To be insulted by my MIL's idea of a gift for DD

[MsWetherwax]

DD is her 1st Grandchild. She is 3 months old. MIL returned from a shopping break to New York last week bearing thewanky generous gift of a christmas tree decoration with DD's name on it. In September. Am I wrong to think this is a bit odd?

[AgentZigzag]

It's a keepsake, I agree it's nice of her to think of your DD.

Did she have a nice time?

[Wigeon]

I think it's nice of her! Maybe it wasn't to your taste? Or you think the personalisation is a bit tacky? But I'm not sure why you would feel insulted. I think it's kind of her to think of getting a present for your DD when it wasn't her birthday or Christmas. I'm sure my mum has given far stranger things to my DDs which we have been grateful for!

[CaptainMartinCrieff]

How can this be insulting? It's a gift (admittedly given early) but what is insulting about it?
Insulting would be if she gave you the gift whilst wearing a 'I hate my Daughter in Law' t-shirt!

[PumpkinBones]

I don't understand what you are being over-sensitive about? What's the problem?!

[Hulababy]

Wouldn't see that as odd. Ok, a bit early for Christmas but it can be the start of a new tradition - a new tree decoration each year to add to the tree. DD does this every year after her great grandparents sent her one a little while before her first Christmas.

[TastyMuffins]

Better a tacky bauble you can hang at the back of the Christmas tree for a couple of weeks than a giant stuffed toy that can never be hidden anywhere and is far too big to ever be able to lose.

Timing's a bit odd but more so if it was a trip to the local shops rather than a big trip.

[ZillionChocolate]

I think it's a nice idea. Nothing wrong with giving it early, saves you getting one made yourself and ending up with duplicates.

A "my mommy's a bitch" babygro would have been insulting!

[TheSydenhamSet]

? it's a lovely keepsake. you're ungrateful.

[chrisrobin]

I think its lovely.
My PiL were in America when DS1 was born and they brought back personalised christmas tree decorations for him, he is now 5 and loves putting his named ornaments on the tree. I don't think there was much they could have bought a newborn in America that would have been very different to anything they could have bought here. TBH ,I think they also liked telling shopkeepers that they were buying it for their brand new first born grandson too!

[SmethwickBelle]

Awww, YABU I think it is sweet.

[Beamur]

Maybe it's not to your taste (fair enough) - but I wouldn't be insulted. Look at this another way - she's obviously thinking about your DD when on holiday and at the prospect of the first Christmas with her new GD on the scene.
The fact that it's maybe not what you would have chosen yourself, doesn't mean your MIL doesn't care.

[CaptainMartinCrieff]

It's not 'handcrafted'. It's a 'bog standard' plastic bauble!!!! the sheer nerve of the woman! How very dare she!?

[MsWetherwax]

I wasn't expecting anything, I just found it an odd thing to give her in September thats all. You're all right, I'm an ungrateful wretch.Thank you.

[Beamur]

you're welcome

[onepieceofcremeegg]

I think that personalised Christmas decorations are more popular/widely available in the States.

My dd has several - my mum brings them back from trips. :) I quite like them. She (mum) likes to think that when dd leaves home she will already have a little collection of her own baubles/decorations.

[lollystix]

Give her a break FFS - even if it's not your taste, she meant well and was thinking of her granddaughter. Please don't try to find fault when it's not warranted.

[onepieceofcremeegg]

btw, you have been sensible/gracious on this thread, accepting that you have been ungrateful!

[onepieceofcremeegg]

Ease up a bit now on the op, see her post of 21:57 :)

[frutilla]

She probably got excited when she saw there was one with your DD's name on and thought you'd be delighted. I'm assuming she gave your DD something when she was born or is this the 1st gift?

[MsWetherwax]

I fully accept that IABU. My bad.

[Iggi999]

Did MIL give you anything when dd was born, or was this the first gift?

[Iggi999]

Oops, what fruitilla said.

[PumpkinBones]

AIBU to think it is odd to give an xmas decoration in September is VERY different to AIBU to be insulted by choice of gift from MIL!!!

[MarginallyNarkyPuffin]

Go look. There's already a Christmas thread up and running!

Well done for accepting that you were a bit harsh.