in thinking someone needs to tell my dad's GF to stop feeding us!

[TeapotsInJune]

It is actually getting a tiny bit beyond a joke!

She regularly invites my husband and I around for a meal (with my dad) and cooks huge three course dinners with colossal portions, to the point where to be honest it's quite embarrassing. I ate until I was full to the point of bursting today but my plate still looked as if no one had touched it. As you're eating she constantly tries to make you take even more food.

My dad has gained a stone since being with her and I was sick after our meal today because I'd just had to eat so much and it's heavy, solid food - roast beef with around eight roast potatoes, three yorkshire puddings, massive dollops of carrots, peas, cauliflour. Pate and biscuits for starters and massive crumble fo pudding and my one portion would have fed four. I've asked her really nicely not to give me so much but she still piles my plate high.

My dad is really touchy about not offending her but I feel unwell when I have come away!

ideal roast dinner equals roasties, yorkshires, meat and gravy
and mashed swede!

I'd struggle to eat any of it as I find hugely piled plates really off putting.
I think you're just going to have to be a bit firmer and tell her it's too much, whilst complimenting her cooking of course.

Ok, the woman is serving a plate, the OP is shoving it in her own mouth.

Why has the person who serves the plate must carry the responsibility of how much the guest eats?

This is like those people who drink themselves stupid and then go and complain that it is other people's fault because they kept pouring more alcohol after they finished it.

The trick is simple... put the fork down. Be brave woman, it doesn't take all the guts in the world to say no to food (or ask for a doggy bag to take it home)

It does take a lot of willpower, believe me. I pointed out in a previous post that MIL cooked meals for miners not for sedentary workers. It took many years for her to get the message that if she was doing mince and dumplings we didn't need potatoes as well.

It doesn't help that she is an excellent cook.

However, like Netto, I now find an overfilled plate extremely off putting, and MIL now puts the food into serving dishes in the middle of the table.

I also think it is weird to carry on eating after you have been sick. Quite frankly that would be the last thing I would feel like doing after chucking up.

Could your dad encourage her to put a small amount of the basics (say meat and a few roasties) on plates, and other stuff in serving dishes at the table? That any uneaten food in the dishes could be eaten later, whereas food off plates has to binned. Reduces waste then, as leftover roasties make great patatas bravas, the meat could be made into a casserole , somebody might have god knows why though bubble and squeak.

If you're going to the loo to be sick in the middle of a meal, its not her food portions that are the issue IMO.

The mere fact that you see being sick as a response to the consumption of a large plate of food is rather worrying.

I'm not sure why you feel obliged to eat it all. Before she serves up the meal I would ask her if she could either put less on your plate or if you could serve yourself. If she doesn't want you serving yourself and still puts too much on you eat what you want and say "sorry, it was lovely but I did say I don't normally eat large portions".
Dealing with being given too large a portion is easier than too small a portion.
I'd rather my guests left food than went hungry, and she will only know it's too much for you if you start leaving food after telling her you prefer less.
If you aren't keen on leaving alot of food then be more assertive about serving yourself "to give you an idea of how much food I prefer to eat as I don't like facing a large plateful".
You and your father sound as though you have odd ideas about food if you think someone would be offended if you don't eat loads. Eating when you are full because you think it will make someone else happy is mad.
What hostess really wants her guests to leave the table feeling sick?