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AIBU?

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Facebook bollockery WWYD

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solidgoldbrass · 08/10/2011 22:37

So I had a teeny weeny strop and binned a few of my Facebook friends. One has PMed me to ask why. The truthful answer is 'Because you are a Sun-reading fuckwitted bigot, however amusing you can be in the flesh, and you are one of those people who is forever reposting lame shit like 'OMG sign this petition to get the nonces of Facebook, if you don't put this on your status you must be a nonce yourself'.' I have sent a wussy, waffly PM back as this is someone I have known for ages, along the lines of it being easy to ignore different viewpoints when you socialise but less so on Facebook, and best wishes to you matey....

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GnomeDePlume · 09/10/2011 01:37

Grow up and get off facebook would be my advice

DEADTiredmumno1 · 09/10/2011 02:01

TryLikingClarity · 09/10/2011 08:37

"If we're not friends on FB, we're not friends in RL"

Are you actually joking me???

That person needs to have a word with themselves about adulthood and the right to choose forums of communication!

I think it's all bollockery, tbh. Like being a teen again, only with less spots and better hair.

FlossieFromCrapstonVillas · 09/10/2011 08:42

I think Facebook has had it. I deleted my account a week ago, just another week to wait until it's properly gone into the ether (didn't just deactivate, if you want to delete they give you 2 wks to reconsider)

I feel liberated ! I can't tell you how good it feels to be rid of it.

Wurg · 09/10/2011 08:46

I was overjoyed when I found the hide button. I'm lucky in that FB is a mostly useful and pleasant experience for me as most of my mates are more interesting and better informed than me jolly good eggs.

However, one woman was constantly posting anti-children and anti-parent diatribes and linking to such fuckery as 'STFU Parents' and it was pissing me off. I hid her, she's fine in RL, everyone's happy.

littleacceb · 09/10/2011 09:04

I feel your pain - we're friends with a couple who are sweet in real life (they gave us an absolute tonne of their son's old clothes when our DS was born) but absolutely hideous on Facebook. His status updates are rants about gypsies and fat people, and hers are usually along the lines of "this has been the worst year of my life" and "you think you can trust someone and they always let you down". Gargh. The hide button was the best thing that ever happened. And then there's my cousin and her self-described anarchist husband who don't seem to understand that people need to pay tax or they wouldn't receive all the medical care they need. I actually had to put her on limited profile because she kept on leaving incredibly thick comments on my status. Oh Facebook.

Having said that, after a few too many racist and homophobic posts, I did unfriend the entire Disney community (don't judge ;) ) with whom I was friends on FB. One woman, who had really pissed me off with something about "bloody non-Christians", asked me why I had unfriended her and I lied and said I was just keeping social networking for friends that I knew in real life.

Good on you for giving her something close to the reason, even if it was wishy washy. Sounds like she's taking the feedback on board.

Soz, not particularly useful, but you are most certainly not alone! YANBU.

WhiteTrash · 09/10/2011 09:19

I deleted a bitch last week for posting a large photo of an aborted baby with a guilt tripping letter that started 'Dear Mommy...'

(it wasnt the one with the surgeon holding a babys hand whilst still in utereo, this was very much a post terminated baby. At a guess Id say 20 weeks gestation.)

I sent her a msg saying what the actual fuck? She sent one back saying "my daughter was only 5 weeks older than this when she was born. People need to realise..." I told her, oh shut the fuck up and fuck off. I was LIVID.

I deleted and blocked her. Our mutual friend then said she deleted it and put up a status saying she meant to press 'like' not re post it. So obviously others had complained too.

Stupid cow.

WhiteTrash · 09/10/2011 09:19

So to add, YANBU to delete people because if their shit views.

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solidgoldbrass · 09/10/2011 10:16

I binned another one because, though she is a gentle well-meaning sort of person a) I can barely bloody remember meeting her and b) she is a full-on woo-peddler and her status updates make my stomach heave with the desire to comment along the lines of 'Just how do you justify conning the bereaved with all this I-see-dead-people bullshit?'

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Malkuth · 09/10/2011 10:36

Just make sure you block them after defriending and that way it looks like your profile has disappeared when they search for you.

differentnameforthis · 09/10/2011 10:59

The only time I was pissed at being deleted is when my sister did it to me. Our brother said it was because I played mind games when in reality all I did was tell her to stop picking on our younger niece & her friend. She was calling them skanks & bitches. They are 18. She is almost 40.

