to think that squealing is an overreaction

[TheVessel]

Ok, so I'm pregnant. Yes, I'm happy. Very, very happy.

So, why is it not ok for me to be quietly content and just getting on with it? Why is it I am looked at askance because of not acting like my SIL's who are, in my mind, over-reacting like squealling stuck pigs, shattering the windows, jumping up and down, saying things like 'babby', 'the babes', 'preggers', and launching into full lectures of what to do and not to do. One of whom does not and will never have children of her own. And I smile and suck it up like a good girl - least said, and all that.

This irritates me. I'm just waiting for the lack-of-permission belly groping (I'm not a touchy-feely person), have accepted that the focus is on our much longed for child (fingers crossed). On one hand I feel I need to learn to bite my tongue, however on the other I also want to start with a few ground rules of my boundaries that they need to learn to respect. After all, they won't be around to coo when Jnr is out of toddler stage.

Am I being unreasonable - or just another strong headed woman up against strong headed SILs?

youre being a miserable caaaah

Aww dont shit on their picnic, they are just happy for you.

Would you rather they just blanked the news

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

YABU & a bit miserable!

Blimey, the misery hormones have kicked in early

Seriously, don't sweat the small stuff or you'll make everyone around you feel awkward and they'll end up leaving you to it...showing little or no interest at all.

That might sound heavenly now but when you're in the later stages, you might wonder why it seems no-one cares.

SQUUEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

Sorry, it had to be done.
YANBU, I agree, I'm not a squee-er [hgrin]

PS, you are being miserable as am I, but I'm happy to be miserable [hwink]

Squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

You sound like a barrel of laughs.

Congratulations.

You do know that other people will love your child? And express it in different ways to you. This is a Good Thing btw.

Hmmmm you dont sound very happy. You sound a bit miserable and grumpy.

Congratulations!!!

And yeah stop being such a misery guts. How lovely that they care so much that they are excited!

What Worraliberty said. If they'd not reacted you'd be wondering why they werent interested! It's a happy time, they're happy, they're showing that happiness. Hardly a crime! YABU and a misery.

Congratulations btw

Just wondering what IS an excuse for a bit of a squeal, if not the wonderful news of a pregnancy?
Is there anything on earth more worthy than that? I think not.

Lighten up OP. Gawd.

I agree with Show of Hands. I don't know what boundaries are concerning you so early on, they just sound pleased for you. I am far from a squealer but acknowledge others are, doesn't make me in any way superior and it could just be that they are responding as they feel they should.

Stop taking yourself so seriously.

I'm on your side, TheVessel! My "I'm PREGNANT FFS, not ill, not porcelain, not a demi-god!" cry was often heard during both my pregnancies though, if it's any comfort for the future, the novelty expressed by others lessens somewhat with a second pregnancy.

I think too that I'd be making it clear now that any belly-groping will be rewarded by breaking the gropers fingers.

Meantime, congratulations! Now go and practice your best "aren't you ridiculous" bored expression and favourite patronising comments to the squealers. (How about "I didn't realise that me having a baby would turn you into one!" when the SILs squeal "Babby" and "Preggers" at you? :o ).

My SIL is due to pop any day now and I have three DN's by other SILs.

I hate having to temper my reaction by telepathically monitoring the right/wrong response to a pregnancy according to the mother to be.

Do I jump and down with excitement? Over the top? Say nothing? Cold hearted bitch? Buy a pressie? Unneccessary/not wanted/too soon? Hug her? Not hug her? Shake hands? Cold and clinical?

Leave us SILs alone - we are happy for you and excited and I make a bloody fab auntie. [hgrin]

PS, dont say "I'm not ill I'm pregnant" though, just in case you get ill and people then say it to you
(hope you dont though!!)

I'm with you op. I hate all that over-excited nonsense. People are different. Not all of us want to behave like 3 year olds in a pink nylon Disney princess dress. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Jeez Dogs

YANBU I had to sit through someone I'd only just met repeatedly saying "oh it's amazing" for a whole hour when I happened to mention I was pregnant. An hour FFS!?!You'd think it was an immaculate conception the way she went on. I wanted to hit her.

What, Pictish?

" in my mind, over-reacting like squealling stuck pigs ", you don't like them do you? [hwink]

I hate squealing but it sounds like they are just happy for you. Better that than them not caring.

After all, they won't be around to coo when Jnr is out of toddler stage.
Blimey! What have you got planned for them?

I'm prone to the odd squeee, and I love hugs, and do 'mwahs' a lot, BUT I don't think YABU because I have friends who don't do all this, it makes their teeth itch. They accept a little bit of it from me, but out of respect to them I don't invade their space too much.

Weeell... you've got many months of opinions, advice, gruesome anecdotes and uninvited prodding/belly stroking coming your way. Complete strangers will ask the most toe-curlingly personal questions and the shape/size/orientation of your bump will be assumed to be a topic for public debate.
My personal favourite was having a Tesco assistant do a massive double-take then bellow down the length of an aisle "oh my god I've never seen a bump that low! Wow!" (me 9 mths pg with no stomach muscles; bump was indeed by my knees)

I would strongly suggest you develop selective hearing and a 'turn and block' strategy for the gropers!

And congratulations