to be worried that PILs are upset that I'm having a baby girl

[JustANormalGirl]

My PILs are very traditional, and I've always known they would have liked my eldest child to be a boy. But I've recently found out that the child I'm carrying is a girl, and I'm so worried that they won't be as interested in her as they would if she was a boy. :(

Not only that, but it is meant to be a secret that I'm pregnant, but somehow it is common knowledge. Not only that I'm pregnant, but that it's a girl. Now not only do I have to worry about their reaction, but also that so many people are watching to see their reaction, IYSWIM?

AIBU to be absolutely shitting myself? And worried for my poor little daughter?

Can I suggest finding a willing woman at about the same stage of pregnancy as you, but expecting a boy, and doing a bit of swapping?

you both get a baby, everone is happy. Couldn't be an easier solution IMHO.

yawn very funny.

YABU, why do you place so much importance on teh opinion of people who instead of being delighted about a baby GC, would actually care about what sex that GC is?

The sound horrible, and really not worth your worry. You will be around to protect your dd, so you don't need to worry about her.

YABU...I wouldn't want them to have much to do with my child if the sex of it was going to upset them that much.

Just out of interest, how long were you supposed to keep your pregnancy a secret for and why?

I think you should hold off on the worrying. You are making an asumption on how they are going to react & treat your DD.
Just tell them, they might surprise you!

My mum was 'told' by her PiL that I had to be a boy. Well, guess what... they were fine about it when I arrived, by the way.

Just ignore them. Or point out that it is the man's sperm that determines gender.

Your PILs are twats.

they're upset because you're having a boy not a girl?

they really are twats.

and yes, YABU to be worrying about it - tell them to get real and stop being such princesses.

YABU to be shitting yourself... Whatever they feel, if they've a shred of decency, they won't say anything negative. If they do for some bizarre reason treat you or your daughter badly simply for being female, shame on their stupidity. If people are 'watching to see their reaction'.... they must have nothing better to do.

A big part of being a parent is protecting your child against the worst excesses of life until they are big enough to manage life themselves. And that includes protecting them from prejudice and sexism.

Who do they think they are? The Royal family?

Roffle.

Don't worry, it'll all be sorted v soon - IgglePiggle & Co have it all in hand

Congratulations, btw

We are not amused.

Is this a thread about a thread or something then?

I know in other cultures having a boy first is often very important.

The Sri Lankan couple nextdoor to me told me that traditionally if a couple has a boy, they deliver boxes of sweets to friends and family by way of celebration.

If it's a girl....nothing

At least you don't have to worry about cries of "off with her head anymore"

Don't start worrying about other peoples reaction to things regarding your child. Firstly, there isn't anything you can do about the gender of your child and secondly, it's your child so their opinion really doesn't matter. If you start worrying now, believe me it is a slippery slope! Do what you feel is best for your child, be aware of current recommendations for their upbringing but also use your own common sense and relax!

One will have you know, that there is absolutely no problem with first offspring being girls, and one would know, you know!

Funny thread.

Goodness, it's not as if there's anything a boy can do that a girl can't.

Oh.

What's that you say? Inherit a whole country? ... And rule all its people? ...

Of course....