Spent a lot of time thinking I needed a man to make me happy. Then after a really dreadful relationship I decided I needed to be happy BEFORE I got into a relationship so that's what I worked on. Fast forward a few years - I work full time (13 hour shifts, 3 days a week), use the gym 3 times a week and pursue my favourite sport/hobby once a week. I also go out with friends probably once a month or so. I became involved with someone around 18 months ago and he's always known about my lifestyle and was seemingly okay with it. However now we're about to move in together I feel he's testing the water with changing me. He's started saying it would make sense for me to cut my gym time down to twice a week - do I REALLY need to go out with friends every month and maybe I should take a break from my hobby so I can spend more time with him. His concern is that we'll never see each other. My argument is I work 40 hours a week, usually Monday to Wednesday - therefore I have Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday off. Say I spend a couple of hours at the gym Thursday, Saturday and Sunday - my hobby is only an hour and a half on a Friday night. I don't think I'm being unreasonable in saying I won't be changing my lifestyle and if he doesn't like it, he'll have to reconsider what he wants. or AIBU?