He isn't. His radio alarm goes off - and he leaves it on. He opens the curtains, and the bedroom door and turns the bright hall light on. His electric toothbrush goes on (open-plan bedroom and bathroom).
This morning, I am mightily pissed off, because all this has woken me up an hour earlier than I would have otherwise. When his kids stay with us (a few nights a week), our sleep is disturbed because they're all early risers (4am-6am), and the toddler wakes and cries throughout the night. So especially when our respective kids aren't here, I'd hope he'd potter about quietly and let me rest.
I grumped about this this morning, and he said simply that without the radio alarm, he won't wake up in time for work (but why does it have to stay on?!), and he can't see without lights on. No apology. No sense of giving a rat's arse about me getting enough rest. And he said, "You go to bed later than me and disturb my sleep getting into bed, but I'm not grumpy." I apologised, but added that I at least try to get ready quietly in the other bathroom, and I don't turn any lights on.
Oh, writing this makes it seem petty, and maybe it is. And I'm premenstrual this week, so maybe I'm overreacting. I'm just bloody grumpy, and don't feel particularly cared about or respected.
AIBU?