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Original poster

To think my child should have priority on the bus

57 replies

maypole1 · 26/10/2011 11:00

Just got home from the doctors when I got on the bus their were top buggies one with a baby baby and the other with a 4 or 5 year old I asked the lady if should would fold her pram down as she had a child who could clearly walk and my choked is clearly in a wheelchair she told be to fuck the he'll off

The bus driver told her to fold it up or get off the bus, she folded it up I then get a verse on that she was their first, I should have waited for the next but

I told her wheelchairs have priority and that her child was old enough to not be in the pram and didn't seem disturbed by having to sit in the seat next to her I got more abuse I told her her that she should be ashamed and that she wouldn't swap with me to have this dedicated so ace on the bus she then replied my daughters I'll to she has a bad cold

I not really a soft centred person but I was in tears when I got off

How can people think they trip a disabled child

OP posts:
happenstance · 26/10/2011 13:03

OMG that is vile, what an unpleasent woman, of course your DC has priority YANBU at all, and to vebally abuse you in front of to children and a baby is disgusting.

As mrsmooo said. some people are just arseholes.

happenstance · 26/10/2011 13:09

spiderpig that's fine in cities maybe, but where i am there is a bus every hour and i think if your child is able to walk themselves and sit next to you then they should if a person gets on whose child can't, and i hope anyone would feel embarrassed at forcing somebody to wait another hour because they happen to be 2 stops further on.

those folding seat areas are reserved for Wheelchair users, end of

bemybebe · 26/10/2011 13:12

If I was on this bus I would have stood up for you maypole

How vile.

Pagwatch · 26/10/2011 13:28

Spiderpig8

Sure. You are correct. If the appropriate system is based upon being a totally self absorbed twat.

SoupDragon · 26/10/2011 13:55

Spiderpig, do ever post anything that isn't ignorant and designed deliberately to offend?

LemonDifficult · 26/10/2011 13:57

YANBU. Sorry it happened to you.

Original poster
maypole1 · 26/10/2011 14:37

spiderpig8 yes how selfish of me even though the sigh's clearly state wheelchair uses have priority next time we will wait in the rain with my child for the next bus and if that one has a pram the next one after

Are you sure it wasn't you spider prig spider pig

OP posts:
GoodAndBluts · 26/10/2011 15:08

YANBU, shame on the parent!

Ignore Spiderpig8, they are always like this on anything to do with a disability.

meditrina · 26/10/2011 15:17

For the first time this week, I saw someone with a pushchair refuse to move so an adult in a wheelchair could board. I was horrified.

Ephiny · 26/10/2011 15:24

Of course wheelchair users (adult or child) should have priority over someone with a 'bad cold'! What a horrible selfish woman.

PastGrace · 26/10/2011 17:00

blondie it was jammed full during rush hour so I assume people in the seats further back didn't realise what the problem was. I was standing squished between pregnant woman and the doors, desperately trying to not fall on top of her when the bus lurched. The only seats that were accessible without pushing through all the other standing passengers were the priority ones, which were all occupied.

TheHumancatapult · 26/10/2011 17:10

Spiderpig one bus every two hours I live between 2 towns if I played the well the pram was on first I never get on a bus

Least I never have to fight for a seat take mine everywhere Grin

RefereezaWanka · 26/10/2011 17:12

What a horrible woman. Try to forget her - most people have more manners!

Andrewofgg · 26/10/2011 19:48

Spiderpig, do ever post anything that isn't ignorant and designed deliberately to offend?

No, Soupdragon, I don't think s/he does!

Spider: it's not a question of somebody already on being told to get off; that can't be. It's a question of somebody already on folding the bloody buggy. That's a nuisance but it does not compare with OP's difficulties and you know it.

spiderpig8 · 26/10/2011 21:20

If there's only one bus every hour or so then they should have made room with good grace

Ormirian · 26/10/2011 21:23

No you aren't. Sorry you had to deal with her Sad

altinkum · 26/10/2011 22:28

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ReindeerBollocks · 26/10/2011 22:45

Whilst I think Altinkum has a good point, the issue is space and a wheelchair does require more space than a buggy, and if the child was able to walk to her seat then it can be reasoned that the space wasn't needed as much by the horrid woman than the OP even if her child did have a disability.

My DS often uses disabled toilets while out (as he needs to go immediately) and often gets berated for it because he's not in a wheelchair, however, if there we're no queues in the normal toilets (unusual) then a wheelchair user would have every right to shout at him, due to them needing the extra facilities and space, not just desperation of needing to go that instant, like DS IYSWIM, sometimes we need to be tolerant and understanding of each others disabilities. But it didn't sound like the other woman on the bus was needing the seat due to a disability - her child just had a cold Hmm

ReindeerBollocks · 26/10/2011 22:48

  • were not we're

Also sorry you had to endure that today Maypole, having to be moved is one thing but then entering into a nasty debate with you was extremely rude of her. Have some Wine and hopefully a better day tomorrow.

RainboweBrite · 26/10/2011 22:52

Of course wheelchair users should have priority over buggy users on buses (annoying as it is to have to fold up a buggy, especially if the baby/toddler is sleeping.) Our buses have a sign up, clearly asking buggy users to vacate the space if a wheelchair user boards. I tell you, if I had been on that bus, OP, that horrible woman would have got a tongue-lashing from me for her rudeness and cheek!Angry on your behalf.

pigletmania · 26/10/2011 22:59

spiderpig are you that woman per chance Hmm. No you are wrong, a wheelchair user has priority, it also says on the signs, whether a non wheelchair user was there first or not!

pigletmania · 26/10/2011 23:02

altinkum the boy was perfectly able to leave the buggy and sit on the seat next to his mum, op child was not!

manicinsomniac · 26/10/2011 23:08

YANBU, the woman was being awful and ridiculous.

Even if her child did have a hidden disability then she was still being unreasonable. The condition of the child is irrelevant, the space is there for the wheelchair, not the wheelchair user. The wheelchair does not fold.

simpson · 26/10/2011 23:10

I had DD (3.9) on the bus today and I took her buggy as she had done loads of walking today and I don't drive and we had to pick up her older brother from footie practice.

TBH I would always fold down buggy before getting on bus as its easier for me anyway, let alone someone else needing the space more iyswim.

Would not enter my head to have her in buggy on the bus (she would kick off anyway and demand a seat)

Would just put folded buggy in storage part of bus iyswim.

dramatrauma · 26/10/2011 23:14

It's a wheelchair space first, everyone else needs to shove off. Glad the driver backed you up.