to see We Need to Talk About Kevin when I'm 7 months pregnant?

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I absolutely loved the book when I read it 5 years ago, and have been waiting for the film to come out, which has also had excellent reviews. However, a couple of friends who have seen it have told me not to see it as it's very disturbing and not a good choice for me now I'm pregnant (1st child). I love a thriller/horror but I'm prone to giving myself nightmares and am a light sleeper anyway.

I'm due to go and see the film this week with a friend, but now I'm wondering if it will freak me out more than the book did. Or am I being oversensitive?

Has anyone else seen it while pregnant?

thatgirlsevil Yay! I'm so happy someone else has seen it. I's such a great film and it's a shame it might not get the wider audience it deserves just because it's in English.

Go and see it! I loved the book too. If you start to feel upset grab your popcorn and leave.

I can't believe it doesn't come out here until February [hsad]

the song from the advert is stuck on me, hmm sounds intersting lesley

I thought the book raised a lot of qustions about nature v nurture. It certainly doesn't try to answer them, which is fair enough since Lionel Shriver is an author not a scientist. I didn't pick up on PND when I read it, (many years before even thinking about kids), and I just thought he was a hideous child who turned into a sociopath. I don't think you can blame any parent for that, and many kids go through a lot worse.

I didn't understand (in the book) why Eva didn't leave Kevin with her husband. I didn't think it was her fault in the slightest (from the way the book was written) At a push, social services. The boy needed professional help and their relationship, whoever's fault it is, was clearly very unhealthy.

(I may get flamed for that last comment but that was my honest opinion as a childless woman, and my childless friends who read it agreed. I will be interested in my reaction when pregnant / with children ... if I can face reading the book again; it was disturbing.)

Watching Rosemarys baby, alone in the house, while pregnant with first child - not good. What a relief that birth was!

Watching Kevin when you already know the story - not a problem. Enjoy!

I just saw it tonight. I read the book and loved it - I think it is valuable in addressing the taboo subject of not bonding with your child, as someone upthread said.

In the film Kevin is clearly a psychopath, and suggests that he was born that way.

But, some mothers have given births to psycho and sociopaths. Most don't.

Not sure how I'd feel going at 7 months pregnant though. I'd probably say don't.

Wish I had the chance to see the film, the nearest cinema that is showing it is 60 miles away.

Haven't watched a lovely Cary Grant film in ages.

I read the book a few years ago before having DC. I loved the book and raved about it to my friends.

Recently I got DH to read it. He got about 1/3 of the way in, hated it. Said it was boring, made him look at DS in a different way and just made him feel really uncomfortable, so he gave up.

I'd love to see the film, but will need to find someone to go with....

I went to see Forrest Gump when pregnant and it left me upset for days Have seen it several times since and can't imagine why it made me feel sobad. Pregnancy does strange things. I'd give Kevin a miss if I were you.

Saw the film last night - let myself be convinced as friend was very keen and twas her birthday!

A very good film, and like the book didn't try to answer the questions it raised about nature V nurture. Stylishly filmed and great cast.

But ...

I couldn't relate to the mother as much as in the book as she really seemed to hate the baby immediately and there was no evidence of her even trying to bond with him.

Interestingly, when I read the book (5 years ago) I was terrified I wouldn't love my children and very worried about the prospect of motherhood, but now I feel like I know I will love my baby, and if I'm struggling to bond I will seek help. So in a (very) weird way, seeing the film gave me some confidence and determination to feel ready for motherhood. Or maybe I've just grown up since then.

It's just a very disturbing story. I feel a Come Dine with Me-athon coming on as a much-needed antidote!