To feel put out that people think my son's a girl?

[AnotherJaffaCake]

This keeps happening when we're out. DS is 28 months old. He has longish hair, because it suits him and I like it. But he looks like a boy. He's dressed in boy's clothes. It isn't as if I put him in a pink frilly dress and then wonder why people get confused [hgrin].

AIBU to start thinking I need to draw a moustache on his face before we go out now? Or maybe I should get t-shirts printed with "I am a boy" on them?

I bloody hate long hair on boys.It looks untidy.Ponytails on boys look naff.

My DS has his hair cut every 6 weeks

He can 'self express' when he's 16 and have whatever he likes pierced.

My opinion. I don't have to be all politically correct. My child.My rules.

DS has curls and long eyelashes, I used to get this all the time. One woman actually asked me if it was sure he was a girl.

Err, a boy. [hgrin]

He's not even 3. He looks like a small human being, not like a boy or a girl.

Other people not being able to correctly determine the gender of your small child should not make you feel put out.

DS1 was always being mistaken for a girl (black curls, huge brown eyes, long lashes) and the little old ladies people making the error always said "oh he's too beautiful to be a boy". Doesn't happen now that he's a 6th second row.
I was mistaken for a boy until I was 19.
It's not a problem unless you think mistaking a boy for a girl is in some way demeaning (and that would be a very very serious attitude for a mother of a son to have IMO. )

My boys get it ALL the time. DS1 has long surfer dude type hair that he doesn't like cut, I just get it tided up 2 / 3 times a year. He's now 6 and corrects people and tsks at them. DS2 is 10 months old and I know he's a boy so don't really care that people think he's a girl. I like that DS1 so far is confident enough to be who he is and not be bothered about others opinions, long may it continue.

My DD does this on the bus... mummy look at that man... no DD that is a lady... no mummy it's a man, he has a moustache.. /facepalm

Yes - long hair is about being polically correct

I like long hair on boys.

Short hair looks naff

my child, my rules.

[hgrin]

with a pfft thrown in for good luck.

If you choose to let your son have long hair, then people will most likely think he's a girl. Several threads on here have long haired boys and there was another thread on boys hair at school.The school not allowing 'extreme' styles but parents allowing their sons to have long, untidy hair -which does get in the way, gets into their eyes etc.
The OP states "it keeps happening" , her DS is nearly 2.4 yo.

No-one has ever mistaken my DS for a girl (or my DD for a boy for that matter )

If it looks like a duck and it walks like a duck....its a duck.

But we'e lectured and heckled for sticking to stereotypes in clothing and toys so instead of telling people to mind their own, we 'conform' to the notion that we have to 'make a p-o-i-n-t' and dress our boys in pink and girls in Thomas the Tank Engine... daring anybody to accuse us of less than feminist credentials... and then we get antsy because people who bother to even notice our offspring, get the gender wrong.

Got this all the time with ds1, because he had long hair, a small face and big eyes.

I took it as a compliment - he has got a very pretty face.

Much rather my boys be mistaken for girls than my dd got mistaken for a boy....

Both my boys used to get mistaken for girls, for the first 8 or so years. Never bothered me.

Except no-one is actually getting angsty or more than slightly miffed are they?

No one is raging and jumping up and down.

The OP is lighthearted and so is everyone else.

My boys have long hair because they are mixed race. Its either a buzz cut, afro or locks.

I go for locks because I dont want them looking like little ganstas. I prefer locks because they are attractive and give off a different message from a bald head. Afros are beautiful but high maintanence.

I dont get the walk like a duck thing at all. If he has long hair he is a girl?

People think my boys are girls because they have feck all understanding of afro hairstyles. Braids/plaits = girly to them.

I dont give a toss what people think and I doubt the OP is that bothered either. AIBU isnt just for matters of grave import. It can be just for a nattery nonsense too.

I have pink clothes for my boys but they are boy's clothes. I dont think what they are wearing even registers. They could be dressed head to foot in sterotypical 'manly' attire and if people think they are a boy because long hair confuses them they will ignore the combats and 'I HAVE PENIS' teeshirt altogether.

I am not going to cut my kids hair because someone I dont know thinks its untidy or naff or girly. They cut it when they get big. My eldest boy has just cut off his locks . He is regreting it but it was his choice.

I had this problem all the time even AFTER the haircut, :/

had a head full of blonde ringlets and could be weraing dinosaur clothes all in blue and still we got 'aw what a lovely girl' :/

we've considered dressing him up for a laugh to see if anyone suspects haha

DS went through a phase of being mistaken for a girl.

His hair was longer than your average boys hair, although not really long, but he did have the most amazing, long eyelashes (in fact he still does) and I think some people associate that with girls maybe??

People used to think my daughter was a boy even when wearing pink clothes. I didn't care.

I have this a lot with DS2.

Shoulder length curls, big brown eyes, long eye lashes and he favours pinks, purples, oranges, yellow t-shirts. He chose his own trainers a few weeks ago which happen to be white with pink and turquoise on. He could easily be a girl tbh. He is the double of me at the same age except where he won't get his hair cut I opted for short hair and was often mistaken for a boy.

It didn't bother me as I was allowed to express myself just as I allow DS1 and DS2.

It is quite amusing when he is in his school uniform and people look at him not quite sure whether he is a boy or girl especially as he is quite a big 4yr old. (7-8yr old clothes, size 12 shoes)