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AIBU?

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more of an "am I being pfb"

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RobynLou · 08/09/2011 23:25

DD1 just started reception. She only turned 4 a couple of weeks ago and has never done more than 9.30-12.30 at pre school.

she's pt throughout september, afternoons this week and next, then mornings, then mornings plus lunch then should be going ft.

but I want her to stay on just mornings until after xmas. the school aren't keen on that and the other mums would rather their children were ft straight away.

am I being pfb to worry about her getting over tired? I'm on mat leave with DD2 so there's no rush for her to be going for childcare reasons.

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millyrainbow · 09/09/2011 00:04

You know your daughter best, but make sure what ever you decide is for her and not for you.

Just to clarify: "In England you are required by law to make sure your child begins education from the beginning of school term after he or she turns 5 years old. However, children normally start Reception class in a state school from the September after their 4th birthday."

The government is encouraging all children to start school in the September they turn 5 and there is evidence that children can fall behind if they start school later, then some 'expert' is publishing findings about something everyday! In the end it is your choice and the school has to respect that.

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RobynLou · 09/09/2011 00:05

cross posts with mowlem I didn't realise that. good to know!

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RobynLou · 09/09/2011 00:09

I think we'll give ft a go before we decide.

thanks for the info about how to talk to teachers! another one of those mystical things you're just expected to know without being told!

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Bubbaluv · 09/09/2011 00:11

She'll be fine. Lots of kids go to nursery all day from a much, much younger age.
She'll adjust in a week or two and be fine. Just make sure she gets to bed early.

GraceK · 09/09/2011 00:15

A friend of our's who's DS's birthday is in the last week of August started Reception with the rest of his class & then was really unhappy / tired / emotionally all over the place by Christmas. Following discussions with his teacher, he did the rest of the year doing just mornings and ended up loving school again. The teacher said he wouldn't be missing out as they tended to do most of the actually 'school learning' (letters, numbers, etc.) in the mornings when everyone was fresh. Then did sport, role play & free play stuff in the afternoons so he wouldn't be missing out.

He's now in Year 2 and doing as well as the other Summer babies in his year. Better to go part-time now if she finds she's not coping with full-time after a few weeks rather than put her school altogether. Good luck to her & you.

thisisyesterday · 09/09/2011 11:42

ahhh worral... if you can find anything that states that that is the case then I will agree

but you won't find it because you are wrong!

thisisyesterday · 09/09/2011 11:43

oh look mowlem has already stated the same as me....

so come on worra... let's see your proof that parents cannot send a child part time if they want to

MmeLindor. · 09/09/2011 11:45

The first week or so is hard, but they do adjust quickly. I think that it would be harder on her to be the only one pt if the others are ft.

She is still your little girl, and you will still have time for cuddles.

halcyondays · 09/09/2011 12:41

She's only just started, a lot of kids are tired when they start, even when they are just doing mornings. School is a big change from nursery, more structured, but they soon get used to it. You are probably worrying about nothing. I wondered how my dd would cope when she started going from 9-2, which is full time here for the first few years, but she was no more tired than when she just did mornings. Yes, she's very tired by the end of the week but she loves school and she'd have been seriously unimpressed if she'd been going home early. She was one of the youngest and has Aspergers.

I don't know why you would want to keep her part time unless it turns out that she really can't cope with it. If she enjoys school, she would probably not want to leave early, when her friends are staying on.

Alikersh · 09/09/2011 13:04

My DD's a September baby - the oldest in her year in fact but that made bugger all difference when she started reception last year, she went through an awful phase of after school tiredness and was found asleep on the toy bed in the home corner/comfy cushions in the reading corner more than once... she got over it fairly quickly though. I'd let her stay all day if you can, settling in quicker can only benefit her (and you!).

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