This summer I had twins and my parents were a huge help when caring for dd1 (3) at the end of my pg and after twins were born and in SCBU etc. PIL were jealous that my parents had dd1 stay with them so much (probably about 4 or 5 occasions for 2 nights each time throughout the summer as I didn't have the energy to care for her). my parents live 1hour 30mins away so my mum made a real effort to come and help out in our house and take dd back to her house etc, but they have their own business so she needed to be at home and could care for dd while working. pil live 4 hours away but were making digs about dd staying with my parents a lot and seemed to feel left out. My parents offered pil didn't despite mil being on school hols in the summer - when I went into prem labour mum came to care for dd1 and dh called mil and asked for her to come up the next day as my mum was supposed to be seeing my grandmother in London who is 83 and needed mum to go with her to a solicitor. I didn't want mum to cancel (although I know she would have if I'd asked her to), mil made a big fuss about coming up as if it was a huge effort (she was on holiday from school at the time and gets free train travel so wouldn't have cost anything, and she would have been annoyed if we didn't ask her - can't win kind of situation).
Anyway, when pil came to meet twins I offered them the chance to have dd1 stay with them for a weekend at half term. This has developed into them taking her to a holiday camp for 5 days. It's a bit long for me but it gives me time to bond more with dtds etc and dd1 will love it.
pil picked dd up yesterday, stayed for an hour then headed on at 4.30pm. By 9pm I sent a text to check they'd arrived ok. mil replied that they had but I'm cross they didn't text me when they arrived (mil said they'd keep in touch all week). fil also implied they were doing me a favour - I feel I'm being kind letting them be alone with dd1 like mil wanted.
aibu? I probably am as pg hormones still raging!