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AIBU?

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Right, quick, AIBU?

69 replies

Changing2011 · 07/09/2011 19:30

Ok, DP has just come home. He has been out at the gym for three hours. Half an hour ago he called to say he was at tesco. Did I want Anything? Yeah, I will have some milk please.

So, he comes back, we are playing nicely in dd's room. His tea is in the microwave. He comes up with a lovely bunch of roses. I'm well pleased. Then he produces a coat for dd. It was reduced in tesco.

He has a problem with dd's clothes. He is always buying more, and more and more. The child has four coats. Four. One cost forty pounds from debenhams and fits perfectly. Apparently it's "filthy dirty". I am cross, we have had a horrible row. I think he is wasting money, and accusing me of sending dd out in a filthy coat. Nice way to repay me for his evening off pleasing his bastard self. I am so upset. 4 months pregnant so could it be i am unreasonable? He says I moan all the time and nothing he does is right. AIBU?

OP posts:
KittyFane · 07/09/2011 20:49

Sorry, not good to watch this paricular 'spoilt brat' location and reply on this...

KittyFane · 07/09/2011 20:50

Particular

Proudnscary · 07/09/2011 20:51

A girl can never have enough coats, OP.

Original poster
Changing2011 · 07/09/2011 20:53

I know iabu kitty, run along now there's a love. I have calmed down now and am having a good old laugh at my strop. If you want to push the point home, why don't you round and wash his gym kit for me, he might buy you a baked confection or an item of Florence and Fred apparel, for which you must be eternally grateful.

He bought himself an iPad and a pair of toms last week btw.

OP posts:
KittyFane · 07/09/2011 20:56

run along now there's a love. ?!
You reslly dont like being told YABU on AIBU do you?!
Glad you realise you are a bit of a brat (oh how we all laughed).

KittyFane · 07/09/2011 20:57

Really

Original poster
Changing2011 · 07/09/2011 20:58

I know I am totally unreasonable. Rest assured.

Not as unreasonable as 400k inheritance man, what a crappy house!

OP posts:
cantspel · 07/09/2011 20:58

Wait until the winter really sets in and it doesn't stop raining for a week and then you will be pleased you have extra spare coats and dont have to keep trying to get them dry

KittyFane · 07/09/2011 20:59

True :o

Ps it takes one (me) to know one BTW

SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 08/09/2011 00:10

YANBU OP. Leave the label on the coat and return it. Family finances are shared in my view and if both parties don't agree then things don't get bought.
Fuck the roses - if he wanted to do something really nice he could have washed the 'filthy' coat that YOU have been letting your dd go out in (notice that he takes no responsibility for this whatsoever as if the washing and dressing of his and your children is entirely your responsibility.
I can't believe YOU apologised and HE was a twat about it! I'm actually quite angry on your behalf!

aldiwhore · 08/09/2011 00:27

I buy things for the boys (DH included) sometimes that aren't needed and we can't really afford.... sometimes I am right to do so because its NICE to do it. Sometimes I'm wrong. DH is the same.

Unfortunately my DH isn't logical. I bought a film for £4 the other day that we already own on Bluray, but our PS3 died a year ago so we can't watch it. DH went in a strop because I'd spent money on something we already own (fair enough) and I ended up feeling thoroughly told off.

The next day he came home with a PS3.

WTF?

Anyhoo, we didn't row, not worth it, I got to watch my film AND can now play the games I've missed, plus my raised eyebrow said it all.

But this thread isn't about me, so OP, YABU and YANBU... but I'm not sure its a battle worth picking. Not unless you really can't afford it. Don't fight about it, get even. Chuck away his gym kit as its 'filthy dirty'.

scottishmummy · 08/09/2011 00:38

you sound a bit het up and agitated.lose the potty mouth and bad attitude.
do you speak in front of a child with that gob?

jasper · 08/09/2011 00:43

YANBU
four coats is ridiculous. I hate waste , and always have , whether I have been poor or even poorer

scottishmummy · 08/09/2011 00:45

so on basis of 4 coats she effs and blinds like fishwfe
hey but 4 coats...well thats ok then

mamandeouisti · 08/09/2011 00:59

My oh-so-grateful words on being presented with flowers on one occasion some years ago were "If I wanted f'ing flowers I'd have bought them my f'ing self"...which, surprisingly, I did for quite some time after, until I was able to receive them with better graceGrin.

My impulse-buys are always a good idea and his are usually ruinous (of course)...but that goes without saying.

Glad you have worked it out and hope that smelly gym feet and ever-so-slightly hormonal enjoy seeing dd in her new coat tomorrow Wink.

SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 08/09/2011 01:00

Not on the basis of 4 coats but on the basis of 'I needed to get dd another coat because YOU'VE been letting her go out in that filthy one' I think he was lucky to get away with effing and jeffing. I'd have been sticking the coat where the sun don't shine (hanger and all).

RCToday · 08/09/2011 01:02

have I missed how the 400k comes into it?

4 coats isnt over the top to me, then maybe mine just get very mucky Grin

tallwivglasses · 08/09/2011 02:19

I don't think the coat issue would have been so huge if the dp hadn't been out for 3 hours at the gym!

OP's pregnant. Let's cut her some slack and be nice, eh? Grin

minimisschief · 08/09/2011 10:45

changing2011 she means you pushed him into making the stupid dirty coat excuse because you grilled him on the purchase. Basically he had to think of away to justify the purchase.

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