AIBU? I know I'm not, I just want to vent....

[Lemonylemon]

.... my next door neighbour has just spent half an hour washing her car on my front garden.... without permission.... I'm not there, but my son sent me a photo....

WIBU to put up those removable bollards as I'm pretty sure this is a regular occurrence?

On your garden? Why on earth would they do that? Do they have a garden of their own that they're afraid to get wet for some reason??

How bonkers...

Not going to flame you (we. are. citrus fammmiiilllleee)

Do you have to put up bollards? Can you just speak to her?

how weird! is there no fence between your houses?

Nixea Yes, on my front garden. I'm the only person in a long line of terraced houses who has shelled out for a drop down kerb and paved the front garden so I can park my car.

Lemon :) She's the kind of person who would take offence and wouldn't be able to understand why I think she's fecking cheeky.....

Oh I thought she'd driven over the flowerbeds and onto the grass. If it's paved over and you weren't in then I can't see why this would bother you.

Well, next time you want a picnic just go and plonk yourself on her lawn and see how she reacts! What a bizarre thing to do (the neighbour that is!).

Sorry but why wouldn't it bother me? It's my garden, totally separate from hers - it's not a communal garden. She doesn't have permission.....

Send her round a bill for renting your parking space....

Cheeky cow, tell her you take umbridge at having your drive used without permission.

Ok maybe it's different where I live. I'm also in a row of terraces and neighbours will often borrow each other's drives if it makes life easier and doesn't inconvenience them. To me it's part of being a friendly neighbour.

I can totally see why it would bother you - bloody cheek. Bollards at least and maybe a chain with a padlock? Bloody cheeky cow.

I think you absolutely HAVE to speak to her. Or write if you feel better about that. In fact, if you wrote you could include the picture your son took.

It is slightly different if it's on your paved driveway rather than your garden, as it's less likely to be causing any damage that way. Still wrong and very cheeky of her to do so without your permission though!

I agree with Nixea ... but as the weather might be a bit damp for that, why not invite a few friends around for a BBQ & have it on her front lawn, I mean, lawns are so much nicer for a bbq aren't they

As long as she left the driveway clean & tidy, it wouldn't actually bother me to the point of doing anything about it, but I would find it bloody cheeky.

It all comes down to this woman asking op's permission. If she'd asked then I'm sure op wouldn't be annoyed. Common courtesy costs nothing!

She didn't ask my permission. Our road isn't really full of neighbours who do very much for others. As an example, if a stranger has parked outside the house of one of my neighbours (on the road) then said neighbour would be twitching the curtains and as soon as the stranger has gone, will move their car to the space outside their house. People frequently park across my driveway and pop into another person's house for a half hour chat etc.

This particular neighbour won't speak to me pretty much most of the time.

When you say you think this is a regular occurrence, do you mean by her? Or by people in the street?

Bloody cheek! Especially as she doesn't even usually speak to you! It's not like she would have thought "well we're mates she won't mind"!

Oh if she's not speaking to you then that's a bit different. My neighbours bring me jars of honey and always stop for a chat so we are all pretty relaxed about using each other's drives.

However, I'd still be inclined to let it go, it hasn't really harmed or inconvenienced you and it's so much nicer to try to get along with neighbours, you never know when you might need their help.

i would say something tbh, that's your private land, how did she know you werent about to come home? I would go mental if i pulled up and somebody was parked on my drive!

Sorry, I don't mean to drip-feed, but posters are coming up with points I wouldn't have thought of.... Lemon it's a regular occurrence by her. AKINAC I would love neighbours like that. I would have been inclined to let it go, but I didn't hear hide nor hair from any of the neighbours when my OH died and when my daughter was born 3 months later.... That says it all, really, doesn't it? I wouldn't hesitate to help anyone, but when you've had everyone turn a blind eye to the problems I and my DS were having at the time, I find that this sticks in my craw a bit....

How old is your DS, OP? Was there an adult in the house who could have gone out to ask her what she was doing?

Lemonylemon That's awful What happened to your OH?

She won't speak to you but she will help herself to your drive for car washing now and again!

I'd be having a word I think.

I would say YA 100% NBU, this is trespass. Its great if other people have friendly relations with their own neighbours but as you hardly know this woman and never speak to her yes she has a bloody nerve parking up on your drive to wash her car without asking.

What you do about it is more tricky, but I'd be tempted to speak to her, gently, to see what she says. She is likely to be extremely embarrassed I guess?