To go for coffee with ex f*ck buddy

[apachepony]

Or perhaps more ex friends with benefits. Banged into him during work today, he sent text after. Would be good to meet for a chat, were friends (with benefits) for over 5 of my most formative years in my twenties. However last time I met him it turned into the most almighty mess with my now dh screaming abuse at him down the phone. Still, would like to meet for a chat...he's cheeky as ever...Aibu?

Its the lack of conviction in your posts that is jumping out at me...

All emotions should be gone

I think I am pretty trustworthy

Back in the day I dealt with constant daily communication as maturely as I could but did find it hard sometimes and felt that I was in a way owed being allowed to be friends with ex fb. Don't feel so much now

And also the lying by ommission

Whatmeworry I don't want to sleep with him! Well told dh I met him but mentioned no texts or potential coffee meetings and that's the way it'll stay!

You are clearly either not over this man or not 100% about your marriage. Either way, lying to your husband is shitty and no, you should not meet this man.

I agree with Bogeyface.

Be in love with your husband.

Unless your DH likes threesomes, I'd let it slide...

On your DH getting upset...did you know that it was going to be an engagement party when you invited your ex-sleeping buddy? Did he invite an ex-gf or his ex to the engagement party?

If you knew it was going to be an engagement party and he didn't invite an ex to the party, then he was already upset and went over the edge after discovering that you went drinking with him the night after your engagement party.

Just not being very thoughtful at all and I am not surprised he blew his top. He did go overboard, though, but you were clearly in the wrong.

And I agree with many on this thread that you still want to play with fire though knew better.