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MN I need your advice asap!!

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Ihavescrewedup · 20/10/2011 09:21

I am a reg who has name changed.

A few days ago a friend text and asked if anyone knew of rooms for rent or had a spare room, she was being evicted with her 2 DC age 19 and 22.

Me being a softy felt sorry for them and said they could stay here.

so the DC have been but in the 2 days they have laid on the sofa with the heating and tv on sleeping and farting, they keep closing the windows and the whole place stinks.

Don't get me wrong I don't have a palace!!!

they have use £15 gas in 2 days.

neither have washed or showered in that time they are in the same clothes still.
they are using my internet and phone and all 3 are here throughout the day.
one of the dc is asleep most of the day and up all night with tv and lights on.

DP is going to bed at 7-8 because of it as is DS1 and I am in bed by 11 instead of being able to relax in my own home.

WWYD???

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 20/10/2011 19:33

Have you set a date by which they must be out? I think that would be a good idea. Say, a week or two weeks.

Or say to your friend that having her two sons here is not working and the only way you can continue to offer a place to stay is if one of her sons goes to stay where she is now, and she comes to stay with you, with her other son - and say why!

Trills · 20/10/2011 19:53

You haven't asked an AIBU question, so let's see.

Y would BU to put up with this for much longer.

Y would not BU to give them 72 hours to find somewhere else, and at the end of that time they are leaving no matter what.

Y would not BU to say that your friend can stay but her adult children cannot.

Y would (IMO) BU to get DP to "have a word", if she is your friend then it is your responsibility to speak to her.

MurderBloodstabsandgore · 20/10/2011 20:21

More fool you.

They are adults not children. Tell them they need to go and stay somewhere else as they are upsetting your children.

Get them out.

eslteacher · 20/10/2011 20:23

You are too nice for your own good OP!

Why aren't they working? Or looking for work? Or going to uni? Do they have an excuse?

I hope you and your family enjoy your meal out tonight, and that the house isn't in too disgusting a state when you return...

MurderBloodstabsandgore · 20/10/2011 20:23

I'm mean. I know. But really Shock

Maybe I should put on the heating to warm my cold cold heart.

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Ihavescrewedup · 20/10/2011 20:51

No chance of DP having a word as he is still sleeping!!!

thats with DS2 having had a tumble and screaming....obviously he is deeply asleep Hmm

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screamingbohemian · 20/10/2011 20:53

Wake him up!

Honestly, these people...

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Ihavescrewedup · 20/10/2011 20:55

I have given them until tomorrow to be out.

and this is the last time I will help anyone!

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confusedpixie · 20/10/2011 21:02

Good on you :)

Andrewofgg · 20/10/2011 21:04

Now you have unscrewed up!!

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Ihavescrewedup · 20/10/2011 21:23
Grin
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screamingbohemian · 20/10/2011 22:03

Well done!!!

But don't stop helping people. Just stop helping arseholes Grin

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Ihavescrewedup · 21/10/2011 11:52

Well I lost it at 5am this morning with one of them and they are moving toaday [hgrin]

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screamingbohemian · 21/10/2011 12:19

5 am! Blimey that must have been fun.

Enjoy your weekend in your reclaimed house!

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Ihavescrewedup · 21/10/2011 12:22

I didnt scream and shout (took all i had not to tbh)

But I made it clear how i felt.

Am looking forwards to the weekend!

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TheTenantOfWildfellHall · 21/10/2011 12:32

No good deed goes unpunished.

Well done for reclaiming!

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 22/10/2011 00:29

Are they gone?

MurderBloodstabsandgore · 22/10/2011 08:30

quint the OP is passed out on her sofa, stinking of Wine. Look at her black footed socks.....

Birdsgottafly · 22/10/2011 08:38

From a practical POV, if they have been evicted from a private LL, they can go to the council office and 'present themselves as homeless'. If they are really desperate they will be happy to go into hostel accomodation, tbh, it sounds as though the teenagers wouldn't be that fussy to object.

eurochick · 22/10/2011 09:01

What ungrateful little shits! I am glad you are getting rid, OP.

RedRumElmosMum · 22/10/2011 09:15

You sound lovely op Smile Enjoy having your home back
to yourself.

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Ihavescrewedup · 22/10/2011 09:26

Sorry for not coming back sooner, i was indeed enjoying having my home back.

I went out for dinner last night just because I could and didn't have to iyswim?

They have got a room for them all to stay in and went yesterday. It was lovely to get my home back but am looking for a new sofa Envy

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