To wonder where all the good men have gone/are hiding?

[MilkandWine]

I've been reading so many threads on Mumsnet recently where women who sound so lovely and kind are getting headfucked around by game playing men.

Then I look at my own life where the guy I am interested in has turned out to be a total tosser (went on holiday claiming he 'Couldn't wait to see me when he got back', he's been back since Sunday and I still haven't heard from him). Best of all it was his birthday while he was away so I sent him a very neutral 'Happy birthday' post on FB. He then went and 'liked' ALL the other birthday messages people sent him except me! wtf?

Then I take a look at my friends relationships and not one of them is in a relationship where the man isn't a game player/emotionally distant/manipulative/just a downright git. I'm honestly not imagining it either, I seem to spend half of my life furious at the actions of the useless boyfriend of one of them or another.

I don't want this to be a 'I hate men post' because I honestly don't. I adore male company and my sensible head tells me there HAS to be some decent men around somewhere. I just don't seem to be coming across many in the past few years. Where are they all?

Funnily enough, my DH doesn't fall into any of the stereotypes of what 'nice men' are like - when we met he was a bit of a 'lad', liked going out drinking every weekend, had bonked his way through life whenever the chance arose, and wasn't the slightest bit backwards in coming forward to chat me up, very cockily at that. But I really fancied him and thought it would be fun while it lasted....

13/14 years on, he's a lovely doting husband and dad and is the most romantic and thoughtful man I've ever met - by a mile.

Badtasteflump, it could be that:
1-they hide it
2-I over look it
3-2 years of living with me turns a saint into a psycho

or any combination of the above ;)

Exactly badtaste. There's nothing wrong with all that being a lad stuff. It's genuine and uncomplicated. I wouldn't associate that type of behaviour negatively at all. A bastard is someone who is controlling, uncommunicative and never listens. Boorish behaviour is nothing to do with it.

< waves >

"Where have all the good men gone,
and where are all the Gods?
Where's the streetwise Hercules,
to fight the rising odds?
Isn't there a white knight upon a fiery steed?
Late at night I toss and I turn and I dream of what I need!.............."

"I NEED A HERO!"

Couldn't help myself - sorry

The good men are too busy to date. They are doing their own washing and tidying up after themselves.

< wanders off >