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AIBU to not want a workman to poo in my toilet?

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 14:00

Earlier today I was having my boiler serviced and two men came to do it.

The older man said 'can I use your toilet' , I said 'yes of course' and directed him to the bathroom. Thinking he just needed to pass water

But he had a poo in it! He was in there a good 10 minutes and has colleague was looking embarressed as we chatted.

It stank ! Really stank ...why do people think it's ok to poo in someone elses house

Would it be unreasonable to refuse workmen toilet access in future [hshock]

I'm using the term workmen because I don't know what else to call them

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spiderpig8 · 14/10/2011 21:58

Creamola- Do you let guests crap in your toilet? Do your Dc have friends over, are they allowed to crap ? Would you be unhappy if your DC were at a friend's house and they were desperate for a dump but their mother told them they couldn't use the facilities?
I don't really believe this is genuine, but if it does I fear you may have some sort of obsessive compulsive disorder?

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 22:10

notsohappymummy if you were my friend you'd be more than welcome to use my loo. Though I'd understand if you didn't want to stay too and not think you were at all precious. My dad is a 'workman' and has a similar problem to you, it's not easy for him

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 22:28

i didn't not want him to shit in my toilet because of his job...I would be annoyed if Robbie Williams came round and pooed..and I like him

People should not poo on a foreign toilet..end of

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PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 22:33

Blimey what should people do on two week holidays?

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 22:38

hold it in and poo at home on return

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TalcAndTurnips · 14/10/2011 22:54

What about bears?

Would you allow a bear to shit in your loo, or are they for ever constrained to doing it in the woods; all for the purpose of perpetuating an age-old phrase?

KurriKurri · 14/10/2011 22:55

You like Robbie Williams? Shock Shock Confused

BustersOfDoom · 14/10/2011 22:56

Jeez, sorry OP but a toilet is a toilet. If you let someone use it then you must realise that there is a possibility that they might well have a shit. Does it REALLY matter? Should someone spend hours in discomfort or have to go elsewhere to find a toilet where shits are allowed because of your issues?

Be thankful this didn't happen to you though. When we bought our house it had been empty for months. All utilities had been turned off. The house needed quite a bit of work doing to it, so we had various tradesmen going in to give us quotes for re-wiring, damp proofing, central heating etc etc. They collected the keys from the estate agent before we exchanged with the agreement of the vendors. However on the day we moved in we discovered a huge, partially dried out turd sitting in a pool of congealed piss in our toilet. The water had been turned off so the culprit had been unable to flush and had just left it there. What a lovely surprise!

Several bottles of bog cleaner/bleach/toilet duck later and vigorous scrubbing whilst wearing about 3 rubber gloves on each hand there was no trace left but that really was disgusting. Still doesn't stop me from letting visitors/tradespeople use our loo though. And so long as they flush and wash their hands, I don't really care whether it's a number 1 or 2.

And as for not being able to poo in any toilet but your own. Please! Get a grip. You'll make yourselves ill!! Even the Queen poos. Do you think she waits til she gets home from a 2 week state visit for fear of people going in afterwards and thinking she made a bit of a smell?

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 22:59

Would you allow a bear to shit in your loo,

yes if he was catholic

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tigerdriverII · 14/10/2011 23:03

OMG

FFS

That's all I can say

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/10/2011 23:05

Creamola - you say he didn't have IBS - how do you know?

Someone with IBS can veer from constipation to diarrhoea and back within a day or two - I know I can. Either can lead to wracking stomach cramps, and either means I really need to go straight away, to relieve the cramps by pooing, and in case I am about to have a bout of diarrhoea.

Also, I can't always tell whether I'm bunged up or getting diarrhoea - so I don't honestly know how you could tell, just by looking at the man, whether he had IBS Even listening to the sound effects he produced wouldn't tell you whether he suffers IBS.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 23:08

because SDT it came up in conversation.

I'll not get into the ins and out

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/10/2011 23:10

Also - did you see the poster who said that they had to start providing loos on building sites, because builders had a higher than average incidence of bowel cancer due to holding in their poos. And you think it is sensible to go a fortnight without a poo? I sincerely hope you haven't passed this on to your children - do you want them to be ill, or to get so constipated that they need manual evacuation - which is medical-speak for someone rootling round in your bottom to extract the rock-hard poo that is impossible to pass normally and that could be damaging your bowel whilst it's there.

Oh - and if you do get that constipated, you can get something called overflow diarrhoea, where some very liquid matter gets past the rock-hard poos, and trickles out, and there's often nothing your sphincter can do about it because it is so liquid.

