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To think my child should have priority on the bus

57 replies

maypole1 · 26/10/2011 11:00

Just got home from the doctors when I got on the bus their were top buggies one with a baby baby and the other with a 4 or 5 year old I asked the lady if should would fold her pram down as she had a child who could clearly walk and my choked is clearly in a wheelchair she told be to fuck the he'll off

The bus driver told her to fold it up or get off the bus, she folded it up I then get a verse on that she was their first, I should have waited for the next but

I told her wheelchairs have priority and that her child was old enough to not be in the pram and didn't seem disturbed by having to sit in the seat next to her I got more abuse I told her her that she should be ashamed and that she wouldn't swap with me to have this dedicated so ace on the bus she then replied my daughters I'll to she has a bad cold

I not really a soft centred person but I was in tears when I got off

How can people think they trip a disabled child

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maypole1 · 26/10/2011 11:00

Trip not trip sorry

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maypole1 · 26/10/2011 11:00

Trump not trip

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MajorBumsore · 26/10/2011 11:03

She's a vile bitch. Try not to let it get to you. It a shame no-one else on the bus stood up for you. I'm sure they all thought that she was foul too.

Of course you were in the right

SoupDragon · 26/10/2011 11:03

"How can people think they trump a disabled child"

Because they are wankers. The person, not the disabled child, obviously!

Sirzy · 26/10/2011 11:04

Yanbu, although if the child was 4 or 5 and in a buggy then I would wonder if the child had some sort of sen/disability

FredFredGeorge · 26/10/2011 11:07

Of course YANBU and well done for the Bus Driver.

I wouldn't say that anyone automatically gets to trump anyone else though, there may well be cases where it's more appropriate for the disabled child to make allowances but this clearly isn't the case!

crazynannawitchbitch · 26/10/2011 11:07

Of course you are right. The space is supposed to be primarily for wheelchairs...is there not a smaller space on most buses for folded pushchairs?

slavetofilofax · 26/10/2011 11:08

She sounds very rude, and someone that talks like that to strangers can't be a happy person. How awful would it be to carry around so much anger and hatred that you end up swearing at the Mother of a disbled child who is just trying to get on public transport.

This woman clearly has issues that are nothing to do with buggies on busses, I would feel sorry for her.

You will get over this incident and teach your dc kindness and consideration, she will probably always be miserable and rude, and pass that on to her dc.

She is not worthy of your tears, but I hope you and your dc are both ok.

Upwardandonward · 26/10/2011 11:09

YANBU, but unfortunately this happens a lot :(

BOOareHaunting · 26/10/2011 11:10

YANBU to think she should have folded her buggy.

Unfortuanatly we live in a selfish society it seems where people think only of their own entitlement and annoyances (as in the faff of folding up a pram) rather than everyone's entitlement in society to access services.

GooseyLoosey · 26/10/2011 11:13

YANBU. Console yourself with the thought that either she was a truly unpleasant person or she realised straight away that she was in the wrong but was just too stiff necked to back down. Either way, you will not be the only person who sees her as difficult and her attitudes will not make her life easy.

porcamiseria · 26/10/2011 11:15

bitch, ugh. hope something really SHIT happens to her

PastGrace · 26/10/2011 11:16

YANBU. In Paris there is a 'hierarchy' of disabled people (blind person trumps healthy old person etc) and it is a list of about eight people. I always thought it was pointless and that everyone would naturally give up their seats in that sort of order. I was on a bus and there were (genuinely) the following people: 1 old woman (but no so old she couldn't walk in heels), 1 woman with a large bump, probably 7 or 8 months pregnant, 1 woman with tiny baby asleep in a carrier on her front, 1 blind man in his 30s, 1 war veteran with only 1 arm, 1 old man who had two walking sticks.

The old woman refused to vacate her seat for ANY of the other people. When the blind man got on the bus driver finally told her to move or get out and said he wasn't leaving until she did one of the other. I have genuinely never seen such selfishness.

I hope you never have to experience that again OP - I think anyone would have cried at that.

Abcinthia · 26/10/2011 11:19

YANBU. That woman was rude beyond belief but unfortunately, there are many like her.

I hope you are ok. She is not worth your tears.

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maypole1 · 26/10/2011 11:23

Sirzy round here its very common for certain communities to have very old children in buggies round here their usually squashed in to the very cheap stick prams

So far as the local schools have had to ban pushchairs on the school grounds for children who attend the school as year one children were being brought in in push chairs
They have a big sign on the school gates

And if people want to do that then fine but I just feel that she should of folded it down with out all the drama

This used to happen more when dd was in a special needs buggy as it dose look a bit like a pram to the untrained eye but she is in a fully fledged now with the big wheels so I think they were just having a selfish day a

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AFuckingKnackeredWoman · 26/10/2011 11:27

YANBU some people are complete twats

blondie80 · 26/10/2011 11:30

PastGrace what about everyone else already seated on the bus?

Ghoulwithadragontattoo · 26/10/2011 11:33

Of course YANBU. What a nasty woman. Hope you're feeling OK now maypole.

Graciescotland · 26/10/2011 11:34

YANBU I used to look after my nephew and had no idea on how to fold his buggy so got off bus automatically the two times a wheelchair user got on.

Wheelchair users have priority.

startail · 26/10/2011 11:38

UANBU

Lizcat · 26/10/2011 11:38

Whatever happened to do as you would be done by. It always amazes me when people treat others in a way they would not expect to be treated.

elliejjtiny · 26/10/2011 11:43

YANBU How awful. DS2 (3.5) used to have a SN buggy (massive thing that needed an engineering degree and 2 people to fold it) but it was such a nightmare with bus drivers saying it didn't count as a wheelchair. I was going to ask for a proper wheelchair for him as I thought it would be easier. In the end DS3 came along so they are both in a "normal" double for now.

MrsMooo · 26/10/2011 12:49

YANBU, I still take DS in his buggy on the bus and would always either fold it and sit elsewhere or get off if I had to

Unfortunately some people are just massive arseholes

Secondtimelucky · 26/10/2011 12:53

Of course YANBU. I have a baby (4 months) plus toddler, and would still offer to fold for a clearly disabled child, not wait to be asked - although some of the passengers may need to hold assorted children whilst I do so Grin. If you only have an older child it is sooo easy just to fold.

spiderpig8 · 26/10/2011 12:59

i think whoever is on the bus first, and hs already paid their fare should have priority.

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