To be shocked at grandmother leaving a 13 month old in a pub on her own

[TheAlphaParent]

My mum and I took my 13 month old daughter to Wetherspoons for a meal (6pm). The bar is in a different room to the seating area. The pub was crowded. I went to the bar to order the food whilst mum sat with my daughter. Whilst I was at the bar mum came up to me and told me that she had found a bigger table. She had left my daughter on her own in a crowded pub to come and tell me that. I nearly had a heart attack and sent her back immediately. Needless to say I gave mum a good bollocking. Her response? "Sorry I'm not perfect".

AIBU to be shocked? How could a fellow mother be so negligent?

[Pagwatch]

[fanjobanjowanjo]

YANBU, I wouldn't be happy.

[diddl]

I find it really odd of your mother also tbh.

YANBU.

[anklebitersmum]

I subscribe to the 'If you wouldn't leave your handbag unsupervised there why on earth would you leave your child?' method of parenting.

YANBU in my opinion. Let's face the facts, it only takes 20 seconds to snatch a child.

If (God forbid) you, your Mom and your missing child had been making headlines this morning I bet there'd be a few changed opinions over her actions.

[GetAwayFromHerYouBitch]

I still think YABU

I am very very cool though. And have 24 children

[FellatioNelson]

It really depends on whether the 13 month old was strapped into a buggy or left unattended in a high chair or wandering around. Also depends on the distance/visibility/doors between the table and the bar.

However, you are both BU for going to a Wetherspoons. It's like a supermarket cafeteria only with alcoholics and wasters.

[LoveInAColdClimate]

YABU for "bollocking" your mother but not for prefering that your child wasn't left alone. I would imagine that the sight of a fairly elderly woman (presumably) being shouted at by her adult daughter was a fairly unedifying one even by Weatherspoons' standards.

[diddl]

TBH if OP thought that her mum was wrong & had put her daughter in danger-why shouldn´t she "bollock" her?

Why is being the GM an excuse to not look after the child properly?

[Pagwatch]

I would not bollock my mother
She is a kind loving woman. If I disagree with her I explain why with a decent level of common politeness. Much in the same way as I will expect my dd to address me when she is older.

I am not sure if not bollocking her because she is a grandmother is worse than thinking that bollocking your mother is reasonable.

I suspect I am odd but it would not occur to me to interact with people I love like this.

[diddl]

I think it has been established that the OP asked/told her mum to go back to her GD & not to leave her alone again.

Which I think that many of us would do-if we thought that the child should not have been left, of course.

I can´t see anything wrong with this tbh.

[GetAwayFromHerYouBitch]

diddl- I wouldn't do that because I don't think she committed such a crime. Unless you are the sort of person who takes your child out of the car when you buy some petrol - which I'm not

[TheAlphaParent]

"Her response to that was pretty childish though"

I'm glad someone said that. Her reply "Sorry I'm not perfect" suggests that refusing to leave a baby on its own in a crowded public place is perfectionism. Surely it's just common sense.

[heleninahandcart]

YANBU drunk people can do stupid things. Drunk people in Wetherspoons can do very stupid things.