Not to take my DC to my nephew's party or buy him gifts

[HidingInTheBathroom]

For the past 3 years my BI and his partner has put on big parties for their son my nephew. He is a lovely boy. My problem is they have not once bought a card or a present or even sent a text wishing any of my children a happy birthday. I have invited them to my children's parties but each time they always say they have something on on each of my children's birthday.

I have always brushed it to one side and have always got him presents and cards as he is my only nephew and I think it is not his fault his parents are thoughtless.

But I have got to the point that this year I should do the same to them. It is not as if I wanting gifts but even a text message saying tell them happy birthday would be enough for me. So it is his birthday in 2 weeks and the invite has come for my nephews party. I have nothing planned for the day but AIBU to say they are not attending and don't even bother sending a gift and a card. Or should I bight my tongue and take my kids to the party and get him a present.

I had simular situation and I went down the annoying present route[evil emoticom] I got my DN a horrible bodyparts science kit,( the one where he makes fake blood, brains, snot and innards!!) so he could use it in their new sparkling white and unnervingly clean kitchen!

I love the idea of buying him a toy that will piss the parents off. His mother is clean freak. Nothing out of place. Unlike Me 3 kids and work full time please let me off if my house is a little untidy. I think the present is going to be messy as messy as I can cheaply afford

Cheers every one

My sister stopped inviting my DC to her kds parties as "its too expensive" to have cousins AND schoolmates....but I always invite hers because my DC want their cousins....if your DC wants to go, rise above your sisters behavio and let them...but after the party...a week later...tell her how you feel. No card is unforgivable year after year

Messy or...

a trumpet!

Paint is nice & cheap . Just don't bother buying any paper - the walls will do nicely [evil grin].

Messy will just get put away or chucked. I second the trumpet

Oh yes - a trumpet! You simply must!

If you think your DCs will enjoy the party then take them. If you take them then take a present. Birthday present etiquette for children is more about attending the party than reciprocity anyway (slightly different for cousins I know, but still..)

two wrongs don't make a right. You would be taking it out on an innocent child.

I would by a battery operated noisy toy, one of the ones that kids love but adults hate.

Fire engine with a siren....

Just don't go, cut the passive aggressive stuff. You don't want to go you don't want to go. Nothing to feel guilty about.

If you going to give a messy present then make sure you open at the party and and let everyone make a lovely craft item ....

Nothing battery operated, batteries can be removed. I think instruments are the way to go definitely :o

Go only if your dc want to go, and buy playdough or moonsand.

A recorder, the tuneless droning goes straight through me.