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AIBU?

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Original poster

To want to hurt my Dh alot

43 replies

Ray81 · 09/10/2011 08:34

I know i am, i am 20 weeks pg with DC3 who we have just found out is a boy Grin we have 2 DDs so this is lovely.

The only thing is we cannot agree on a name, i come up with names he says NO and then says stupid names. Its realy bugging me more then it would ordinarily so hormones i think.

I LOVE the name Johnny because my grandad was John, he died earlier this yr and he was a great man i just realy want this name but DH wont have it which i think is unreasonable because it means alot to me.

So IABU arent i and can anyone give names suggestions we nee more ideas, i would like a tradional name as both DDs are.

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Kayano · 09/10/2011 08:38

Can he not be John nn Johnny like my dad?

Or a similar name like Jack?

YABU if he has vetoed it though... There must be other names and it is a joint decision. Also... Baby names section for this Wink

CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/10/2011 08:38

YABU to want to hurt your DH over a name. If you want traditional, you've got another five months minimum to come up with one you both like. Make 'John' a middle name, perhaps?

minimisschief · 09/10/2011 08:41

Well it doesn't really matter if the name means something to you if he doesnt like it.

Try coming up with a first name you both agree on then ask if john or johnny can be a middle name as a compromise.

IWantWine · 09/10/2011 08:43

:) Congratulations.

My first boy was going to be named after my Dad. There was no discussion! End of!

I reckon I did all the hard work so I got to choose the names :)

ladyintheradiator · 09/10/2011 08:44

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fedupofnamechanging · 09/10/2011 08:45

If my dh wanted to give our child a specific name, after a loved relative and I did not like the name, then I would say no too. I think it's only fair that both parents love the name that their child has.

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Ray81 · 09/10/2011 08:45

I know IABU i just cant help this feeling, he has agreed that we can have John as a middle name so that it something.

Cant have Jack as DN is Jack. I like Edward and Freddie Dh likes Thomas which i am not so keen on we cant seem to think of any others. Brain block or something Grin

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Ray81 · 09/10/2011 08:46

Lady i know i am being VERY odd am not usualy like this i realy do think it is hormones.

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cookcleanerchaufferetc · 09/10/2011 08:47

He s being unreasonable .... Unless it is the whole name association thing. For example, he may have been bullied at school by a Johnny, or johnny was the class clown who he hated. I can understand your DH not wanting johnny if there is a link.

MamaMaiasaura · 09/10/2011 08:48

Dont be daft!

I'm 38+1 weeks and we haven't chosen a name so you've got nothing to worry about at 20 weeks. Baby will be baby till we choose. Smile

Proudnreallyveryscary · 09/10/2011 08:48

I am very happy for you but this is a bit of an attention seeking thread.

Aislingorla · 09/10/2011 08:49

I had chosen a name for my son as soon as I knew I was pregnant, however, he simply did not look like a Mark (my fav boys name) and so he was nameless for a week while we thought of another.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 09/10/2011 08:51

where I grew up, 'johnny' meant a condom. If that is true where you are - don't do it! John as a middle name would be a good compromise.

I take it you've been on all the babyname websites for inspiration?

SamMiguel · 09/10/2011 08:52

Ray81, put it in Baby names or you won't get much help. Smile

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 09/10/2011 08:52

That's a bit unnecessary.

most threads are attention seeking threads.

In fact - ALL threads are attention seeking threads. Nobody posts on here ever unless they wish to attract the attention of others.

troisgarcons · 09/10/2011 08:52

Johnny will have connotations of a condom - ie rubber johnny. John is fine with johnny as a pet name.

clairefromsteps · 09/10/2011 08:55

Oh man, we had this with DD2. I was desperate for this particular name. I loved it. It went well with DD and DS's names. It was classic, but not fuddy-duddyish. Just lovely. But DH kept coming up with totally unsuitable names. No, DH, just no. However I kept my own counsel, put his weird suggestions on the list of potential names, and agreed with him that we'd wait until DD2 was born and see what she looked like before deciding on a name. When she was born I promptly used my hormonal post-baby tears to scare him into letting me have the name I wanted. Job done.

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Ray81 · 09/10/2011 08:56

Sam thanks will do.

Was hoping for some suggestions,too tbh.i have been to baby name websites and they all seem to be unusual names ifswim and DDs are very traditional names.

We chose and had DD1s name from 14 weeks and DDs from 21 weeks so think i am just used to having a name. The pg hormones are realy messing with me this time Grin

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Aislingorla · 09/10/2011 08:57

Jonjo? (dim. of John Joseph)

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Ray81 · 09/10/2011 08:57

Claire - now thats an idea Smile

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Proudnreallyveryscary · 09/10/2011 08:58

Sorry, it did sound a bit unkind....I suppose I mean it's okay to be attention seeking if it's an interesting or entertaining or funny thread.

Made it worse now haven't I..!?

Anyway CONGRATS OP!

Aislingorla · 09/10/2011 09:00

David, Phillip, Andrew, Michael, Simon, Paul, Robert.Mark.....
(All trad. and not overlly common these days)

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Ray81 · 09/10/2011 09:03

Love David but is my dads name and FIL would be put out i think.
Micheal is my brothers name and we dont get on
there are 3 Roberts in extended family.

I like Mark will put that on the list.

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 09/10/2011 09:06

So now not only is she attention seeking - she's boring too?

Would you like some salt with that foot? Grin

victorian baby names

traditional baby names

and here

here too

top 10s through the ages

and finally, biblical names you can normally find some good traditional ones there!

Athrawes · 09/10/2011 09:07

Our DS is called a welsh version of John, as his father is Jonathan and GF John. You could call your son Ewan, Evan, Ivan, Ian etc etc all of which mean John.

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