To tell friend her cm drinks while looking after her baby?

[Mrsgilbertgrape]

Have pretty much solid proof.

Cm watches friends 8mo 2 days a week on one these days she has lunch out with friends and takes baby along.

I had heard she has wine with her meal but never thought much of it but she has just posted on her Facebook that she is looking forward to her bottle of wine with her lunch tomorrow, someone posted "a full bottle at lunch time? ;)" and she replied "why not? It's only once a week"

Aibu to tell my friend (who does not have Facebook) cm
Does not drive so I'm not worried about her drink driving or anything but surly she should not be getting paid to get half pissed while watching a baby.

YADNBU. If any of my friends had even a suspicion that my CM was drinking while being paid to care for my children, I'd want to know. The extent of their certainty would then dictate how I dealt with it from there. To my mind, it's completely unacceptable irrespective of whether it's a glass or a bottle. A glass of wine may not render someone incapable of looking after a child (I've had a glass or 2 of wine when out for dinner with my own children), but she's on the job, and that makes a difference.

(and while what's said on Facebook may not be gospel, it strikes me as a little unprofessional to even make the suggestion she'd go out with her mindees and drink a bottle of wine. But then I'm uptight )

I take umbrage at the word 'mindees' than a glass of vino. Am I more, or less uptight?

IIWY I'd tell your friend.

The CM is working and should not be drinking a bottle of wine with lunch.

Deflated - My CM uses that word. I have only this minute discovered it is Not An Actual Word. Now I am highly mortified outraged. I shall insist she attend a relevant course

(And you are less uptight. I'm not hanging over my Uptight crown without a fight )

I wouldn't have a bottle of wine with lunch if I had my own children with me, let alone if I was childminding!

I don't think the glass of wine is relevant tbh. She is being paid to look after an 8 month old child, who needs engagement and play, not a couple of hours strapped in their buggy bored shitless. She only looks after the child two days a week, surely she can do lunch and get pissed on one of her other days (unless she has other children on these days.) I would tell your friend that her CM is neglecting her child on a weekly basis. How would those of you who have their children in nurseries feel if the staff on a weekly basis strapped your DC into a buggy and went to Macdonalds for a couple of hours. Being a childmnder is a professional job and she is giving those who work bloody hard a bad reputation! I'm not one btw

I want to know whether she is registered - where is OP?

Often folk refer to casual carers as childminders, and OP says the person watches the baby, I am inclined to think not registered

Obv not on, doubly so if registered CM, as joben says, gives the profession a bad name