...to think that a 2.5 yo who still has a dummy / teddy.....

[southmum]

.......is a non-issue?

DS goes to nursery and seems to be the only one who takes a teddy in with him. He still has little naps in the day and asks for his dummy / teddy bear, apart from naps, bedtime and when hes upset about something he doesnt bother with them at all, at nursery or at home.

I dont want to make a big deal about it because a) IMO it isnt one, and b) we have another DS due in September and to me that is going to be a big change so dont want DS1 to feel we are 'punishing' him by taking away his comfort things just before this massive change happens for him.

DP thinks we need to just stop him taking his dummy and teddy into nursery, hes embarassed by it all I think but I think hes bloody 2.5, leave him the sod alone!

Well I risk being judged but ds is FOUR and has a taggie, a fluffy (blanket things) AND a dummy in bed, and will do for the foreseeable future. Imo he's fine, I sucked my thumb for 17yrs and have perfect teeth, and I wasn't limited to bedtime like he is.

undecided about the dummy, but I know adults who still have a teddy! Tell dp ds will "man up" when he's a man- in the mean time let him be the cute little baby with his teddy while he is still a cute little baby. Why are people always so adamnt babies need to "grow up" :(

Both of my DC have special teddies - they are 2.5 and 3.5. DD who is the youngeest also has a dummy and I would like her not to have it but trying to do potty training and getting her into a big bed so figure the dummy could be useful for helping me out with all of that. Dont get rid of Dummy if you are having another baby as children do use them as comfort.
The little boy next door is starting school in a week and earlier on this year prior to the summer the school organised a Teddy Bear Picnic where all the new ones who would be joining in Sept met in the park and took their favourite teddy for a picnic. So YANBU and if a school is encouraging it in children who are 4 -5 then I dont think your DP should have a problem with your DS doing it when he is only 2.5!

agree it's a non-issue. Really bugs me when people are judgy about this type of thing.

My 7yo DD recently lost her special comforter. She carried it around with her pretty constantly for about 5 years. Genuinely, it's been like a bereavement for her. We even had to get out "Badgers Parting Gift".

DD was never into Teddies. But her mimi (dummy) she took to nursery to sleep with till she was just over 3 years old. It hasn't affected her speech, unless of course it is responsible for the verbal diarrhoea she has almost constantly.

I might show this thread to DP so he can see he's being daft. My instincts tell me nows not the time to start trying to get him to give his dummy up because as I say we have another DS arriving very soon and potty training. As for the teddy, well after reading this thread I definitely now think that he cant be the only kid with one and DP is either making it up or he has just never seen it so he can go and eat worms

I am definitely going to use one of the methods mentioned here, dummy fairy, swapping it for a gift etc, will hang on until he sees something he really really wants and use that as an opportunity.

YANBU regarding the Teddy. The dummy YABU. IMO it is perfectly age appropriate to be carrying around a favorite stuffed toy at 2.5. They don't need a stuffed toy AND a dummy in their mouth. If it was me, I would send him with Teddy but not dummy. Keep dummy for bed time only.

my ds put his dummy in his christmas stocking for Fr Christmas to swap with an extra pressie