YABU.
I have a friend like you. She put her "D"H first all the time, did everything for him the ungrateful bastard and wore herself out. Then she had their child (her 3rd, his 1st) and the baby was a poor feeder and a poor sleeper. Friend = frazzled trying to keep "her man" the way she used to AND look after a new slightly difficult baby AND keep on top of the other 2 DC and everything else. So, when the new baby was nearly 4mo, what does this "man" do? Tells he he can't cope with her attitude and mood any more, throws his toys out the pram and walks out on her.
Charming. She was broken - loves him so much. A few days later, he comes back with a list of demands - she has to change, she can't ask him to do anything, she can't ask him where he's going or stop him from doing anything he wants to.
Around a month later, he decides she isn't living up to her end (still problems with new baby and nothing else has changed) so he fucks off again.
This time she is less broken. But she goes to the doc, gets ADs to help with her own feelings and gets stronger. So when he decides to come crawling back (he did) she said "whatever". And she no longer does as much for him, she and her DC come first. He is now at the bottom of the priority list and his choice is "put up with it or fuck off".
Just telling you this so you can see what kind of ungrateful shit some men can turn into when you give them that "sense of entitlement".