I recently separated from my Husband for various reasons - infidelity, emotional abuse, controlling behaviour, never putting me and dcs first, long story! Another reason was that he has never done a thing to help me with the kids, never changed a nappy, given them a bath, read them a bedtime story, put them to bed, prepared their meal, dressed them, looked after them for more than half an hour without phoning me insisting I need to go home, taken them out to give me a break, seen to them in the night not a fucking thing.
I have had two colleagues at work recently say to me "don't you think that's your fault though?" Err.. no, I fucking don't actually. I am not one of these precious mothers who insists on doing everything for the kids, always asked him if he wanted to do these things and he always said no. Bearing in mind the other issues we had (emotional abuse) am I really at fault for not pushing him to do these things? He has a very controlling personality and standing up to him was not always that easy, something that my work colleagues are both aware of.
Should I take some blame or just tell them fuck off. It's just been playing on my mind a bit.