to be sick of all the grooming?

[witchyhills]

Disclaimer; I'm not actually that stylish or well groomed, however
I am sick of the shaving, plucking, waxing, trimming, moisturising, manicures, pedicures. I've been doing it for 25 years, and I'm tired of it
I am also sick of the haircuts, highlights, blowdrying every bloody day. Trying to find shampoo and mousse that give my hair some kind of volume.
I got my haircut short recently so it would be easier, and it's already outgrown the style
I'm sick of trying to find comfortable clothes that are flattering, comfortable shoes that are stylish
I currently have no mascara and no foundation, need a haircut and highlights
and I have no money to buy any of the above

would I be unreasonable just to let it all go to pot
who would care, who would notice?!

I've just read this through and it does sound like I am trendy and stylish, I can assure you that I am not.
I spend all Summer in flipflops, I have very fine greasy hair, so I have to wash and blowdry everyday
I don't usually wear makeup, just usually mascara, but I had a job interview and went out on Sat and I had no foundation

well no, no hard skin

except you are dead...so none of it matters

you are ashes or worm food...and they don't care if you have trotters or heels as smooth as a babys bum

DH has to make me into a diamond if I die first, I read about it somewhere.

First you get cremated then the compress you into a shiny.

I do wish I had the luxury to do less grooming. But professionally, I really don't think I could get away with it. Shabby clothes, fine, unibrow and frizzy hair, uh no.

I am quite well-groomed, in a general sort of way, but I never shave, rarely wax (bikini only), don't know what I should be trimming, and only have manicures and pedicures when (a) I am already at the hairdresser (b) when my feet are going to be on show ie in summer. I don't highlight my hair either, nor wear foundation.

Do you think perhaps you are doing too much of things that don't really make much of a difference?

I know its really unfeminist, but, I just hate having hairy legs! I dont know how some of you can just leave it! Weirdly though, I dont mind having hairy armpits..

I'm a bit like that
I need to be 'done' to feel human
due to toddlerdom I dont have time I feel like a troll under the bridge , just become very frumpy.

apart from blow dry, I am doing the bare minimum. 5 mins.

Armpits get done every couple of days, legs maybe once a week
eyebrows are just a few stray hairs as and when

moisturiser every day in the Summer, I can't get away without that
heels moisturised and hang nails and cuticles done as and when they arise

i guess I just feel shit

NR it isn't "unfeminist" to shave/wax your legs

don't buy into that myth

I am teasing a bit here, because I do several of the things on this thread

what I am saying (since this is AIBU) is...if you want to do these things, just do them

don't complain about it, like someone is forcing you against your will

if you don't want to, then stop

nobody really cares, you know

I don't perm my eyelashes though

life is too short to perm your eyelashes

yes, nobody really cares

are you ok, witchyhills ?

you seem a bit down on yourself (joking aside) x

Why do you feel shit?

You do sound like you're feeling unappreciated a bit... sorry if I'm out of line here.

x-post AF

Talk to us witchy

witchyhills I suspect all the grooming in the world won't make you feel better, sounds like you're just feeling generally unappreciated maybe?

3 X posts.... ! x

I know I appear to do a lot of stuff but I am off the opinion of 'do what you want'

I know what I do make me feel ok equally my best friend does very very little in the way beauty treatments and the like. That suits her. It's fine.
I don't criticise her (what for, there's nothing to critise) We both do what makes us feel good.

Anyway the best thing about the eyelash perm (apart from giving me great eyelashes that I don't have to bother with for a while) is lying down and relaxing for 20 minutes and nattering to my mate while she does it. Good catch up time and I get mates rates as well!

yeah, feeling shit
unappreciated is a good word
can't find a job, feel like a slave
have no money
hormonal
and husband fucking off for a week to do exactly what he wants to do

I look presentable and get ready in ten minutes for work.
Choose outfit the night before - I have about 5 in and rotate.
I own one pair of boots and three pairs of shoes.
I rarely shave my legs.
I shave my armpits in the shower - takes 10 seconds.
I rarely blow dry my fine, normalish hair - it's in a jaw length bob and often gets shoved into a clip. Dry shampoo is ace.
I do nothing to my nails, never have, except trim and file, and they look fine.
Slap on some tinted moisturizer, mascara and lippie at work. Takes 2 minutes.

Don't buy into all the guff in glossies about 'essential' grooming routines. Those mags exist largely because of the ads for - mainly- purveyors of grooming products.

sorry, didn't see your last post until I'd posted.

xx

aww, sweetheart, no wonder you feel a bit shit

some of that stuff is not under your control

but why is hubby fucking off for a week to do what he wants ?

do you get time to fuck off for a week and do what you want ?

I can't find a job either missus, but keep chipping away, make it a massive project, treat job searching AS your job... it may well not work, but it stops me wallowing too much about something I can't do anything about.

Feeling skint, feeling unappreciated, hormal, etc coupled with the fact that your DH is probably in high spirits looking forward to his jollies, well you're GOING to feel shit aren't you? (I'm not going to dis your husband, but make sure you view his trip as one in the bank and start planning)

My DH is working late tonight, the children WILL be in bed asleep by 8pm AT THE VERY LATEST, and I'm going to go through all my 'stuff' in the bathroom and give myself a pamper (I have scrapings, 1/2 jars, un-used gifts that I've never used)... then I'm going to put on my UGLIEST yet comfiest slobby clothes, and watch shit TV or a chick flick, whilst eating stuff no one else likes. Its not a fix, but there's no grooming involved in sitting in a bath, I certainly will NOT be shaving.

Wallow for a bit, stop doing all the things that no one seems to be noticing, and they'll soon notice you've stopped doing it!

I can't find a job either witchy! All I do is clean, cook, job hunt, and walk to and from bloody school. I feel your pain!(Honestly I do)
I hope you are just having a bad day, and not feeling so low all the time?

x post aldi, fellow unemployed/unemployable person

he is going to NZ for the rugby final
I don't begrudge him, he works very hard, and it's a once a lifetime thing. And the rugby is a huge thing for him
It was booked a while ago, with fully refundable tickets if it hadn't gone his way

We have a long weekend booked together for the following weekend.

Spend time on the things that make maximum impact and give you the most confidence.

For me this is hair (always washed, blown and highlighted) and nails (weekly manicures).
I never leave the house without makeup either...but thisis the work of moments. Again think greatest impact (concealer, mascara, lip gloss...have these three things to hand).