to be worried that PILs are upset that I'm having a baby girl

[JustANormalGirl]

My PILs are very traditional, and I've always known they would have liked my eldest child to be a boy. But I've recently found out that the child I'm carrying is a girl, and I'm so worried that they won't be as interested in her as they would if she was a boy. :(

Not only that, but it is meant to be a secret that I'm pregnant, but somehow it is common knowledge. Not only that I'm pregnant, but that it's a girl. Now not only do I have to worry about their reaction, but also that so many people are watching to see their reaction, IYSWIM?

AIBU to be absolutely shitting myself? And worried for my poor little daughter?

Oh Kate you poor thing! Don't worry, you can get your own back by giving her a fabulously "non-traditional" name.

Queen Nevaeh anyone?!

ah, this'll get the law changed, anyway.
I hope it is a girl - the best monarchs we have had, have been women.

CAvemum - i had a lady in here yesterday whose daughter was called Heaven. I thought I was hearing things to start with.
the girl was about 8, i think.

Woulkd it be Heaven Cambridge or Heaven Windsor?

And I'm still looking forward to Princess Chelsea.

who gives a flying fuck at arolling doughnut what they think?

I'm stealing going to start using that! Thanks Henry!

LineRunner, either way she'd sound like a lap dancing venue! The "Gentleman's Club" in my local town is called Heaven, there might be a chain!

I didn't know she was pregnant?

Congratulations :o and sod 'em!

I think you'll only really please MiL if you have a Corgi, with ickle fluffy ears and a waggy tail.

Its not too far fetched, in some countires (India, China), boys are valued over girls, its not impossible for this situation to happen to the op.

Traditional = having a baby boy first? . How is that traditional?!! It's not like you pick and choose your DH's sperm to have a boy!!

Doh, slaps head...

good one!

I was a disappointment to all my grandparents as I was the first grandchild on both sides and had the temerity to be a girl. My brother born 18 months later was fawned over and feted ad nauseum.

I googled you earlier and apparently you are having boy girl twins. So don't worry too much. Just pretend the boy came out first if it doesn't happen that way, or arrange a c-section to make sure it does.
And have a go at your sonographer who really should have told you about the other baby.

I'm not sure how they know the sex already though.

@ all of those posters for whom the penny hasnt dropped yet!