DD slapped at school

[doinmummy]

AIBU to expect some feed back from my DD school after she was slapped round the face by another pupil? I went to the school on the day it happened and spoke to the deputy head who said he would deal with it. The girl who slapped my daughter was taken home by her mother and was kept off school for 2 days. I would like to know what action the school has taken. I phoned and left a message but no one from the school has called me back. AIBU to not want the 2 days that the girl had off to be classed as punishment and want the school to exclude her? AIBU to expect the school to let me know what they have done about this?

Update....the girl who did the slapping has threatened my daughter again. Phoned the school ..noone has phoned back.

i actully think i'm more upset with the school as bullying has occurred in the past and all the school keep saying is that they have to remain impartial. I would just like to know that they are keeping an eye on things and that this wont occur again.

Actually they need to recognise that right and wrong is not a grey area. Email the head and cc in the head of year and form tutor. It can't be ignored and they will have to respond. Ask to see their bullying protocol and make sure that it's adhered to. If your daughter is assaulted again take it to the police.

I would email asap and say if you have no response today then you will be contacting the police.

Can you go down to the school is person?

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As the girl has threatened her again i would report her to the police. i suspect there is a very good chance the police will say it is a school matter (I had a friend beaten up by a former classmate who had now left the school, outside the school gates. The police refused to do anything as it was a school matter despite the attacker not even being at the school, and the attack not taking place in school grounds anyway).
I would also remind the school that they have a duty of care to your daughter, and they are legally responsible if they ignore the fact she is being hit and threatened.
I think it is a very difficult situation to be in to be honest, as if you stick by your rights and call the police it could esculate the matters, but I know if a work collegaue slapped me and threatened me I woudl have no hesitation reporting them.

unfortunately school life will involve some fighting and slapping, I wish it wasn't so

girl has been punished, you cant have her excluded for this.

I know its horrible, but do try and have some perspective

and of course keep an eye our for further instances, as I am sure you will

OK if she is still threatening, get police involved. if nothing else it will scare the slapper off

None of your business to know how she was punished. That is between the child, the school and her parents. Your business is solely to concern yourself with your child's safety and wellbeing and whether the school is addressing that.

I would have involved the police immediately. We all need to send out the message loud and clear that physical violence in any situation cannot be tolerated. I had some problems with DS1 when he was about 15, another boy was going round spraying aerosol on other pupils clothes and then setting them alight - when it happened to DS1 the back of his hair was scorched and
the varnish on his chair damaged. To begin with the school refused to accept it had happened, despite the fact that 4 boys came forward to make statements. After a week of inactivity I said I would contact the police - pointing out that Arson being reckless as to endangering life carried life imprisonment - they soon acted to investigate and exclude then. They kept me fully informed throughout and I did expect to know what action had been taken as if it had been just a "talking to" I would have proceeded with a police complaint.

If we allow out children to be violent and abusive they will behave that way later on in adult life.

P.S. If the police say it is a school matter that is incorrect, they are required to act on a complaint and you can ask to see the duty inspector who will take action. Of course if you go to the police they certainly will let you know the outcome - if you want to be sure appropriate action is taken this is the only way forward.

I was all set to be "Police? For a slap?"

But if your DD has been bullied, had threats made and physical violence towards her, get them involved. Even if it just puts everything on official record so something can be done in the future. It doesn't mean the kid will have a record at this stage.

When we lived in London there was a big fight between 2 of the year 3 kids which involved slamming each other with lunch boxes and one of them ended up with a very black eye.

The Head called the community policeman in for a chat about assault with the kids and the parents. It showed she meant business imo.

Thankyou for all your comments. I did eventually speak to the pastoral teacher today...I had to call her AGAIN. She informed me that they have taken no action . I told her about the continued threats and she said she would look into it. I wait with baited breath.

Lots of comments are focused on the 'slapper' , obviously my main concern is my daughter and her well being. I feel she is entitled to go to school in the knowledge that she wont be assaulted again or intimidated. If I dont get any feed back from the school then I will contact the police.

Yes, you're spot on. Your daughter and her well being must be your priority, and the school surely have a duty to keep her safe.