to NOT pay HER parking ticket?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

Today, dp, my mums, our dcs and my moh went to a wedding fayre.

I went in the car with moh as squishing between to carseats isn't much fun.

We had some trouble finding parking, I'd already offered to pay parking as she was coming for me iyswim (didn't offer fuel as it was 5min drive, I'd have walked it she offered to drive)

Anyway long story short we couldn't find a space. Dp found some in a 30min only area. I asked friend if she wanted to park elsewhere she said no were fine, its a small fayre and we were going for a specific stand. Stupidly we were 5mins late to cars and got ticketed.
£30 fine each.

So we leave all fine. She then joins us in our car for another fayre this afternoon as my mum couldn't come. Spent 5hrs together. No more said about the ticket, we drop her home and 5mins later she texts me.

"What are you doing about this ticket, I haven't got £30"

I'm not even going to enter into her idea of skint as there's already a thread on the same basis, but I'm sure the two pairs of uggs she ordered yesterday and the £100 trainers today weren't necessary.

Anyway AIBU to ignore the message and if she asks me face to face refuse to pay it.

[Pavlovthecat]

actually, if less than 5 mins late you should dispute it, as you are allowed up to 15 mins. Def allowed 5 mins. Then no-one has to pay it.

My DH arrived at the car as the ticket was being written once, and the man said he could not stop writing but to write in. DH had been changing a pooy bottom. He wrote in it was wavered.

Another time, we parked on double yellow lines in a quiet residential area for a big local event, told by police officer we could park there they were ignoring. They ignored most, but the small stretch we were on were ticketed. My DH appealed this and won too, despite us being on double yellow lines.

And if you appeal it, and it is not accepted, you can then still pay the original fee not the doubled charge. which gives you time to get it together.

[Pavlovthecat]

**I should add he had not been changing his pooy bottom!!! He was dealing with DS' nappy, not his own!

[youarekidding]

TBH I'd appeal it. 5 minutes is usually allowed - there can be genuine reasons people are late. And too many ticket happy private companies out there.

Oh and I was told by a private ticket company about the 5 minute rule - when I was given a ticket an hour and 1 minute after being in a space.
(it was 2 hour parking and the ticket man made a mistake but that's another story).

And TBH I don't think op should pay. If I was the driver I would have left and offered to drive back to the venue to collect or said walk home. Everybody in the group were adults, and by the sounds of it possibly knew they were late back (in which case an appeal may not be morally correct!), and the MOH made a concious decision to risk it with the others.

[slavetofilofax]

If it really was unavoidable and under 5 minutes late, I would query it with the company. My step Dad had become almost expert at getting out of paying this type of parking fine, so I would complain. There should be a record of the time the ticket was issued so you have something to go on.

But, if there was no reason for you being late and it was just one of those things, I definately think you should be paying at least half. It's not fair to make her pay it all if the blame was equal.

[youarekidding]

X posts with pavlov.

[Shakirasma]

When my SIL and I got caught out for parking outside the white line when we went to a concert together, I immediately offered to pay half.

It just seemed the decent thing to do and was a very fair compromise.

[TattyDevine]

Was it on private land?

5 minutes late or less?

Don't pay. Its not a fine, its an invoice.

More info here

Neither of you should pay.

[chirpchirp]

If I had parked somewhere and got a ticket on MY car I wouldn't dream of asking the passenger to stump up for a penny towards a ticket. My car, my responsibility, my choice to park there and therefore my fine to pay.

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

Its hard to describe the area we parked really there's an 'open' carpark in an area of town and on the edge of it a loading bays, enough room for atleast 15 cars, sundays 1-6pm park for 30mins no return in two hours. If that makes any sense. Every car parked there was ticketed as the pcso said no one could prove they'd been there less than 30mins.

Think we might appeal if we actually can as it was a pcso not a company

[banana87]

She was driving, it was her car, she chose to park where she did. Therefore she is responsible. As a gesture of goodwill I would offer to pay half, but no more.

[fit2drop]

Its not up to drivers to prove thay haven't been tere for thirty minutes
Its up to pcso to proove you were ther for longer.

Reality is its her responsibility but morally you should pay , Is it really worth stressing and scuppering a friendship (and a MOH) for the sake of 30 quid.

Personally I woud question the legality of such a ticket especially with that attitude from a pcso, Incidently , when did the pcso say that to you?

[fit2drop]

tere = there

[Kladdkaka]

Strictly speaking, it's her car, she parked it, it's her fine, so she should pay it.

But life is never that easy. She obviously expects you to pay it, regardless of whether that is right or not. So you have to decide what is more important to you keeping your £30 or keeping you friend happy. You could try the compromise pay half method and see if that keeps her happy.

[fedupofnamechanging]

I wouldn't pay it. Regardless of why she was there, it's her car, she was driving and she chose to park there, despite your reservations. I would tell her that I already had one to pay myself. Being a friend doesn't mean letting someone take the piss.

[OvO]

I think it was really rude of her to ask you to pay in the way she did.

From the sounds of it she had half the afternoon to talk to you about it but she waited until you'd gone your separate ways then immediately texts you. How cheeky! She must have felt it was a bit off to ask you to pay or she'd have asked you face to face.

I'd offer half the money but certainly not pay it all.

[grumplestilskin]

my bridesmaid got a parking ticket when we were doing wedding stuff, I instantly offered to pay (she didn't argue)

[OvO]

Really what I want is for you to go round and staple the fine to her forehead telling her you're doing that so she doesn't forget to pay.

But for the sake of your friendship listen to Dandy.

I am finding myself unreasonably cross about this.

[takethisonehereforastart]

Could she have meant "what are you doing about this ticket" as in "what are you doing about this ticket on your car" and not actually be expecting you to pay the one on hers?

More in a "what are you going to do because I have no idea what to do about mine, I haven't got £30, but I'll copy what you are doing about yours."

[OvO]

Well you've taken the wind right out of my sails, takethisone. You and your reasonableness. It totally could have been meant like that.

[takethisonehereforastart]

Sorry Ovo.

You can staple the man who rang me at 6pm and disturbed my only moment of peace and quiet today, all to ask me what brand of TV we have because he's conducting an important survey to find out which is the most popular.

My cup of tea was lukewarm by the time I'd finished telling him to sod off. He deserves a staple.

[OvO]

I'll staple his willy to his leg. That'll teach him!

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

We got back to our car (mine and dps) which was 5 cars from friends, our ticket was being written as we arrived, I quietly told friend to go quickly before she got one it was however to late, I turned to dp and said, "how late are we, we left in time I thought" pcso replies "don't try any stories with me, no one here can prove they haven't been sat here all morning" I just strapped dcs in and we left.

My friends done thins kind of thing before though, we went out once and were all about to walk home, she didn't want to so said she would get a taxi did we want to come in. Me and dp said no as we didn't want to waste money on it, were fine to walk, she insisted she was getting a taxi. Next day we get a text "when are we sorting money for the taxi?" I've handed money over so many times and I've had about enough tbh!I don't want to fall out over it but I asked more than once if we should park elsewhere.

[diddl]

All else aside, if the place was so close, why did anyone drive?

I can´t help thinking "her car her responsibility", but since it was all for you, I´d offer something.

Or appeal it.