to be so angry about something so totally trivial that my heart is pounding with rage?

[HecateGoddessOfTheNight]

and despite the fact I had logged off, I have logged back on again just to rant about it?

AND I have quite possibly ranted about it before anyway?

AND in the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter?

putting pans and mixing bowls in the wrong place.

Yes. That's what it is. I have just gone into the cupboard to get a pan for the veg. All the pans are piled up inside each other. About 3 pots up - the plastic mixing bowl.

Every. Bloody. Time.

I have to take everything out and put the plastics on one side, put the pan set in order and the big pans on the other side.

and Every. Bloody. Time.

Himself just makes the one huge pile on one side, of everything. Open cupboard - sling it in.

I feel the red mist right now. I could ruddy swing for him.

Every time, I tell him PLEASE don't do that. PLEASE put them in their proper place. Look - THIS is how they go. Can you see?

And every time he says yes, ok, fair enough you freak

AND THEN HE PILES EVERYTHING IN THE ONE BLOODY SODDING FRIGGING ROTTEN DAMNED BLOODY SPOT

That would be an awful waste of a hairdryer, hecate. At least if you hit him over the head with a frying pan, you still have the frying pan (hopefully not even dented).

DH just leaves everything piled on the side because he is lazy in order to avoid incurring my wrath for similar crimes. I am not entirely convinced this is allowable, but I do have to concede that it is the path of least stress for both of us.

It's a sign of disrespect. in my stupid head

I too suffer from chore-rage from time to time.

My bugbear is the baby bottles. He'll wash them up and then leave the lids behind. Why? WHY?! They go on the bottles. It's not difficult. And then when he wants to go out he can't find them.

Drives me bankers!

YANBU. It drives me mad. I do not understand why I am the only person in the house to understand the benefits of stacking things in the cupboards in a logical, intuitive and orderly fashion.

Bonkers even...

YANBU untidy pan drawers drive me insanse! Have managed to get DW so fed up with me rearranging them that she leaves them out for me to do trained. But now our DS (2.5) has got in on the act [hangry][hgrin]

Fortunately I have a perfect wonderful friend whose mind works in the same strange way as mine - she can walk into my kitchen and intuitively find anything because it is in the same place she would put it - thus proving to DH that "my way" is in fact logical or alternatively that we are both nuts

oh katie - don't get me started on the plates!

he balances bowls on top of plates and then PUTS ANOTHER PLATE ON TOP!

He knows big plates go at the back, little plates go on the left and bowls go on the right, with the shallow bowls at the bottom and the deep bowls on top of them.

AND. and and and - he puts my ladles in the cutlery drawer and not back in the big container on the worktop where they live!

You are right about the hair dryer, S. I'm just going to do something depraved with the soup pot instead.

I feel like this about a particular laundry issue, and DH's firm belief that doing the washing up does not intrinsically include wiping the sides.

On a good day, I tell myself that this must be a sign of a good relationship, having nothing more serious that some domestic task-related incompatibilities to get angry about.

On a bad day, I just want to kill him.

So I go and cram all the plastic containers into the cupboard in such a way that they will fall over the floor when he opens it, as that's what really annoys HIM. :o

Lundy B needs to write a new one;

"Why does she do that?"

Pans don't bother me so much as they get hung up, usually at DH's head height.

But I am in the middle of drawer wars at present. I put away in this order: knives, forks, spoons. He puts away: spoons, knives, forks.

Every day its different, every day I rearrange whilst pretending its just a little game we play, but it drives me nuts.

Therefore OP YANBU. No more U than me.

I must say, I am very pleased that I am not alone in my unreasonable rage over things that don't matter very much

I had a minor breakdown once about DH's washing-up technique when we first lived together. He had washed a couple of mugs and left all the rest of the washing up for me. The cups still had tea stains at the bottom. I believe I wailed something like "You only did two cups! If I can't trust you with the washing-up, I don't know if I can trust you with anything!"
To this day, if he wants to embarass me, he only has to say "Two cups!"

Hecate you know YANBU.

Similar to Squitten my one is baby bottles. The right tops have to go on the right bottles. Yes I know they are interchangeable - but some things should just be right.

Oh and put the lid down on the bread bin. What is the fucking point otherwise!

Argh, another thread about feckless useless men. This is not a male issue, it's an idiot issue. With two hands, and two eyes and, assuming, a brain there is no reason that a man/woman can't put things away in the same way.

In this house DH is a bit better than me, don't EVER tell him.

Actually Posie, I'm a feckless useless woman.

Good Katie, so am I! I have had all day to clean my house whilst DH is in Amsterdam working and the dcs are staying with my mother, instead I've mn'd and fallen asleep. (I am very unwell though and can't breathe through my nose)

I've got a Mason Cash mixing bowl but I usually use a plastic one

I'm all alone here on childfree Tuesday too. Been home from work nearly 2 hours and have done nothing but MN and make myself too many cups of coffee. I have that coffee'd - out taste in my gob as we speak. Could surprise DH and make something to eat, I suppose, but naaaaaaaaah, I'd only upset his pan-plan.

At least you are ill and have excuse

Oooh you are not BU!

I don't have much good kitchen stuff but I cherish my pans. The way to stack them is largest at the bottom with the lid turned upside down on top. then next pan sits on top with its inverted lid on top and so on. Not difficult and ensures they don't get scratched.

Will he do it? Will he hell he insists on putting my lovely pans inside each other so they get all scratched up.

I have thrown protest tantrums that my 3 year old would be proud of but he still doesn't get it.

(but house is a shithole)

My DP never gets the pan stacking right apart from one thing - he is veery particular about the Le Crueset grill pan (it has to be inverted) and he goes slightly mental if you stack a cast iron pan on top of the non-stick (it's not me that does it, it's my Mum - every time). Other than that though, putting away stuff is totally random. I have developed a thick skin.

I'm not talking about men, plural, Posies. I'm talking about my man, singular, honest if other people are talking about their men, singular, too and it therefore becomes men, plural, that ain't my fault I'm not talking men, I'm talking man.

man with a big soup pot wedged where the sun don't shine

Well, my DH never puts things in cupboards and if he gets things out of cupboards he leaves the doors open so YABU.

He also leaves socks on the bedroom floor instead of in the washing basket and leaves the bathroom light (and fan) on when he goes out.

His worst incidents have been leaving the freezer door wide open overnight (finished off the ice-cream so never went back to close it) and leaving the hot tap on overnight after washing his hands. I have no explanation for these.

MIL actually apologised to me for his laziness/blindness on these points. [hgrin]

I think you should consider yourself lucky.