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AIBU?

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aibu or just sensitive?

95 replies

MrsC1977 · 18/09/2011 17:18

Hi, myself, hubby + daughter (2) were invited to a childrens party. This was an invite from a mum who goes to the same playgroup as me. This party was arranged 3 weeks ago, and the mum kept asking me at playgroup if I was going and what food would dd eat at the party etc. Anyway, we went today and it was awful, the mum didn't say hello to us or even acknowledge we were there. So we left after 10 mins, husband was fuming and said this mum was damn right rude. I don't understand why she didn't even come and say hello and make us feel welcome, after all the conversations we had regarding her sons birthday party and if were going. Aibu? Or just sensitive? This is our first party we've ever taken dd to and jjust felt disheartened.

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Sofabitch · 18/09/2011 17:43

Is glad my friends are a bit more understanding than the op. Otherwise nearly all would have left. Yabvu. A party for a 2yr old is busy stressful and it's unlikely you were top priority.

baguettecut · 18/09/2011 17:43

You'd think if you'd made friends over a number of weeks at a playgroup you'd have a hold on what the host Mother was really like, and perhaps allow her an off/busy/preoccupied afternoon, wouldn't you?

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 18/09/2011 17:44

that's what I was thinking baguette - If this was out of character, then I'd want to think why.

Honeydragon · 18/09/2011 17:44

the op won't return, she never does Hmm

notherdaynotherdollar · 18/09/2011 17:44

is OP the guest from previous thread who on being refused entry sat in car on drive with two small twins and refused to move for two hours LOL

MigratingCoconuts · 18/09/2011 17:44

blimey!

I don't think you'll be invited again!

notherdaynotherdollar · 18/09/2011 17:46

the op won't return, she never does hmm

oh. One of those

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/09/2011 17:46

Does she have "form" honeydragon?

Honeydragon · 18/09/2011 17:51

I'm being a cow, i'm sorry, I just remembered a previous AIBU that struck home with me about fathers day cards. Everyone was a bit why? And no response forth came Grin

I wish I could remember where I put credit card rather than old mnet threads though Grin

warthog · 18/09/2011 17:54

actually yanbu

if she deliberately blanked you at the party, she was bloody rude.

OldBagWantsNewBag · 18/09/2011 17:58

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pink4ever · 18/09/2011 18:15

Why did you take your dh with you to a kids party-my dh would rather stick a hot poker in his eye? I am naturally sociable and would probably make an effort to greet/chew the ear off all the parents but then I am also a feckless mother who wouldnt be bothering to look after the feral kids!
You sound beyond precious.Really.

clam · 18/09/2011 18:29

Wow! You have some serious amends to make at playgroup this week!
Don't epect any more party invites. Word will get around.

slavetofilofax · 18/09/2011 18:33

You did take a present right?

YABVU. You and your dh are rude.

Honeydragon · 18/09/2011 18:36

I wondered about a gift too.

SuePurblybilt · 18/09/2011 18:44

I know someone who brings the whole family along when her 6yo DD gets an invite. Husband, two younger siblings and all Hmm.

OP, please come and clarify the gift thing?

forrestgump · 18/09/2011 18:51

What did you do to get your dh to go to a pre school party? - I would have to promise mine weeks of passion in the bedroom to get him to go to any birthday party other than one of our own kids, and I need my sleep!

I hope your daughter isnt dis heartened by only 10 minutes at a birthday party.

CrackerFactory · 18/09/2011 18:54

I agree OP is being unreasonable but I dont see anything wrong in going with DH. My DH does most of the parties but without me as I have enough of it all during the week Grin

SwingingBetty · 18/09/2011 18:56

i dont think my OH has ever been to a kids party (except our own obviously) in 20 years lol

mumeeee · 18/09/2011 19:05

YABU. It's quite normal for host parents to behave like that. She would have been making sure that the children were okay. Did you tell her you were leaving. If you didn't then you were very rude. Also the host Mum would have had to pay for toy DD and she won't get a refund. I think you should apologise to her when you next see her at playgroup.

PuppyMonkey · 18/09/2011 19:17

What, you left without nicking some sandwiches and cocktail sausages. Daft bat.

SarahStratton · 18/09/2011 19:21

Oh I don't know, OP went up and said hello and the host blanked her. So on the basis of that I'm going to say that YANBU for being pissed off at her lack of manners, but YABU for taking your DD home.

Childrens' parties are a minefield.

GetAwayFromHerYouBitch · 18/09/2011 19:29

Sarah - she didn't say she was blanked. She didn't answer the questions I asked to find out more. We' aren't mind readers

Bootcamp · 18/09/2011 19:32

Did you speak to host?

BatsUpMeNightie · 18/09/2011 19:34

Nah - OP doesn't say she was blanked. Sounds to me more like the Mother was too busy to immediately drop everything and let the OP feel the love. Ridiculous!

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