to feel odd that DD called me mama?

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DD called my 'mama' today - like properly, meaning me.

I'm her guardian

AIBU to be really freaked out and not know what to do?
If anyone asks she is my DD but I have never referred to myself as 'mama/mammy/mam' to her
I know I'm doing that role but her mam is someone else - my best friend to be exact.

I just... I feel odd about it. AIBU to feel odd about it? like I'm betraying BF?

my dd called me mama, consistantly up untill she was about 4 it was a word made up by her self she was never instructed to call me mama, nor i or anyone had ever refered to me as mama and she had never heared anyone else as mama. she was about 10 months when she first used mama.

she is 5 now and stills crys mama or calls out mama in the night or in the morining if she wakes and its mama when she comes out of school each day. but other wise its palin old boring mum these days.

I would definatly go with it if I where you.

don't really think that was the point festi

OP - you are not betraying your best friend, you are honouring her by looking after and raising her DD in a way she would be proud of. She obviously thought enough of you to place DD in your care. To your DD you are mama, you are her mum. When she is older she will know about her other mum. Having one doesn't mean she can't have the other. Hope you have something good planned for her b'day.

I have foster parents who I call 'mum' and 'dad' and my biological parents are 'mummy' and 'daddy'. My foster parents have done everything for me that a 'real' parent would and it would be a disservice to them to call them anything else.

In time you will tell her all about her biological mother and she will understand the difference. For now just enjoy your time with each other. Also if your BF didn't trust you to love and care for that little girl as a DD she wouldn't have made you her guardian.

Xxx

In no way are you betraying your best friend. Let yourself have this moment. your DD and best friend obviously had good taste in people. One day she will know about her other - tummy mummy.

what was not what point 1more?

I was validating for OP any child can use that term un coached and if that is the childs chosen name for Op then she should go with it.

Because that wasn't what OP was feeling odd about - it wasn't her DD using the word Mama.
It was OPs feelings about DD calling her mama (in the way that young children call their DMums Mama when they are very young - guesing here) and OP feeling that meant she was betraying her best friend by being happy about it and her odd/conflicting feelings about DD calling her a name that identified her very much so as her mum (not just her DD identifing her but would also mean others identifing OP in that role)

Don't most older babies call anyone MaMa though?? Mine did

OP you are not betraying your friend - celebrate the fact that DD sees you that way and make sure (which I'm sure you would do anyway) that she knows all about her other mum.

• I presume then going on what spiderpig8 said that she is just calling you Ma-ma and no one else and it is very much her name for you?

1more, I understood the jist of the OP actually I was just adding a reasuring point to the OP

"mother" is a verb as well as a noun.....and you are the one mothering her, and therefore deserve for her to call you Mama. She'll WANT someone to call Mum/my as she grows up.

Your poor BF gave her life and will always be her mother,but YOU are mum -as your friend wanted. :-)

You are to her 'mama'. Though it may seem strange to you but as tiptop says you are mothering her. In time you will be able to talk to her about your BF her bio mum (no offence meant by that BTW) You sound liike you are doing a great job :)