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AIBU?

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to be a bit sick of reading "don't you know there's a --war-- recession on?!" on here?

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AKMD · 18/10/2011 10:28

An AIBU about AIBU, I know...

It's starting to grate that whenever a thread comes up about some minor, but nonetheless perplexing parenting question, a large proportion of the responses include something like, "Is that all you have to worry about? Seriously, don't you know we're in the biggest financial crisis of all time/the icecaps are melting/children are starving in Africa?" I've had a few of those responses myself and roll my eyes because even though I was diagnosed with cancer earlier this year, am having counselling to save my marriage and am perilously close to being made redundant, I still care about DS and the little things that affect his life.

Are we not allowed to post about minor annoyances anymore?

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chicletteeth · 18/10/2011 10:34

yanbu

Gets right on my tits quite frankly!

worraliberty · 18/10/2011 10:36

YANBU

But on the other hand, some of the AIBU threads are utterly ridiculous and you do have to wonder why the OP would even care, let along anyone else.

Shakey1500 · 18/10/2011 10:40

My minor annoyance is reading a juicy thread and it gets deleted right in the middle of reading it, like JUST NOW [hangry]

Ormirian · 18/10/2011 10:44

To be honest some of the OPs in AIBU deserve nothing else.

Excercises in preciousness some of 'em Wink

And it isn't a bad idea to let people know that there is a big bad world out there and that a sense of perspective is helpful.

caramelwaffle · 18/10/2011 10:44

Yanbu

altinkum · 18/10/2011 10:46

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BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead · 18/10/2011 10:50

Shakey you need to change you settings so all threads show all messages and you dont chance things being deleted while you wait for the next page to load...

AKMD · 18/10/2011 11:06

Ormirian, there are some ridiculous threads but I just think they've been started for a laugh and respond accordingly. People get so serious about them though and trot out the recession line. Yawn.

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BupcakesandHaunting · 18/10/2011 11:11

I started an AIBU a while ago. It was trivial and I said as much in the OP but I still had a wanker tell me "I wish I had your problems, Bupcakes."

Hmm

Didn't realise that we were only supposed to post about earth-shattering stuff on here...

Shakey1500 · 18/10/2011 11:15

BLOTLD thanks :)

manicbmc · 18/10/2011 11:17

I don't know how you have the time and energy to make a thread about this. All of my time and energy is spent worrying about poverty and Polar bears. Grin

blackeyedsusan · 18/10/2011 11:21

akmd, given the load you are carrying already, the little things can be the straw that broke the camels back. you never really know what else is going on for people. yadnbu

btlotld.... no that would be a good idea... nothing more annoying than getting to the juicy bit and pfft gone.

proudfoot · 18/10/2011 11:24

YANBU

AKMD · 18/10/2011 11:24

Manic, go and post on the Greenpeace forum then Wink

YY to the deleted threads. I want to know what got so bad. Apart from the cannibal one. That had to be one of the sickest things I've ever seen in my life.

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LydiaWickham · 18/10/2011 11:28

YANBU - I remember a couple of years ago, being in a bit of a grump about something or other and a friend who's mother had just died asked me what was wrong, I said something along the lines of "nothing compared to what you've been going through, not going to grumble" and she said that just because she was going through massive shitiness, didn't make my shitiness any less shitty, so what was the problem and she'd see if she could help.

She's lovely. And right.

Other people having big problems don't make your smaller problems any less of a problem.

LaWeasel · 18/10/2011 11:33

I like a bit of a totally minor grumble when their is major drama going on. It's distracting.

YANBU, unless the economy/polar bears(?!) etc are genuinely relevant to the thread

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead · 18/10/2011 11:36

cannibal thread????

AKMD · 18/10/2011 11:37

You don't want to know, believe me.

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LisasCat · 18/10/2011 11:42

Or on the flip side people try to make the trivial thing you're bitching about into a massive deal, even though it isn't, and you genuinely are just posting quite flippantly. I recently moaned about DP having a lie in, and some people blew things out of all proportion, pretty much telling me he was a selfish git, and I should leave the bastard.

Can't we just come on and say "AIBU to dislike the colour green", without either being told we're emotional abusers, or accused of belittling the Middle Eastern situation.

Ormirian · 18/10/2011 11:43

I think that responses along the lines of 'Oh FFS! Don't you know there's a war on' are a bit justifiable if the OP is starting to froth at the mouth with rage at some hapless individual or organisation who hasn't reached the OP's high expectations!.

It's always worth getting some perspective if you are about to launch a tirade of outrage at someone. Even if it just means you employ less extreme language. There aren't many thing in our daily lives that actually warrant the sort of fury that AIBU contains from time to time. And if AIBU helps to dissipate that then it's doing a useful job.

ScaredBear · 18/10/2011 11:45

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HeadlessLamAAARRRGHHHH · 18/10/2011 11:49

ScaredBear beat me to it. GrinWink

MrsHuxtable · 18/10/2011 11:50

I always roll my eyes at the phrase in the current economic climate. I don't know why it annoys me so so much, because I do know times aren't rosy, but it just seems to be very overused.

AKMD · 18/10/2011 12:01

Why is there no stick-out-tongue emoticon?!

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PeggyCarter · 18/10/2011 12:11

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