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to think that most people that say 'I left school years ago' in an argument are generally the most bitchy ones anyway!

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elisadoeslittle · 13/09/2011 08:07

My friend says this. It really fucks me off. Because out of everyone I know, shes the most bitchy in an argument. Normally she'll have said something nasty, to which the person responds with something nasty, and she'll say 'Im not being funny, but I left school years ago' in order to look higher and mightier and above bitchy comments, despite just making one.

I cant believe my friend gets into enough arguments for me to have noticed a formula to it! Every time Ive heard this phrase its been in a bitchy context. I hate it!

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elisadoeslittle · 13/09/2011 10:10

Purplegirlie, youve hit the nail on the head. And we are both 31! I think it is just her arguing style.

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Hullygully · 13/09/2011 10:14

this is all so weird

SuePurblybilt · 13/09/2011 10:20

I have found that people who say 'I'm not being funny but...' speak the truth. They are never funny.

She sounds very irritating and smug.

knittynoodle · 13/09/2011 10:25

Ah its just one of those trump cards that idiots pull.

My opinion is just sooooo much more important than yours because I like, left school ages ago and so Im sooooo much more mature and know so much more about stuff than yooooooooou sneery smug face

Hullygully · 13/09/2011 10:33

And people who say "no offense, but"

I have instructed my dc never to say anything which requires those three words as a preface

ShirleyKnotFrotGrot · 13/09/2011 10:36

I also have never heard this turn of phrase, and find it intensely weird that someone in their thirties would still be banging on about Not Being In School. Yeah, well done love, not been there for 14 years yeah?

Anyway. No offense Hully, but you really are a massive cunt.

SuePurblybilt · 13/09/2011 10:36

'no offence but' is immediately followed by the most personal, offensive drivel they can muster.

My other big alarm ringer is 'as a parent'. Never followed by anything other than utter twattery.

RedRubyBlue · 13/09/2011 10:40

I always suppress a shudder when someone says being 'Can I be 'frank' with you'?

I had an ex boyfriend who always claimed 'I'm just a frank northern bloke' then come out with some vile insult.

Many a spiteful untruth has been uttered under the guise of 'frankness' and 'honesty'.

A1980 · 13/09/2011 10:41

My friend says this. It really fucks me off. Because out of everyone I know, shes the most bitchy in an argument. Normally she'll have said something nasty, to which the person responds with something nasty, and she'll say 'Im not being funny, but I left school years ago' in order to look higher and mightier and above bitchy comments, despite just making one.

You all sound as bad as each other. If you're arguing with each other like that then perhaps you ought not to be friends anymore. You all left school years ago did you not?

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ShirleyKnotFrotGrot · 13/09/2011 10:42

God yeah. My XFIL used to say shit like "I speak my mind..." and if you pulled him up on anything he'd say:

"If you don't like what I say, you can fuck off"

He thought that was a clever phrase. The stupid cock.

booyhoo · 13/09/2011 10:47

i think in the scenario you describe you are right. your friend started the nastiness and then tried to make out she was aove all that but i have been bitched at before and responded that i am long past playground bitching, and i know i wasn't being bitchy. just making the point that what the person was doing was very immature.

SuePurblybilt · 13/09/2011 10:50

YY 'I speak as I find'. Wankers.

Those people who look all smug and say ' I say it as I see it' are always, always both arrogant and dim, but in a sinister way.

ShirleyKnotFrotGrot · 13/09/2011 10:51

"I say what I like, and I like what I bloody well say"

RedRubyBlue · 13/09/2011 10:56

Shirley

[whispers]

Are you my mother?

Filibear · 13/09/2011 11:00

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LeBOF · 13/09/2011 11:00

I've made the point before on here, but I find it sexist as well- people rarely talk about men arguing as playground bullies etc. They can just be angry.

ShirleyKnotFrotGrot · 13/09/2011 11:05

Ha! You can respond to me as much as you like!

It's true LeBof. Men are equally as "bitchy" as women (you should hear the blokes I work with slagging each other off) but all the words used to talk about gossiping are feminine and men are never accused of being childish.

Grrr. Hate when I get another look at the BLATANT FUCKING SEXISM EVERYWHERE.

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Hullygully · 13/09/2011 11:15

Yeah, but see I left the playground years ago, Shirl

Hullygully · 13/09/2011 11:16

Boffy - I used to think that but then I had a dd and a ds and was alarmed to see the stereotypes (re playground) spring into techniclour life before my very eyes

Hullygully · 13/09/2011 11:17

Men are never accused of being childish?

Wot men are these?

LeBOF · 13/09/2011 11:19

They don't tend to refer to each other as childish, I don't think (perhaps women do though), they just call each others wankers etc.

kat2504 · 13/09/2011 11:21

Anyone who says "I'm not being funny, but...." is BVVVU

I hear this around me all the time and it is never followed by a moment of comic genius. It is incredibly irritating, and I have to bite my tongue to stop myself saying "you're right, that wasn't funny"

Hullygully · 13/09/2011 11:26

I haven't heard a woman call another woman "childish" I don't think. Tends to be women calling men "childish" mainly, round my way.

RedRubyBlue · 13/09/2011 11:28

I would quite like to go back to the playground. At 10.45 a bell would go and we would all run out of the office to play.

I would suggest a game of kiss chase and snog John on the design team because he is sex on a stick lovely.

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