleturtletoise · 27/10/2011 19:58

I imagine that if you had said you were having a girl, these same people would have said rather different things.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 27/10/2011 19:58

"Boys are way easier than girls"

Well that's bullshit for a start. Ignore them, they know nothing.

Bourbonchops · 27/10/2011 19:59

If you said you were expecting a girl they would have come up with a thousand positives for having girls too. It's just their way of congratulating you. Smile

FullBeam · 27/10/2011 19:59

They are probably just trying to be nice. If you said you were having a girl they probably would have said the same things about girls.

FourEyesGood · 27/10/2011 19:59

YABU. Don't tell people if you don't want them to say stuff that they think you'll want to hear. And in my experience (DC1 is boy, DC2 is girl), boys are waaaay harder than girls. Grin

squeakyfreakytoy · 27/10/2011 20:00

If people had said "awww poor you, never mind, you might get a girl next time" or "eugghhh boys are horrible" then fair enough.. but come on... people are just trying to make nice comments...

susiedaisy · 27/10/2011 20:00

Don't worry about itSmile

MenopausalHaze · 27/10/2011 20:00

Strange thing to get upset about!

MrBloomsNursery · 27/10/2011 20:02

YANBU. Girls are easier than boys IMO.

FruitChute · 27/10/2011 20:04

My boy is an easier baby than my girl btw but I'm sure it varies.

Dirtydishesmakemesad · 27/10/2011 20:04

dont worry when i told people we were having another girl (our fourth girl) i had many comments along the lines of " oh no!" or "ah well maybe next time". I have one boy anyway but thats beside the point people just cant help themselves commenting no matter what the news!. I just smile and tell them how wonderful it will be to have many daughters.

SwearyMary · 27/10/2011 20:04

All boys are fucking nightmares. Will be little sods as babies and toddlers, throwing their toys and being generally difficult. They do not sleep. From the age of 3 to 10 they will be right little fuckers, fussy eaters, fail at primary school. By age 13 they will have ASBOs and he hated by all the community, known as the hoodie wearing yob of society. This will carry on until he is about 17 when he will be arrested for drugs, burglary and attempted murder. By 23 he will have no teeth, no job and be in the gutter.
Feel any better, pekka?

Seriously.....your friends are just being kind to you. Relax, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and when he gets here, your little boy!!!

iscream · 27/10/2011 20:04

Yabu. However, many women are disappointed not to have a girl, perhaps they are trying to boost you up in case you are one of those who had their heart set on a little girl?
Congratulations on your baby!

slavetofilofax · 27/10/2011 20:05

YABU, and very silly. But you are pregnant so silly is allowed.

I would try and prepare yourself. If you think that's bad, wait until the baby's born.

chickswithbricks · 27/10/2011 20:05

YABU. People say all kinds of crap when they are trying to be nice. If you were expecting a girl they would have said similar ridiculous things about girls. Ditto church vs civil wedding, turkey vs Indian takeaway for Christmas dinner, Scotland vs Florida for holiday.

lollystix · 27/10/2011 20:05

Wait till you have a second (or fourth like me) and it's another boy - then all you get is pity or rudeness Grin

AKMD · 27/10/2011 20:05

YABU, I said all that stuff to my SIL when she found out she was expecting a boy because she had already told me that she wanted a girl. I didn't mean any of it, I was just trying to make her feel better.

squeakyfreakytoy · 27/10/2011 20:06

the simple solution is, if you dont want comments, even nice ones, dont tell anyone anything... :)

GuillotinedMaryLacey · 27/10/2011 20:06

Oh the irony....

Bibbo · 27/10/2011 20:07

If you're upset by comments like that, just think how you'll react after you have the baby and start getting all the comments about breast / bottle feeding / post pregnancy body / how fat / skinny your LO is... you're in for a real treat!!

Original poster
Pekka · 27/10/2011 20:10

Thank you everyone for your answers. I'm sure my friends we're just trying to be nice/funny :) We weren't initially going to find out the sex, but couldn't resist the temptation :)

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SlinkingOutsideInSocks · 27/10/2011 20:10

Chill. They're just trying to be nice.

I have one of each. When I hear someone is having a girl, I congratulate them and tell them girls are the best. When I hear they're having a boy, I say the same thing. Sort of like a benevolent Brucie telling every Strictly couple they're his favourite.

Man, if you're this wound up 20 weeks before your PFB has even entered the world, you're in for a long and rude awakening. [hgrin]