Actually it's quite nice, no longer have to put up with her bollockery!

Thingumy · 09/10/2011 11:29

I'll delete anyone who fucks me off on farcebook,life is too short to read passive aggressive or uber boasty updates.

Facebook tends to make people childlike and needy,it's all a bit sad.

harrietlichman · 09/10/2011 11:39

I also deleted mine three weeks ago, initially thinking I would stay off it for a week or two then reinstate with hidden, non searchable profile etc with ONLY the people I actually wanted to stay in touch with on it. I had made the mistake of adding some of the Playground Moms who are not actually my real friends - just women I happen to stand next to twice a day! I was so sick of learning all the ins and outs of their daily lives, and felt I had no escape from other people's business. Now I am reluctant to go back on - people I really, really want to keep in touch with have got my mobile/email address, and I love the fact that when I see people out and about I no longer know what they cooked for tea last night/how glad they are it's Friday/how much they love their kids etc etc etc!

slartybartfast · 09/10/2011 11:40

i did a facebook cleanse recently

i got a new friend who i then remembered i had deleted before, when i went to delete them again

Thzumbiewitch · 09/10/2011 11:43

Can't believe people bother to ask why they've been deleted. If someone deletes me and doesn't bother to send me a message to tell me why, then that's their ishoo. Couldn't care less.

iFailedTheTuringTest · 09/10/2011 12:12

I'm hidden, not searchable etc. There is a big cliquey group at work who are all fb mates. They know I am on fb, and a few did ask how to find me so I did tell them that I only use fb for keeping in touch with friends I know irl, but don't get to see very often, like old college friends. And that in the nicest possible sense I didn't see the point of being fb friends with people I saw every day sort of thing. And not at all that they are a bunch of mindless vapid whingers who I am not the slightest bit interested in...

RainboweBrite · 09/10/2011 12:34

Ooh, am getting so tempted to deactivate. Part of it is my own neediness- have had enough of feeling annoyed when people don't comment or like my status. Completely agree with what Thingummy said: "Facebook tends to make people childlike and needy,it's all a bit sad." Should I just take the plunge?

TryLikingClarity · 09/10/2011 14:25

Yes, Rainbowe do it!

You are an adult, don't need to spend time reading what your neighbour 3 door down cooked for tea last night, what Great Auntie in New Zealand is doing etc etc.

I've never used it, as it just isn't my sort of thing and from an outsider pov I just see it as being a place for grown adults to harp on like kids, boasting about how great they are, whinging about work and other guff. No!

babyheavingmassofmaggots · 09/10/2011 14:38

Deleting twatbagders fools from Facebook is wonderfully cathartic.

Passive-aggressive or chain statuses are the two key ways that people either get booted off my FB or added into my Numpty Fuck group.

Facebook is a strange place though. I've heard about grown women deleting other grown women based on a trumped up story and a snit about them being more "facebook friendlier" with someone else.

Is it something about Facebook that makes folk forget their real age and act like a tween?

PinotScreechio · 09/10/2011 15:15

I wonder if facebook has had it's time?

SwearyMary · 09/10/2011 15:15

It is, babyheave. I have had some cunts friends who litter my FB with such utter bollocks that I could scream. That coupled with the pathetic childish behaviour most some people display is unbelievable. You would catch me posting crappy links to other websites
Also the friends that persist to post 'woe is me' statuses also get short shrift.

SwearyMary · 09/10/2011 15:18

I don't think so Pinot unless you've had a tip off......where should we all jog off to, if thats the case?
You could try Twitter

babyheavingmassofmaggots · 09/10/2011 15:19

I have one person who always posts "I'd like a night out" if I ever post about going out for the evening.

Every time I read it I can't help but think "if you want a night out with me then pick up the phone and suggest we go out somewhere for the evening. Otherwise excuse me if I don't invite you out on my works do"

SwearyMary · 09/10/2011 15:21

Shit, is that me? babyheave

PinotScreechio · 09/10/2011 15:24

I don't know the alternative SM, I don't think google+ has made the impression it wanted to. I do like Twitter though.

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