Think about that, and please, please ask a doctor if it is a good idea not to poo for a week or a fortnight, and do whatever you need to to get over this issue in your head, before you make yourself properly ill.

IslaValargeone · 14/10/2011 23:18

Please tell me you were not serious about holding in a poo for two weeks?

helpmabob · 14/10/2011 23:19

I am utterly astounded anyone has agreed with the OP -utter, total freaks!

I actually think if you refused a workman in your house access to a toilet he could take you to court. And if he couldn't he should.

Recently I have had desperate needs to use the toilet when out and had to go be it in a friend's house or a public toilet - there has been no choice other than to shit my pants.

Possibly the only solution for you op is to hand out adult nappies to those who pass your threshold.

You absolutely must be joking! I happen to think you are because you mentioned that if on holiday for 2 weeks you should hold it in until you get home. That would be so so unhealthy and if true then you will be the person who ends up knocking on stangers doors to shit in their toilet because it is trickling out due to damaged bowels.

helpmabob · 14/10/2011 23:19

I mean seriously this is definitely a wind up

tigerdriverII · 14/10/2011 23:20

SDT - don't you think you're going a bit off piste here?

OP is clearly being a big fusspot, but she isn't the cause of all bowel problems for all "workmen". And anyway, don't they all have those green Tardis things now to stop distressing their customers by cheekily asking if they can use the facilities? They certainly do round us.

2rebecca · 14/10/2011 23:21

Show me the research that showed holding in poos causes cancer. There isn't any. A change in bowel habit like constipation can be a symptom of bowel cancer but there is no evidence people prone to constipation have more bowel cancer than people prone to loose stools. Dietary factors can affect bowel cancer and they can also affect bowel frequency with high vegetable and fruit diets generally being preventative so that will complicate any research into this area.
I see no point in not pooing if you want to go and are near a toilet but don't believe that if you do you will get cancer, just constipated.

Thingiebob · 14/10/2011 23:38

OH. MY. WORD!

Is this for real?!

Creamola and Mr Bloom - you are both either incredibly childish or have some major hangups about bodily functions.

Whatmeworry · 14/10/2011 23:39

Is this serious?

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 15/10/2011 00:13

thingiebob I do have toilet hangups ...I don't like strangers shitting in my toilet.

Why is that so weird?

And for those worrying about Mr gasmans bowels ..he was in my house for 20 mins , 10 of which he spent in my bathroom.

It's not he was here all day

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maighdlin · 15/10/2011 00:28

shit happens

YABU.

Spuddybean · 15/10/2011 00:37

My dad is an electrician and on many occasions when he has worked at peoples houses they have asked him to go to the loo in their garden.

I find this extraordinarily soul destroying just at the thought. but he doesn't, which makes me feel even more sad. He grew up in slum housing and left school at 14. To study to be an electrician took longer than my degree, and he constantly needs to keep learning even in his 60's.

He goes to peoples houses, he is a professional, and some of the things said to him are shameful. If he needed to use a toilet, i think, i would hope, that another human being would allow him to use theirs.

littlemisssarcastic · 15/10/2011 00:40

Creamola For no logical reason, I do not like people shitting on my toilet either, unless they also live in my house...with the exception of DS, who doesn't live in my house atm, but he can shit on my toilet if needs be.

It is irrational imo, but that's the way I feel.

I find almost every single workman who comes to my house needs to use the toilet and I always say 'Yes, that's ok.' They almost never want a wee, they always want a poo.
What really gets up my nose much more than the rancid smell is that the workmen who use my toilet don't open a window, spray any air freshener, although the air freshener is there, and to top it all over, they always always leave sloppy skids down my toilet....even though I clearly have flushable wipes/toilet duck disposable toilet pads to clean it with etc etc.

They just walk back down the stairs amongst a fug of shitty smell..which travels throughout the house with a Grin face.

littlemisssarcastic · 15/10/2011 00:45

I admit it is irrational though, and I never refuse anyone to use the toilet, but I can't say I don't mind..although no one knows I feel this way, because I would never say.

There is nothing worse than using the toilet after someone else has to find the smell of shit hits you harder as you open the bathroom door, and the toilet seat is warm. Sad

I also had to listen to an indepth description of my DM's bowel movements last week, when she had worked herself into anxiety about going to the dentist, and apparently, as she kept telling me, the poo just kept running away from her, she couldn't stop it, it ran everywhere. [boak] Put me right off my dinner. Sad
I still didn't say anything though...it's obviously my problem.

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