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To say no to my 10 yr old for these boots?

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dabdab · 27/10/2011 09:48

boots
I think heels are basically not that good for your posture or feet, and why get into it at the age of 10, she says she won't wear them all the time, only for parties. MIL thinks that if they are uncomfortable, she will take them off.
What do you think?

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BOOareHaunting · 27/10/2011 10:17

I wouldn't get them for a 10to tbh.

And what's with the front picture - there's an awful shadow making the boots look like they have camel toe.

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dabdab · 27/10/2011 10:17

She says she wants to wear them only for dressing up / parties and thus would not be wearing them long enough for it to hurt her feet. I just think, why start? What age do you start letting your daughter wear heels?
I do think they look tart-ish.

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dabdab · 27/10/2011 10:19

Yes, the new piece of clothing is for looking after her existing clothing. In actuality, it is more like once every 3 months because she doesn't manage to get a star every week. It takes her a while to build up the 8 stars.

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StaceymAloneForver · 27/10/2011 10:20

i would say no tbh , too grown up, and this is from the mum of a 7yo whos friends all wear high heels to parties and poor dd turns up in sparkly ballerina pumps, she's not the one moaning her feet ache at the end tho Grin

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 27/10/2011 10:22

Too high. A small heel on a party shoe (something that is obviously for girls rather than a sized down adult shoe), ok. Probably from around 10/11. But those heels don't look small and I don't think she'd want to only wear them for parties.

EricNorthmansMistress · 27/10/2011 10:24

Do you want her to go to parties looking like a miniature woman?

Heels force you to move your centre of gravity, making your bottom and chest stick out more. They are designed to make a woman's body look sexier! Why would you allow your pre-pubescent child to mimic an adult woman's posture in this way? Little girls in heels look bloody awful. If I saw a ten year old in a party outfit with heels I would judge and I don't care who knows it. 'Too controlling' - I say bring it on. I'm happy to be thought of as controlling because there is no way a daughter of mine would be wearing high heel boots until she's a young woman, not a child.

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 27/10/2011 10:24

I hope you get another year or two before she realises you'd have to buy her something every 3 months or so anyway Grin

PeriPathetic · 27/10/2011 10:25

Oh god. Bane of my life.

DD (10) has just bought these. NOTHING to do with me - she's on holiday with DH and he lets her have ANYTHING she wants Angry (whole-thread-issue there Hmm )

Apparently she wore them around the mall then had to take them off as they hurt too much. I reckon they will be too small for her in approx 2 weeks so I can chuck the vile things out then.

valiumredhead · 27/10/2011 10:35

I would have more problems with the fact they are described as 'stretch' therefore no support around the ankle. YANBU to say no, she is 10.

stealthsquiggle · 27/10/2011 10:45

I think they are entirely inappropriate for a 10yo, but I see the difficulty given that they are clearly marketed to that age group. I think they fall within your definition of "damaging to health or inappropriate" so you are covered from that perspective.

Do her friends really wear stuff like this? Could you compromise by letting her go over the £30 budget for a more appropriate pair of boots?

BehindLockNumberNine · 27/10/2011 10:48

OMG - What are M&S thinking??? [hshock]

Those boots are awful, not a good look for anyone, especially not 10 year old girls.

What is she planning on wearing them with?

No, tell her they are bad for her health. But no, there is no way I would buy them for my dd even if she were 10 and wanted them.

Original poster
dabdab · 27/10/2011 10:53

Thank you everyone - you confirmed my opinion! If MIL brings it up again I can show her the thread.

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MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 27/10/2011 10:55

These have a knind of heel Grin

ragged · 27/10/2011 11:03

What is the actual heel size on those boots? Is it 1.5" or taller?
10yo DD has boots but with no signif. heel.
She would die for those boots in OP.
And over my dead body it would be, too.
Am pretty slacker relaxed, let DD blow 30 quid of 9th birthday money on make up (we had a week of the clown look and barely touched since). But feet are different, harder to fix.
I am mulling over possibility of letting her have max. 1" heels when she next needs "party" shoes, should be next summer at earliest.

KatAndKit · 27/10/2011 11:05

YANBU they are not suitable for a ten year old child. The style of them is too adult and heels are not suitable for growing feet. They don't look like footwear you can run around and play in.

I would definitely say no.

ragged · 27/10/2011 11:07

DD has had boots with a heel like Monstruously linked to, much flatter heel boots tend not to be as hard wearing, ime (would be more like slipper boots than something useful for walking).

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 27/10/2011 11:08

For parties, which I imagine are not taking place every Saturday night - yes, why not?

Not on a daily (or even regular basis) though.

lostlady · 27/10/2011 11:11

I just think they are horrible for anyone, child or adult.

I let my ten year old wear small "heels" sometimes. Could you find a compromise less hideous pair? Grin

haylojaylo · 27/10/2011 11:11

Definitely not unreasonable. I would tell her no! Plenty of time for that once she is a teenager.

stealthsquiggle · 27/10/2011 11:11

I think it is the shape of the heel that bothers me more than the height, TBH. OTOH come back and ask me again in 5 years time and I probably will have been worn down by DD and be allowing her to wear heels like that [sigh]. For the moment, she is delighted with these

OP - how about these ones?

IndieSkies · 27/10/2011 11:14

They are hideous and 10 year olds look awful in heels. I would say no to my 10 year old.

duvetdayplease · 27/10/2011 11:17

YANBU, your system says she can not have things that are 'inappropriate' - you deem them inappropriate so she'll just have to lump it.

I wasn't allowed stuff when I was younger. It was a bit annoying at the time but now I see why it was done. Forcing her to wear something is not ok, ruling something out of order is ok. I suggest find five or six pairs acceptable to you and let her choose, or suggest another suitable alternative. The art of negotiation is a valuable skill!

KatAndKit · 27/10/2011 11:17

I don't see why a child needs these sort of heeled boots to go to a children's party. There is usually no "hooker style" dress code at kids parties. I think it is very sad that fashion consciousness sets in at such a young age. What happened to just wearing a party dress and your nice shoes? Or your jeans and a sparkly top or something?

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 27/10/2011 11:23

Is it wrong to wish these were in my size Blush. DCs would disown me but, mmMmmm, shiny.

diddl · 27/10/2011 11:27

Bit shiny for me, but I have red boots a similar style in leather.

The tartan lining was an added bonusBlushGrin