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To change my name to something ridiculous before my wedding?

42 replies

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:32

I need to change my name before we get married because I changed it by deedpoll to be the same as the Dcs but now we are getting married I don't want to say do you mr sc take miss sc etc etc as it sounds like we are either related or already married.

So do I just change back to maiden name or do I do a Phoebe and become princess consula banana hammock or similar? Grin

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Themumsnot · 16/10/2011 21:35

Nothing wrong with the name you've already got. But if you want a change you could try reversing the initial consonants.

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:36

No I don't mean my mumsnet name, my actual legal proper name Grin

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gushofbloodtothefloor · 16/10/2011 21:38

Can't your celebrant just say 'Do you Jane take Peter...'

Surely everyone knows the name situation, not like there's going to be a sharp intake of breath from the audience?

Littlefish · 16/10/2011 21:39

In the wedding service, they use your first name, not your surname.

ie. Do you, Angelina take Brad to be your lawful wedded husband...

so you don't need to change your name at all.

gushofbloodtothefloor · 16/10/2011 21:39

Getting married in your Mumsnet name - now there would be a very wonderful thing!

(would the DPs have to register to get their own MN name for the wedding to take place?)

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:40

I know but it just doesn't feel right to me iyswim. And is a church wedding, dunno if that makes any difference

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onepieceofcremeegg · 16/10/2011 21:40

They generally don't say your surname during the marriage vows do they?

It's usually "do you Annabel take Paul" rather than Annabel Smith and Paul Smith.

I will lol if your real name is Annabel - I have no idea what your rl name is of course!

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 16/10/2011 21:40

But everyone at the wedding knows you're not related....or married already surely?

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:41

Oh do they littlefish, so I need'nt worry?

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onepieceofcremeegg · 16/10/2011 21:41

If you do decide to change it to something ridiculous (!) then possibly not your mn name, imagine that in a church Wink

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:42

Oh yes mn names would be fun.

Bugger I really wanted to be banana hammock

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StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:43

Yes mumbling I think so but it feels odd. I don't know why, I have mostly reverted to my maiden name anyway. In fact may convince dp to change his name instead

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onepieceofcremeegg · 16/10/2011 21:43

Oh go on, use your mnet name - and find some other mners with "interesting" names as bridemaids. Liven things up a bit!

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:45

Wanna be a bridesmaid then cremewgg, youngest change your name by deed poll mind. Is essential.

Btw ibthink some of you are taking it a bit too seriously Smile

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troisgarcons · 16/10/2011 21:46

Forgive me for pissing on your fireworks, but I've seen a certificate (from a much married woman) that went thus:

Mary Brown formerly Green, formerly White, Formerly Black, nee Grey, .... so it'll look a bit 'ooh-ahh' in 200 years when the geneologists get at it!

notlettingthefearshow · 16/10/2011 21:47

It's a real hassle changing your name. I wouldn't do it unless necessary.

Oh sorry are you not serious? What's your question then?

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/10/2011 21:50

YABU
don't be daft. I think you could potentially get told off by someone if you did that anyway. Changing names is supposed to be a serious, permanent thing. You sign a legal document swearing that you will stop using the old one completely and get everyone to use your new name. Doing that with the intention of changing it back again is a bit wrong. Plus unless you revert to your original name, you'd be getting married under a completely alien name Confused

I'm pretty sure you never lose the right to use your original name, so you could get married under that if you wanted to.

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:52

No it's actually very easy I've changed it before.

Trois, so with my name change already will it seem
Like I've already been marroed on certificates in years to come?

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StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:53

Eric, so I can still use my maiden name?

I know it sounds silly but I just don't want to marry dp whilst already having his name, it may sound irrational but I don't. Ini can use my old name that's fine.

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ZillionChocolate · 16/10/2011 21:54

My grandparents had the same surname before marriage. Coincidence rather than inbreeding.

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/10/2011 21:54

check in legal. I could be wrong since you used deedpoll rather than marriage.

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:56

Really zillion, that's kind of cool.

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onepieceofcremeegg · 16/10/2011 21:58

I'll be a bridesmaid! Although I think I'm probably a bit old now and I can't wear peach or lemon. I will lend you my beautiful dds though Grin

StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:58

Thanks Eric I might contact the deed poll people it does semsillynto change it to change it again. Thing is I felt silly having dps name and not being married that I reverted to my original name quite quickly anyway so although legally I am his name I actually think of myself as my name, not even sure I do want his name at all really. But inknow I don't want to marry him having his name already. I know that probably all sounds a bit unhinged Blush

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StuntCubble · 16/10/2011 21:59

A big peach puffball Grin.

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