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...in wanting my teenager to get out of bed?

88 replies

woollyideas · 04/09/2011 12:51

It's nearly one o'clock... I've tried cajoling, encouraging, complaining, threatening, begging, reasoning, nagging, etc., but she's still lying there in a stupor. She has to be go back to school the day after tomorrow and I'm expecting her to be able to spring out of bed at 7 o'clock from then on! What are the chances?

[Frustrated]

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LadyBeagleEyes · 04/09/2011 14:38

Mine's been back at school for 2 weeks now and is back to his routine of 6.30 am in the mornig and about 11pm at night.
I just leave him in the holidays/weekends and let him sleep, he tends to be up half the night anyway.

diddl · 04/09/2011 14:40

"I hate hate hate people lying in their "pit" late. I genuinely find it disgusting"

Why?

If they´re still sleeping, surely they need it?

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 14:41

I dont know. I consider it slovenly.Especially on a glorious day.

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 14:47

DD2 often used to get up a 3 in the afternoon and was worse when she started uni. She was fine when she had morning lectures. She's now going in to her Final year at uni and has a job. So she's now up at 7 when she's working and when she was home for a few days this week she was up by 10.30.

diddl · 04/09/2011 14:47

Well, if they are laying about for the sake of it, I agree-but if they need the sleep-they are missing the day-it doesn´t affect anyone else, does it?

Also, if you force them up-won´t they just lay about on the sofa or just stay in their room?

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 14:48

I was like this when I was a youngster too. Disgusted when my brothers lay in bed all day.

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 14:50

Its just laying about, and messing with their internal clock IMO. If an entire household is getting about their day, its a bit rude to have one person "holed up" in their darkened room IMO. I really think unless they have been working late, its just plain slovenly. I understand not all agree and thats fair enough :)

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 14:51

I forgot to say none of us are early risers on our days off unless we are going anywhere. I wouldn't make a teenager or anyone get up by 9. DH and I both like a lie in on our days off and that means until at least 10.

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 14:52

We are a household of early risers and never lie in. Maybe that make a difference.

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 14:53

Claw it doesn't wear off at 18 I found that was when DD2 got worse and so dud my nephew.

diddl · 04/09/2011 14:53

Well unless there are plans for everyone to go out together I can´t see that it matters.

We all eat lunch together so I expect everyone up for that, but other than that I really couldn´t care.

I don´t see why someone else has to be up & about just because I am.

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 14:55

Well I guess because everyone else is contributing to the household during the day- cleaning, household tasks, mowing, or whatever- it is a problem for me. If we were all sitting on our arses all day, I suppose it wouldnt make a difference.

LatteLady · 04/09/2011 14:57

My mother used to use a wet face flannel and the noise of a hoover to get my brother up... seemed to work rather well!

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 15:01

I do expect my teens well only have one now. To help with household chores . But I don't clean every day and we tend only to wash up at the end of the day unless there is a lot at lunch time. So I don't mind when something is done as long as it's done sometime during the day. So I wouldn't expect a teen or for that matter anyone else to get up by 9 so that they can help with household chores.

MrsTittleMouse · 04/09/2011 15:01

There is good scientific evidence that teenagers body clocks are genuinely different and that they can't help (much) staying up late and then lying in.

www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/articles/emotions/teenagers/sleep.shtml

If it's laziness that is the issue, then couldn't the teenager do chores like grass-cutting later in the day?

diddl · 04/09/2011 15:04

We don´t have enough chores for everyone to need to be "up and at ´em" at the weekend!

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 15:08

We do. We have loads :)

TidyDancer · 04/09/2011 15:09

If I had the choice, I probably wouldn't get up either! When the DCs are with the GPs. DP and I will routinely not get out of bed until the PM!

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 15:13

Hoovercraft do you really have loads of chores? Or do you just like doing things everyday?

LadyBeagleEyes · 04/09/2011 15:13

So glad I don't live in hoovercraft's house.
It sounds way to bouncy and exausting Grin
Goes back to MN while thinking about putting a washing on. And hoovering.
I have walked the dog though.

hoovercraft · 04/09/2011 15:14

mummeee how can you get away with only washing up in the evening?

strictlovingmum · 04/09/2011 15:20

No worries, she is probably going trough major growth spur, they do need their sleep at that time, she will be her normal self once it's over, and probably will grow a foot in processSmile
We had same with DS last year, he slept and slept, I too was concerned, and had a chat with a friend who is GP, she assured me it's perfectly normal and growth related, DS at the time also complained of pain in legs and elbows, and looked tiredSmile good luck.

diddl · 04/09/2011 15:28

For us the only "chores" at the weekend are cooking & washing up.

We usually only wash up once a day.

Oh, gardening/lawnmowing when required is often done at the weekend.

mumeeee · 04/09/2011 15:30

Hovercraft we do wash up after lunch if there is a lot to do, But usually only DH and I have breakfast so there's only 2 bowls and 2 cups from that. We only have one DD at home now and if DH and I are working there are only her lunch things. She is expected to put her stuff in the sink.If she's had a cooked lunch then yes we do ask her to wash up but she often just has a sandwich. The same thing applies when DD2 is home.

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