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to want to just go for a quiet run without

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MissM · 26/09/2011 20:20

... some bloke passing comment? Tonight it was 'My tits are bigger than yours sweetheart'.

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bangcrash · 27/09/2011 08:05

I sometimes get offered chips as i pass by those on the way back from the multiple take outs on the roads near by where we live. Always makes me grin. I like to run in the dark best feels smoother somehow.

SnakeOnCrack · 27/09/2011 08:21

I have people talking or commenting while I'm running. Leave me alone!

I'd assume that someone saying good luck to me whilst I was running was either being sarky or patronising.. but I'm sure you mean it well!

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 27/09/2011 08:30

Fuck off tends to work alright for me! I am not known for my witty one linersBlush

When I run along the seafront hardly anyone acknowledges my nods and smiles, when I run cross country or inland on country roads we all smile and say helloConfused Even the cyclists say helloShock

I am a friendly type and like to acknowledge other runners but there really are some grumpy sods out there!!

Andrewofgg · 27/09/2011 08:47

Neither sarky not patronising and thetasigmamum you are free to ignore me!

CardiCorgi · 27/09/2011 08:56

You could switch to rowing, then you get "row, row, row your boat" sung at you from the bridges. No, really, I have never heard that one before.

rubyrubyruby · 27/09/2011 09:00

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Doodlez · 27/09/2011 09:06

Oh listen - I was running and my bra snapped (catch broke). I have droopy, middle-aged tits and a flabby belly with its own orbit. So, I carried on running with me tits slapping against me belly and the two pensioners ahead of me thought I was giving them a round of applause Blush

Pan · 27/09/2011 09:10

no, I'm 6 foot and about 14 stone wit ha shaved head, and no-one male or female has wished me 'good luck'. Strange. I suspect the 'good luck' thing is reserved.

MrsVidic · 27/09/2011 09:12

I usually get "you're brave" but I do usually push my kids round in the running pram when I go so I understand.

disparatefishwife · 27/09/2011 10:19

just out of interest andrew do you extend this good luck wish to all runners/joggers or just women?
If it's the latter then I would suggest that this comes across as patronizing at best and at worst slimy.
Why do you need to comment at all?

MissM · 27/09/2011 10:27

Rubyrubyruby believe me I do not feel flattered by the comments I get. If it was some gorgeous, intelligent, sensitive, gentle-looking guy who resembled James McAvoy, Jim Sturgess, Colin Firth as Mr Darcy or Michael Fassbender I would run with my head held high. Unfortunately they seem oblivious to my charms.

Andrew, personally, I would also interpret your comment as patronising, but I suppose it depends how you say it. And as others have said, I never get the comments when I'm running off-road, just on the street.

Interestingly a long time ago when my body was pre-kids and therefore marginally worthy of comment, I managed to time my run just as the whole of the Manchester United stadium emptied after a game. Not one bloke (and there were thousands) commented.

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tiddlerslate · 27/09/2011 12:32

Doodlez - just snorted tea out my nostrils :)

TurkeyBurgerThing · 27/09/2011 12:40

Are you in Gravesend OP? If you are it was probably my brother. Next time punch him in the face and tell him his sister thinks he's a twat and would fuck off and live on the Moon.

Theala · 27/09/2011 12:55

Oh christ, Doodlez, that had me in tears.

I sometimes smile and nod at fellow runners, because I think that's nice to acknowledge others. That's all that needs to happen, although a 'hi' or other friendly greeting is also nice. If someone said "good luck" to me, I would take it to mean "you look like you're going to pass out any minute now, you unfit lump", but maybe thta's just me being paranoid. :o

eurochick · 27/09/2011 13:00

"Good luck" is massively patronising. It's suggesting your running skills aren't going to get you round but luck might!

I run with my ipod on full blast so I don't hear anything above that other than the occasionals car horn.

Rollergirl1 · 27/09/2011 14:31

I once had a bonkers woman gesticulating at me as I was about to run past her in the opposite direction. So I stopped and took my earphones out and the blasted woman actually asked me for directions!!! I was utterly utterly perplexed that she had stopped me. It was during the day and there were other people about, why did she have to target me? In any case I didn't know where she was talking about and told her and trotted off. Anyway, on my way back some 10 mins later I met the same woman in the same place and she tried to stop me again!! Some people are totally oblivious.

Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 14:38

Andrewofogg, if I walked up to you and said "you know, your butt cheeks are on show and your back tits are larger than my front" or anything equally absurd, you should know I mean no harm, and you are free to ignore me!

Ormirian · 27/09/2011 14:40

"Fancy a rub down love?" was my favourite Hmm

Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 14:42

I have just taken up running, now that I dont have any mountains to climb.

And while I have great stamina for a 7 hour mountain trip, I have little stamina for explosive cardiovascular.

If somebody made me a comment, I think I would cry, or go home in shame.
Especially a "good luck" comment. It hints that I need a darn good piece of luck to get a cross the park, or down the street, or whatever.

But I suppose that is what men who comment wants. To upset women. I see no other point. Why else patronise?

merryberry · 27/09/2011 14:44

At a light tangent, a younger bloke runner overtook my DH in regent's park Sunday morning and rounded a corner. DH ran round too and the bloke had stopped and asked him 'Have you got a light?' holding up his fag. looked affronted at DH's 'Are you kidding me?' and ran off at speed to catch up with the next runner.

merryberry · 27/09/2011 14:45

light=slight:)

larrygrylls · 27/09/2011 14:47

What a load of narcissists on this thread. It used to be normal to say hello to people on passing them. A cheery "good morning" or "enjoy your run" is what I normally say. I am happy when someone smiles at me and says something if I am out running. What is this self obsession? Sure, comments re tits are a bit vulgar but nothing that a grown up ought not to be able to deal with. I am assuming this was in broad daylight and did not seem threatening.

Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 14:48

Larry, I am sure you have never encountered a female who would leer at you and say "oohoy, dangling willy, how is it hanging there" or something similar.

A nice smile, or good morning in passing is nice and polite.

OTheHugeRaveningWolef · 27/09/2011 14:49

No-one ever makes comments when I'm out running. Perhaps it's because my norks are modest and don't really bounce at all once I've clamped them down with a load of Nike elastic Sad

larrygrylls · 27/09/2011 14:52

Quint,

I would be quite complimented but I realise males and females are not analogous in that regard. But why is "good luck" patronising? I wished a mate good luck before he started a marathon and he was a 2:45 runner. There is no assumption of superiority in it, unless you make it so.

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