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To spend money I can't afford on a weekend away?

65 replies

Theala · 19/10/2011 11:27

I have two friends from school that I would still class among my 'best' friends, even though we don't see each other very often as we all live in different countries. The last time we saw each other was last christmas. We've been talking for some time about organising a weekend away just us girls, but now it's actually come to the crunch and I've worked out how much it would cost, I really don't think I can afford it. :(
I still really, really want to go though. AIBU to book it anyway? Blush

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Theala · 19/10/2011 12:41

"you seem to live above your means."

How did you work that out from what I posted, QuintessentialShadyHallows?

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grovel · 19/10/2011 12:46

Sod it. Buy the tickets.

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 12:57

From the list of all the things you need to forego, your debt to your parents, and the fact that you contribute 80% to the household finances. Yet you dont have kids, and only yourselves to dress and feed.

NinkyNonker · 19/10/2011 13:01

Yep, cause finding a 'higher paid job' is so easy at the moment. Hmm

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 13:05

Clearly not as easy as going on girly weekends abroad!!

grovel · 19/10/2011 13:05

Have you booked yet?

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Theala · 19/10/2011 13:10

My debt to my parents is because they contributed to my deposit on the house I bought when I was single. I am aware that I'm lucky that they could afford to do this, and have set up a high-interest savings account into which the money that pays them back goes.

Other than that and my mahoosive mortgage, we've not got any debt, so I'd say we're living in line with our means rather than above them. Hmm

If you have any offers of higher-paid jobs we can pick up tomorrow though, I'm all ears. It's not like my DH is doing his current (craply-paid) job just for the laugh.

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grovel · 19/10/2011 13:13

Theala, stop posting on here and book the trip.
Come back when you've done it.

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 13:13

Unless you go off on a weekend trip of course!

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Theala · 19/10/2011 13:16

Nah, I'm not going grovel. I can't justify it.

Especially now that I've been for a run and realised that there's a "5. Would have to put off buying new running shoes even though current ones are giving me a blister." Angry

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QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 13:17

Well, admittedly, one should have fun now and then.

I am agonizing over how much to spend on winter clothes for the kids, having booked a four star luxury hotel in a desirable location with girlfriend and her kids for half term. I really should not have been tempted. Now I have to forego a new wintercoat for myself. Sorry, I guess I am guilty of projecting my own issues to you.

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 13:18

I just hate thinking that my own frivolity should cause other problems.

FunnysInTheGarden · 19/10/2011 13:20

go, go, go life is too short not to do these things. Worry about the money when you've come back. Esp if you haven't got DC. It's miles harder once they are on the scene

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Theala · 19/10/2011 13:20

I'm not sure what your point is, QSH, unless it's just to be a condescending bitch?

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MsVestibule · 19/10/2011 13:22

Theala, probably the right decision, but I can see why you were torn. Perhaps you could have a word with my husband, who thinks it's OK for him to go away every year for a long golfing weekend (£500, grr), even though we can't afford it Angry.

sausagesandmarmelade · 19/10/2011 13:22

Go for a cheaper option...

After all, it's the company that counts.

AitchTwoOh · 19/10/2011 13:24

i think that was QS apologising for being a bit sniffy earlier, to be fair.

Lotkinsgonecurly · 19/10/2011 13:25

Go! Cut back on some things, sell others on ebay. Buy DH's present second hand etc.

FunnysInTheGarden · 19/10/2011 13:25

aye, I too think that was an apology OP

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Theala · 19/10/2011 13:26

Anyway, thank you all for your enabling/talking some sense into me posts. :o

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Theala · 19/10/2011 13:28

Sorry, x-posted that last message to QSH with her post. Sorry for being rude QSH.

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grovel · 19/10/2011 13:29

Best friends are more important than trainers, overcoats and (shhhh!) repaying parents who are calm about the payment schedule.
Go, girl, go.
Life is short.

QuintessentialShadyHallows · 19/10/2011 13:30

yeah, sorry for being snippy. I am not usually a condescending biatch although I might come across as one.

It is just my perspective, today, after booking the hotel yesterday, that it has left me with a bad taste in my mouth, and a rather grumpy attitude.

Ds2 (who is 6) is refusing to wear his coat to school because he doesnt like it. He pointed to another kid, who jacket he absolutely loves, going "mummy mummy please, I want that one, it is such lovely brown and I want to look like a teddy bear, it is the ONLY jacket I want". Great. It is a £50 job from effing Boden. Hmm

So, I am trying to save you from a bad taste in your mouth, and grumpy attitude!

Fixture · 19/10/2011 13:32

Ditch the new coat and the wine - you don't need those. Then make your booking and have a great time :)

northcountrygirl · 19/10/2011 13:38

You're being VV unreasonable to even contemplate giving up wine.

I would still go though and live off pot noodles when you get back Grin