Right, quick, AIBU?

[Changing2011]

Ok, DP has just come home. He has been out at the gym for three hours. Half an hour ago he called to say he was at tesco. Did I want Anything? Yeah, I will have some milk please.

So, he comes back, we are playing nicely in dd's room. His tea is in the microwave. He comes up with a lovely bunch of roses. I'm well pleased. Then he produces a coat for dd. It was reduced in tesco.

He has a problem with dd's clothes. He is always buying more, and more and more. The child has four coats. Four. One cost forty pounds from debenhams and fits perfectly. Apparently it's "filthy dirty". I am cross, we have had a horrible row. I think he is wasting money, and accusing me of sending dd out in a filthy coat. Nice way to repay me for his evening off pleasing his bastard self. I am so upset. 4 months pregnant so could it be i am unreasonable? He says I moan all the time and nothing he does is right. AIBU?

Can't say I blame him but give him some space and he will come round.

I'd rather he bought things we actually need though. Fuck it. I think we are both a bit unreasonable and he has just been a total twat when I apologised so that's an end to it. She can go to school in the new coat, and I will say no more about it.

Awww...he sounds like a sweetheart. Go tell him you're sorry and make up.

Oops - too late, you already did and it didn't work. Oh well, MN your night away then, and everything'll be fine tomorrow.

glad you apologized, hopefully he will cheer up and have a lovely evening with you now :).
I dont see the problems with him buying a coat if you can afford it. If you need other things why not just say "lets buy xyz on saturday".

what would the answer be if someone posted on here she had got her child a coat and OH had ripped her off a strip

it would be
leave the bastard
he's controlling
he's abusive
ad nauseum

same thing

He sounds nice and you do sound like you've picked up on the one thing he might have got a bit wrong. So what if she has coats..

Picture the scene, he goes to tesco, thinks oh DW will like those flowers, DD would like that coat .. What does DW want me to bring back with me... He arrives home feeling pleased wiyh himself and D
DW has a go :(

YABU - sorry :(

It's not the same situation, fredbare, because the person who tore the other person off a strip, ie the OP, is questioning her own reaction.

Asshat.

Buzz- and men who fly off the handle never question their own reactions?

LOL... my DP wouldn't even know what size coat to buy.

He thinks the clothes fairy buys all Dd2 and 3's clothing.

Perhaps I am a controlling abuser then. Oh dear I will try to care while I hate kirstie alsopp through a face full of jam tarts.

Nah I know where you're coming from OP.

Buying something that's not needed and will soon be outgrown anyway is a waste of money, even if it won't put you in the poorhouse. The flowers were a nice touch but still

Greeneyes, I was miffed he had spent a fiver on flowers when my favourite gladioli ar two quid at the mo! Oh dear, I'm obviously very hormonal and out of order. I didn't say this to him about the flowers btw.

This pregnancy has made me very thrifty, I can be found cutting up old pillow cases as muslin cloths and making lots of vile soup concoctions with old veg at the moment

Oh my, wrong flowers too :(

you're right about kirstie alsop though

I have nothing useful to add but I really, really want a jam tart...

So progress... He made me a brew and I have overlooked his stinky gym feet on the pouffe. It must be love again

Your turn to try and treat him tomorrow hope he doesn't throw it back in your face

My DH would buy me flowers after a row.
Always chrysanthemums (sp?) we couldn't afford & which I dislike intensely.

Wound me up no end, but I had to keep quiet cos I knew he meant well.

Tried to do the subtle hints of 'Oh look at those lovely bunches of daffs/ roses/ etc' - it never worked. Feel your pain.

Oh, I guess I haven't treated him well enough kitty, lovely tea cooked, kitchen clean, dd clean and ready for bed, uniform and packed lunch ready for tomorrow, all housework done...I could go on. Oh yeah, and I was at work at 6am this morning and will be tomorrow and every day after that until I have dc2.

He is not perfect. My roses are lovely though. We are going to have a cuddle in a bit after kirstie has fucked off.

Changing, I think I love you.

This is my kind of AIBU

Go give him a hug.

I am insanely irritated by these two couples on Location atm

Mr 400k inheritance is being railroaded into that house by his below average girlfriend. Bitch. I thought I had cornered the Market in controlling.

she is not a patch on you, Changing.

Bet she would accept roses.

So why did you ask if YABU if you thought your response was ok?
I'm talking about your response - huffing about another coat and wrong flowers.
Did he criticise your lovely tea and moan about your hard work in the house?